Female reaction to finding out your Husband or BF ..has been with a man

[OregonCoast]

Just want to ask what the reaction would be for you women out there that have husbands BF ..that are str8 .....What would be your reaction to finding out they have either allowed a guy to suck them or they have sucked a cock.

Also what do you think of guys that do have sex with married men with the wife unaware it.

 

[yossi]

Just want to ask what the reaction would be for you women out there that have husbands BF ..that are str8 .....What would be your reaction to finding out they have either allowed a guy to suck them or they have sucked a cock.

Also what do you think of guys that do have sex with married men with the wife unaware it.

This would depend upon the circumstances. If I found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me with a man, I would be upset - as upset as I would be if I found out he was cheating on me with a woman. If you mean before we were together, then, no, of course not. I don't know that I'd have a reaction, per se. His sex life is what it is.

I think that it is very irresponsible of the married man, re married men having sex with men without their wives knowing. You shouldn't have sex behind your partner's back, what with the risk of STDs, apart from the obvious trust issues that would develop.

 

[problem_solved]

Well as a man, I guess I can't answer your question but I can tell you how I felt when an ex of mine cheated on me with a woman. I hope you don't mind a little extra input from the other side.
This may sound cliche, but I was angry and turned on at the same time. Ultimately though I was just angry, felt betrayed and it further destroyed my trust in her.

...I guess it didn't help that she also cheated on me with men. Maybe if she had only cheated on me with women the "turned on" side would have had more power.

 

[Domesticity]

Honestly, I'd be upset if I found out my husband had been with a man in the past but mostly because we don't have sex often and he rarely initiates. I'd start to wonder if I was stuck in a marriage with a man who was really gay and just with me to do the "right" thing (which is worse with just being with someone who doesn't want to have sex because I'd hate knowing he DOES have a sex drive--just that I don't do it for him).

Some of my favorite images and pornography is gay porn but I like it when both men are very masculine and it's mostly because I'm not really turned on by women, LOVE the way cock looks, so it's like perfect cock overload. Watching two very masculine men make out is nice, too, because the softness and intimacy contrasted with the alpha nature is so exciting.

I'm not interested in sharing my partner with anyone, though--men or women--so I wouldn't ever want to see my partner with someone of the same sex.

I think it's fucking disgustingly selfish to put your partner at risk by cheating--men or women. I think the men sleeping with other men on the down low are weak and chicken shit selfish pricks. I don't think anything other way of the men who sleep with the married men.

 

[BiMommy77]

As long as it wasn't while we were married!! If it were before and part of his past....sexy as hell!!! I'd love to watch him suck and be sucked with some sexy man!!

 

[preacher72]

I had an ex I revealed to her I had been with a man before her. I always kept that a secret and was nervous how she'd react but eventually it came up in conversation one day. When she found out she was shocked but curious how it happened. I told her the story and it got her so turned on than she really wanted me to do it while she watched.

 

[southern_gal]

A bf - as in an ongoing emotional relationship - or a man / man sexual encounter. Big difference. I would be crushed if he were to ever have a real emotional connection with someone other than me, man or woman but if it was purely sexual, AND safe, I would be ok. After all he has given me his approval to be with another woman in the same manner. Once emotions get involved however it could get messy.

 

[Woolmohair]

I had an ex I revealed to her I had been with a man before her. I always kept that a secret and was nervous how she'd react but eventually it came up in conversation one day. When she found out she was shocked but curious how it happened. I told her the story and it got her so turned on than she really wanted me to do it while she watched.

Did you? If so, how'd it go?

 

[policywank]

I'd be angry if he was cheating on me. But if he was telling me about an experience before our marriage or one that he wanted to pursue after discussing with me it would be quite different. I would be quite flattered that he trusted me enough to share this desire/fact and think more highly of him for his openness.

Our relationship does not involve him seeking sex with others…….but I would look forward to bringing another man to our bed for the both of us.

 

[Disabledbutsexy]

Gay

1. U R not straight if you've been with a man. You are Bi or Gay.
2. If I was a woman I'd be worried that he might be bringing home more then dinner.

 

[sterculius]

I've been with my wife for more than 30 years but it was only recently that I confessed to her that as a teenager I used to love giving blowjobs practically every day to my best friend Larry and that I continued doing so through most of the time we were in high school until we graduated and he moved away to California to attend college. Naturally she was quite surprised to learn that her macho husband had been a "cocksucker", but she attributed this to adolescent experimentation. I had never divulged this secret to anyone else before and I was disappointed when she failed to express any interest or curiosity to further inquire into what for me at the time had become almost an obsession. I think talking about it made her feel uncomfortable.

 

[bibethhotwet]

Honestly for me it is a turn on. I was with my husband the first time another mans cock passed between his lips and I was the one who urged it on during a threeway.

As far as relating experiences that happened before marriage that is one thing however going behind someones back is wrong, in my opinion.

 

[policywank]

1. U R not straight if you've been with a man. You are Bi or Gay.
2. If I was a woman I'd be worried that he might be bringing home more then dinner.

Why is everyone so anxious to apply a label?

Did I become lesbian or bi the first time my lips touched another woman's? Maybe I was experimenting and really didn't like it. Maybe I did it as part of group sex or to please a man.

What if a gay man has sex with a woman. Is he instantly hetero or bi, but no longer gay regardless of why he had sex with the woman and whether or not he enjoyed it?

And if your partner is having sex with someone else obviously there is a higher chance of getting an STD than if they weren't having sex with someone else. However, there are lots of sexually active people who are intelligent and careful enough to avoid STDs. There is no reason to assume their other partner is riddled with STDs or that if the other partner is male the chance of STDs is even higher.

If my partner was having sex with another man I can think of a litany of questions that I would want to ask before applying labels and assuming he is having anonymous bath house sex. And I can think of a multitude of ways this realization might spice up our sex life.

For us it is true. We are both bi-sexual and highly unconventional. Hubby especially is a freak, but he isn't careless or stupid. He is a wonderful lover and partner because of his open mind.