Feeling inadequate

[Guest]

Ok Harry, here is your mentoring. Pay attention.

You need an audience. It only has to be one person. Your wife, girlfriend, or cyber penpal. It doesn't matter who, it just has to be one person. You write the story to please just one person. You give them small pieces of it as you go along. Its much easier to write when you know there is someone waiting to read it.

It only has to be one.

And sometimes that one person can be yourself.

That's what I'm doing right now, it's a story I have been meaning to write for a long time.

Weird harold also have an excellent point. I have to admit I am GB whore, but I have a feeling that's going to change very soon. I used to really enoy the GB because there were some great discussions, now it seems to have degenerated into a mob-mentality pack of drama queens, and what is that quote? "Sound and fury, signifying nothing."

You will get known if you post who you are, and I'm sure there will be people out there who will notice you.

BTW - Hi, Willie! Have def. noticed you in the Tanka thread.

Quality over quantity.

 

[cloudy]

I feel like a bum at this forum. All you guys have thousands of posts to your name and always have interesting stuff to say. I can't even get my first story off the ground either, whereas some of you have written novels...

Ah well...at least I've said something, I guess. What I need is a mentor to bring me into the fold!

Don't.

My first day here, I jumped in headfirst, and didn't worry about whether I was the best author, the most interesting, or whatever...and I haven't looked back.

IIRC, one of the benefits of just jumping in was a virtual coyote ugly dance with Lucky (while she stripped off her shirt )

Welcome to the AH.

Yes, we do bite on occasion, call each other nasty names, and fuss and argue like 20 siblings in a two-bedroom house, but it's all part of the fun.

 

[Just-Legal]

Don't.

My first day here, I jumped in headfirst, and didn't worry about whether I was the best author, the most interesting, or whatever...and I haven't looked back.

IIRC, one of the benefits of just jumping in was a virtual coyote ugly dance with Lucky (while she stripped off her shirt )

Welcome to the AH.

Yes, we do bite on occasion, call each other nasty names, and fuss and argue like 20 siblings in a two-bedroom house, but it's all part of the fun.

Besides, if we were all the same (politically, spiritually, emotionall, whatever) to quote the old cliche - We'd all be boring.

Its never boring in the AH!

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Sometimes it takes a while to get into a forum. I'm a member of over a dozen (some not so active). I still feel inadequate post-wise when I look at the short time it took for Aurora Snow to get 13,000+ posts.

However, you are not your post count. Go on with your life as if this isn't important, and just talk to us when you feel you have something to say. This will either be a home for you or not, and there is no way for us to do that for you. You have to do that yourself.

 

[harry87]

Thanks

Thanks everybody! I really appreciate the excellent advice and encouraging words. You sure know how to make a new kid feel welcome. It's nice to find so many warm and sincere people around. Some boards are full of guys just itching to shoot you down whatever you say. It seems that I'm not alone in experience this, though, so I should probably stop feeling sorry for myself. I don't have it any harder than anyone else.

Hopefully, I'll be able to call myself an author the next time I come here.

Thanks again, and good luck to all of you with your stories.

 

[Liar]

What Cloudy said. To the letter.

Except the part with a coyote ugly dance with Lucky. I missed that. Darn.

Oh, and hi and welcome.

 

[harry87]

Thanks

 

[Aurora Black]

Sometimes it takes a while to get into a forum. I'm a member of over a dozen (some not so active). I still feel inadequate post-wise when I look at the short time it took for Aurora Snow to get 13,000+ posts.

That's because I'm a chatty bitch. And it's "Black."

 

[oggbashan]

That's because I'm a chatty bitch. And it's "Black."

TheeGoatPig is trying to whitewash you. Ignore the crossbred mammal.

Og

 

[Aurora Black]

TheeGoatPig is trying to whitewash you. Ignore the crossbred mammal.

Og

Okay, but it will be difficult. It's not every day that you see an animal that can bleat and oink simultaneously, but I'll be strong.

 

[neonlyte]

I feel like a bum at this forum. All you guys have thousands of posts to your name and always have interesting stuff to say. I can't even get my first story off the ground either, whereas some of you have written novels...

Ah well...at least I've said something, I guess. What I need is a mentor to bring me into the fold!

Good Lord, Harry,
We're just one big happy family (it's why the incest stories are most popular)

 

[TheeGoatPig]

TheeGoatPig is trying to whitewash you. Ignore the crossbred mammal.

Og

No, I was looking at Porn before reading this. Crossed some wires in my brain...

Sorry Aurora. Wasn't trying to change you. I even had the image of a sexy black woman in my head when posting that.

 

[Aurora Black]

Sorry Aurora. Wasn't trying to change you. I even had the image of a sexy black woman in my head when posting that.

Meh. I just don't like snow.

 

[ungenderless]

Most everyone has already said anything I can think to say. But I wold just like to add that I know that I felt the same way when I first came here. I was intimidated by how everyone seemed to have established friendships and histories with each other. But you know what? I'm willing to bet that those same people also felt the same way when THEY first came here. It's just a natural process; you just have to give it time.

 

[kendo1]

Ah!
This is the thread.


*clears throat*

Someone looking for a cross animal?

 

[HappyLlama]

Here I am!

 

[angelicminx]

As far as the boards go I feel somewhat alienated, like I don't belong. Like I'm invisible too, mostly. I've been here for two or three years, have nearly three thousand posts but I don't really know anyone and have no friends. I keep trying. I try to join in conversations, and people happily post to each other back and forth and ignore me. Or someone will respond to everyone in the thread but me. I've developed quite a little complex about it.

Every now and then I tell myself "fuck em, who needs em." but I always come back because it's basically the only social interaction I have access to in my life. Plus I don't have fuck all else to do for the time being.

And I whine about all this every chance I get. Hijacking other people's threads to do so. Then at the end of my self indulgent rant I tack something on the end to make it look like I'm actually trying to offer support or encouragement to the poster like...

so you're not alone. I hope that at least makes you feel a little better. Good luck to you.

*Hugs*

 

[angelicminx]

Don't.

My first day here, I jumped in headfirst, and didn't worry about whether I was the best author, the most interesting, or whatever...and I haven't looked back.

IIRC, one of the benefits of just jumping in was a virtual coyote ugly dance with Lucky (while she stripped off her shirt )

Welcome to the AH.

Yes, we do bite on occasion, call each other nasty names, and fuss and argue like 20 siblings in a two-bedroom house, but it's all part of the fun.

Yes we do... ya.

 

[Trombonus]

I feel like a bum at this forum. All you guys have thousands of posts to your name and always have interesting stuff to say. I can't even get my first story off the ground either, whereas some of you have written novels...

Ah well...at least I've said something, I guess. What I need is a mentor to bring me into the fold!

Not to worry, I was the same way once. We all were for the most part.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Jeez, I always thought a high number of posts was kind of embarrassing -a sign that the poster didn't have much of a life.

As for feelings of inadequacy, I think we all struggle with them, but feeling a bit inadequate is a lot better than its opposite - thinking you're God's gift to the AH. Writing stories is a constant struggle to ignore that little voice that keeps on telling you that every word you write is crap (especially when you know he's right.)

Three things to write out backwards and tape to your forehead for when you look in the mirror:

(1) Think of all the things that won't be said if you don't say them,

(2) The only one who can make you feel inferior is you. (Or anyone else who's smarter, richer, and/or better looking than you.)

(3) Go with your inadequacy. Look what it did for Paris Hilton

(4) If you are inadequate, then it's kind of stupid to take your own opinion of yourself seriously.

--Zoot

P.S. Don't try those penis enlargement kits. They don't work.

 

[oggbashan]

...As for feelings of inadequacy, I think we all struggle with them, but feeling a bit inadequate is a lot better than its opposite - thinking you're God's gift to the AH. Writing stories is a constant struggle to ignore that little voice that keeps on telling you that every word you write is crap (especially when you know he's right.)

I would add to these wise words - behaving as if "you're God's gift to the AH" can be a symptom of feeling a bit inadequate and wildly overcompensating.

Sometimes we all feel out of the mainstream, ignored, neglected. It is usually our perception that is flawed, not the AH - unless you have seriously offended against the written and unwritten laws. Shortening Svenskaflicka's name or masquerading as a newbie under an alt and embarrassing people are both misdemeanours. Real stalking of an unwilling victim is a crime that will get you ostracised.

Otherwise most errors and faux-pas will be overlooked. Even the mention of sheep is no longer a hanging offence.

Og