female ejaculation

[sigsauerprinces]

im posting this here rather than in the general sex forum because im coming at it from a bdsm perspective, as in, im a sub

my question is-has anyone here not been able to female ejaculate, and then "taught" themselves to do it, or were made to do it by their lover, when previously they couldnt? and if so, HOW did you start doing it. what physical techniques did you use..was any mental preparation involved..what did your lover do to make you squirt?

i've never done it, and i really, really want to. anyone know any good websites about it? i did a search and didnt come up with much. like i said, i've never done it, but i've also never been fisted, and i read that for a lot of women, its the only way they can do it.

any thoughts on this at all would be appreciated

 

[Bandit58]

It wasn't the fact that I couldn't do it, I didn't know I could.....until I met Master. I knew I got extremely wet but I've never had it pour out of me as when He makes it happen

Usually I'm kneeling on the bed, I'm giving Him a blowjob while He's on His back, He starts with fingers quickly in and out of my vagina and it just happens, when He adds fingers in my butt even more pours out.....this afternoon I soaked through a towel and the sheet was wet too. It doesn't feel the same as a clitoral orgasm, more like "waves" of pleasure rippling through my whole body (makes it hard to concentrate on the blowjob!) When He cums in my mouth, I've noticed that I seem to "cum" too......it's getting so that He only has to touch me between the legs and the juices start flowing.

The only thing I can put it down to is absolute trust. After getting out of a long emotionally abusive marriage, I had to get myself "switched on" sexually after years of being shut down. I've found that I am very responsive to Master's touch, anywhere on my body. He has such strong yet gentle hands I get incredibly wet, even when giving a blowjob without Him touching me sexually, just hands on head or holding my hair.

The first time it happened, I was sure I'd wet myself ....I was standing, hands on the arm of the couch, and He was behind me. He used two fingers inside me, quickly in and out while pressing on the front wall of my vagina. I really felt like I had to pee....and all of a sudden I squirted all over the carpet. My legs started shaking, I had to sit down. I had no idea I could do that, I'd read about it and seen video clips but never thought I'd ever be able to. Now we put down a towel as a matter of course!

Good luck in your quest It's a lot of fun trying even if it doesn't happen

 

[YeahBabyyy]

it happen once with me ... with a male and a Toy inside and alot of Stimulation on my clit ...I was layin' on the bed and he was standing at the edge of the bed between my legs and when I Squirted it hit his leg ...he was like Fuck Yeah ...lol

 

[A Desert Rose]

I think we had a thread about this before. I'm sorry I don't remember the name or I would direct you to it. Maybe someone else can dig it up.

Anyway, someone "taught" me to do this. (I'm not a squirter, I'm a gusher.) But the key to his teaching was for me to totally relax and not fight the feeling. It will feel like you need to pee... and most of us fight that feeling when we are orgasming. What helped me was to try it alone (through masterbation) a few times, with a towel underneath me. And then also, it helps to massage your G-spot, or at least it does for me, sometimes.

Oh man... this is probably too much information.
Well, good luck.

 

[WriterDom]

Seems like there was a nice long thread on this in the How To section at one time. I've been with several squirters. One nurse in particular who gushed so much we could only have sex on the floor with one of those baby sheets.

 

[sigsauerprinces]

Bandit58-thanks a lot you've given me hope that maybe i can do this, since you say you didnt know you could do it before.... you say trust is a big part of it, and that you were in an emotionally abusive relationship-i can relate. the person i love now tho is totally and completely different, and if i can learn to do it with anyone, it'll be with him. its interesting both you and A Desert Rose say it feels like you need to pee...ive felt like that a little bit sometimes before i cum.

A Desert Rose-its not too much info at all do you mind me asking, when you say "try it alone" do you mean with your fingers or with a toy such as a vibrator or dildo?

 

[A Desert Rose]

... A Desert Rose-its not too much info at all do you mind me asking, when you say "try it alone" do you mean with your fingers or with a toy such as a vibrator or dildo?

I didn't read Bandit's post before I posted, and I'm sorry I didn't. The area she described is where most G-spots are located. I had never even known I had one until I met this man... online and on the phone. He directed me and I used my fingers in much the same way that Bandit described.

I don't believe that there are any toys that would work for me. I have seen them on sites and I just don't have the same faith in them that I do in my own fingers. ;-)

Now, I am able to gush without G-spot stimulation... just happens when I have an intense orgasm.

 

[A Desert Rose]

And let me add this... the reason I reccomend doing this little exercise in discovery alone is because sometimes we tend to hold back with our Partner, for fear that we will be peeing and then be embarrassed.

If you can totally relax with your Partner and do this with him, that's all the better. Now that I know how, I can gush with my Partner, with hardly a thought.

 

[wolf2002]

Now this is a topic I could go on about forever... female ejaculation is my favourite...

Personally I have negative experience with teaching FE, but this doesn;t mean it can;t be taught... there';s lots of sites with information and also some useful threads on Lit... most techniques concentrate on the g-spot. But I have also experienced FE with only clitoral stimulation, no penetrattion whatsoever...

One of the best articles on the subject is this...

Further info here...

Some Lit threads are here and
here

Good luck!

Wolf

 

[BlueSugar]

Some Lit threads are here and
here

Good luck!

Wolf

doh, you beat me to it. But those it seems to be pretty helpful. I personally can't though I'm almost sure I can. It reminds me too much of the feeling you get when you have to pee... so in fear I can't just "let go" maybe one day, with the right person.
Keep trying, and relax... just let it happen - or so they say

 

[sigsauerprinces]

Wolf2002-thanks so much for the links, ive read some of them and am working on the big G spot thread (which i must say is fascinating). im starting to really think that maybe i can learn to do this..if i do i'll be sure to come back and let y'all know

 

[DustyWolfe]

My Mistress/girlfriend ejaculates, we have to put plastic and a few towels under her so we dont have to change the sheets every time we are intimate either in a purely sexual or bdsm way.
She always gets really embarassed because she thinks she is peeing every time it happens and I of course have to reassure her that she isn't. She hates it, but of course I like it because it makes it obvious I have done my job

 

[Jessalynvix]

My Mistress/girlfriend ejaculates, we have to put plastic and a few towels under her so we dont have to change the sheets every time we are intimate either in a purely sexual or bdsm way.
She always gets really embarassed because she thinks she is peeing every time it happens and I of course have to reassure her that she isn't. She hates it, but of course I like it because it makes it obvious I have done my job

uh huh and I don't hate it know that I know what it is but when we were doing the phone thing and I'd do that yeah I was embrassed cause I wasn't getting it.

 

[Bandit58]

I was embarrassed that first time too.....but He held me close and stroked my hair and said He was so pleased that I trusted Him enough for it to happen

 

[Esclava]

Oh my! Great question, Sig.

I am a FE and swing with 2 other couples - in which both the women are FE as well.

It is a learned art and everything you have heard about the feeling that you have to pee IS VERY TRUE!

My suggestion echos DR - try it alone to learn how. Go potty first to give yourself a comfort level that everything is empty and then go to your bed (or where ever you feel really comfortable) and make incredible love to yourself - close your eyes and feel your hands on your body as though they are the hands of a lover that would do anything - absolutely anything - for you. Do this with the intent on spending, at least, an hour loving yourself. I spent two and it was the most awesome two hours I had ever experienced. Not only did I REALLY learn what my body likes, but I learned what it felt like to be truly loved. It will teach you a great deal about yourself.

I've found that whether you use a toy or your fingers makes no real difference. But focusing on your G spot does help because that is the spot that, when stimulated, gives the feeling of needing to pee. If you feel that, you are doing yourself right. When that feeling comes over you, don't fight it. Rub the spot a little faster - not harder - faster. That will cause the orgasm to consume you. You may feel as though a tidal wave is rolling over you.

Scream if you desire...it will feel like that is the only way you can exclaim the pure pleasure you are feeling. Then repeat as often as necessary until either your hands get tired or the batteries give out... All my love and best of luck to you,

Esclava

 

[sigsauerprinces]

Oh my! Great question, Sig.

I am a FE and swing with 2 other couples - in which both the women are FE as well.

It is a learned art and everything you have heard about the feeling that you have to pee IS VERY TRUE!

My suggestion echos DR - try it alone to learn how. Go potty first to give yourself a comfort level that everything is empty and then go to your bed (or where ever you feel really comfortable) and make incredible love to yourself - close your eyes and feel your hands on your body as though they are the hands of a lover that would do anything - absolutely anything - for you. Do this with the intent on spending, at least, an hour loving yourself. I spent two and it was the most awesome two hours I had ever experienced. Not only did I REALLY learn what my body likes, but I learned what it felt like to be truly loved. It will teach you a great deal about yourself.

I've found that whether you use a toy or your fingers makes no real difference. But focusing on your G spot does help because that is the spot that, when stimulated, gives the feeling of needing to pee. If you feel that, you are doing yourself right. When that feeling comes over you, don't fight it. Rub the spot a little faster - not harder - faster. That will cause the orgasm to consume you. You may feel as though a tidal wave is rolling over you.

Scream if you desire...it will feel like that is the only way you can exclaim the pure pleasure you are feeling. Then repeat as often as necessary until either your hands get tired or the batteries give out... All my love and best of luck to you,

Esclava

this post made me want to go masturbate

seriously tho, i'll do that.. im going to Good Vibrations (really cool woman-owned sex shop here in sf, downtown) and im going to buy a new dildo (i dont bother with vibrators, the vibrations are too intense for me)..ill try to find one that is made for g spot stimulation. i can reach it with my fingers, but i honestly prefer a toy to my fingers..just feels better

when you tried on your own, did you ejaculate the first time, or did it take some practice?

 

[Esclava]

this post made me want to go masturbate

seriously tho, i'll do that.. im going to Good Vibrations (really cool woman-owned sex shop here in sf, downtown) and im going to buy a new dildo (i dont bother with vibrators, the vibrations are too intense for me)..ill try to find one that is made for g spot stimulation. i can reach it with my fingers, but i honestly prefer a toy to my fingers..just feels better

when you tried on your own, did you ejaculate the first time, or did it take some practice?

I've been masturbating against pillows since I was 7 so, I knew what the very good feeling was to have that "special place between my legs" rubbed until I was dizzy with how good it felt. I didn't have a name for it then, but - damn it felt good!

So, I knew how to orgasm, my goal in that 2 hrs was to experiment with learning how my body ejaculates. I experienced my first ejaculation a week before with an incredible male lover and I wanted to repeat it - or learn how to repeat it.

Relaxation is the key and being very, VERY loving to yourself. Just close your eyes and tune completely into the feelings and sensations happening in your body. And don't fight it - remember rub FASTER - not harder - that's where a vibrator works a little better (the multi-speed ones are what I like to use).

Also remember, everyone is not the same and you may not reach ejaculation without a little practice; but I promise if you make the environment as conducive to deeply, intense lovemaking (music, candles, etc.), tune in to yourself completely, and truly enjoy the experience; you will have done all you can to ensure that your body has every chance to reward you with its ejaculation potential.

Esclava

 

[wolf2002]

<< running off to take a cold shower >>

 

[bound2Bnaughty]

The first time i experienced this, was when my ex gf was doing oral on me... i was so embarrassed, because i thought i was peeing on her face, and she was just down there going "Ahhh yeahhhh"... i tried pushing her head away, but she just kept at it, until i almost drowned her...

 

[wolf2002]

I was wondering: does the ability to FE develop at a later age, or is it something that comes right with reaching sexual maturity?

 

[Netzach]

I've spent the hours in candle-lit self adoration. I've been wanking since I could talk.

I've stuck my fingers everywhere at some point and decided what I liked and don't.

And the only time this ever happened was totally by surprise, playing with the ol' wahl coil vibe, as normal. Results have never been reproduced.

 

[wolf2002]

And the only time this ever happened was totally by surprise, playing with the ol' wahl coil vibe, as normal.

Damn, I like this thread...

 

[Gil_T2]

The first time i experienced this, was when my ex gf was doing oral on me... i was so embarrassed, because i thought i was peeing on her face, and she was just down there going "Ahhh yeahhhh"... i tried pushing her head away, but she just kept at it, until i almost drowned her...

I'm shocked no ones mention the taste as I find it delectable, the fluid is actually fairly tasteless & definately non offencive, it's also a wonderful natural lube.

 

[wolf2002]

I'm shocked no ones mention the taste as I find it delectable, the fluid is actually fairly tasteless & definately non offencive, it's also a wonderful natural lube.

I agree, both taste and scent... pure sex!

 

[lovelylisa]

It's something I've always been able to do but never really knew it was a good thing till recently.

I can do it pretty much every time as long as I have something like fingers, toy, whatever inside me