Pathalimoss
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... and also digital stimulation by their partners.
I'm writing a story, and as often happens, when I start to write I get to wondering about certain sexual practices. In this case, I'm wondering about the details of how women play with themselves. I'm primarily interested in hearing from women, but guys can answer with their experience with their partners as well.
I see a lot of porn and read a lot of fiction where women finger themselves/are fingered by others in a way that centres around fingers being pushed up into the vagina, often quite deep and quite fast. Whenever I see this in porn, I always think "That's so fake; that's not how to please a woman." But then I have to remind myself that my experience is in fact pretty limited, with the vast majority of it coming from just one sexual partner, so what works for her may not work for all, or even be the norm. What will follow is a pretty detailed description of my technique when playing with her:
With my partner, getting her to orgasm is all about her clitoris. Whether I'm fingering or eating her, the focus is always around the surface and the apex of her pussy; usually not touching the clit directly as it's too sensitive for that, but definitely around her clit, in ways that will stimulate it more carefully. She does like to have fingers inserted into her vagina, but generally only a shallow distance, so that the effect is still to be rubbing near the clit. She sometimes also likes fingers deeper in her pussy, but as I understand it that's kind of a different need; she likes the feeling of having something up there (the "nice filled-up feeling", she calls it); I keep the fingers fairly still, or else move them in and out quite slowly.
If I push my fingers deep into her vagina without paying deliberate attention to the area of her clit, that does very little for her, and certainly won't make her come. She says she doesn't feel much sensation deeper inside, and she certainly doesn't react much when I move past the surface.
So in a nutshell my question is how much does this apply to other women? Are the videos of women totally getting off on having fingers shoved right up their vaginas as fallacious as my instincts tell me, or do alot of women genuinely achieve orgasms that way?
If the technique you women use when masturbating or having your partners please you is different from what I have described, how so? Please be detailed in your responses.
The other main part of my question involves how this play relates to multiple orgasms. As I understand it, there is a rough distinction between clitoral orgasms and vaginal/g-spot orgasms, and the latter can generally be had again and again whereas the former tend to be one big bang and then you have to stop. With my partner our play falls almost exclusively into the former category; after she comes, if I don't stop touching her pretty quick some part of her body is going to break my teeth. So if you find different techniques produce different results with regard to the types or orgasms or how many you can have, please include that information.
I'll probably follow up with more specific questions soon if I get some responses. Thanks in advance
(I'm also posting this in two different forums 'cause I'm not sure if one is more appropriate than another. My apologies if this is considered ill-mannered)
I'm writing a story, and as often happens, when I start to write I get to wondering about certain sexual practices. In this case, I'm wondering about the details of how women play with themselves. I'm primarily interested in hearing from women, but guys can answer with their experience with their partners as well.
I see a lot of porn and read a lot of fiction where women finger themselves/are fingered by others in a way that centres around fingers being pushed up into the vagina, often quite deep and quite fast. Whenever I see this in porn, I always think "That's so fake; that's not how to please a woman." But then I have to remind myself that my experience is in fact pretty limited, with the vast majority of it coming from just one sexual partner, so what works for her may not work for all, or even be the norm. What will follow is a pretty detailed description of my technique when playing with her:
With my partner, getting her to orgasm is all about her clitoris. Whether I'm fingering or eating her, the focus is always around the surface and the apex of her pussy; usually not touching the clit directly as it's too sensitive for that, but definitely around her clit, in ways that will stimulate it more carefully. She does like to have fingers inserted into her vagina, but generally only a shallow distance, so that the effect is still to be rubbing near the clit. She sometimes also likes fingers deeper in her pussy, but as I understand it that's kind of a different need; she likes the feeling of having something up there (the "nice filled-up feeling", she calls it); I keep the fingers fairly still, or else move them in and out quite slowly.
If I push my fingers deep into her vagina without paying deliberate attention to the area of her clit, that does very little for her, and certainly won't make her come. She says she doesn't feel much sensation deeper inside, and she certainly doesn't react much when I move past the surface.
So in a nutshell my question is how much does this apply to other women? Are the videos of women totally getting off on having fingers shoved right up their vaginas as fallacious as my instincts tell me, or do alot of women genuinely achieve orgasms that way?
If the technique you women use when masturbating or having your partners please you is different from what I have described, how so? Please be detailed in your responses.
The other main part of my question involves how this play relates to multiple orgasms. As I understand it, there is a rough distinction between clitoral orgasms and vaginal/g-spot orgasms, and the latter can generally be had again and again whereas the former tend to be one big bang and then you have to stop. With my partner our play falls almost exclusively into the former category; after she comes, if I don't stop touching her pretty quick some part of her body is going to break my teeth. So if you find different techniques produce different results with regard to the types or orgasms or how many you can have, please include that information.
I'll probably follow up with more specific questions soon if I get some responses. Thanks in advance
(I'm also posting this in two different forums 'cause I'm not sure if one is more appropriate than another. My apologies if this is considered ill-mannered)
