Feeling a little guilty

[ExistentialLuv]

My girlfriend came out to her family about her and me. I know you are going to read this Pollyjean so just bere with me.*
I kind of wish she would not have now. It is not the fact that my feelings are getting hurt in the whole deal (really they are not), it's that hers are. I am really kind of pissed at the situation. Since I have been with her this weekend they have really ousted her and I can tell she is tremendously hurt by this. If I did not love her so damn much i would probably walk out the door and save her the heartache of what her family is doing to her. That is not going to happen though, I do not give up on what I love or care what her family thinks of me. Personally it is their loss not getting to know me and espesially not seeing the changes for the better and happiness happening in their daughters life. It just truelly rips me apart inside to see her in pain though.

Any suggestions for someone that wants her loves happiness more than anything in the world?




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[pollyjean]

your right I did read it.

Please don't let it get you down. I hope they will come around soon. It will just take them awhile.


Please never think about leaving me thinking it will make it easier.
Because you have became a important part of my life.



dpg

 

[MzChrista]

Coming out to your family or to anybody else is something a person can only decide on for themselves.
It says a lot about you that you are hurting so much for her but if she felt it was the best thing for her to do for herself, you got to just stand by her. maybe the reason she came out now was because of how she feels about you, but really, she did it for herself, which is how it has to be.
Good thing shes got you during this bad time.

 

[Never]

It might be good if you disabuse yourself of the notion that if you left her family would treat her better.

 

[MzChrista]

It might be good if you disabuse yourself of the notion that if you left her family would treat her better.

What she said.

The cats already out of the bag.

 

[ExistentialLuv]

Please never think about leaving me thinking it will make it easier.

As I said my love I do not give up on what I love or want, and I just love you to damn much to give up that easily. I will not walk out the door, for you too have become an important part of my life. Believe when I say I have never felt this way before. Unconditionally yours DPG.

 

[ExistentialLuv]

It might be good if you disabuse yourself of the notion that if you left her family would treat her better.

Thanx Never, I would not dream of leaving her now. She has got my heart in her hands and my spirit intertwined with hers. Just wish I could take her pain away.

 

[Queersetti]

I agree with MzChrista and Never.

All you can do in this situation is give her your love and support.

It's a matter between her and her family, and no matter how much you want to help, you have to accept that anything you do to try to directly affect the situation is likely to do more harm than good.

Eventually, either her family will learn to accept her, or she will learn to live without their acceptance.

We can never take another person's pain away. All we can do is be there for them while they are dealing with it.

 

[Pookie]

Just be there for her. Whatever happens with her family will happen. You're probably her foundation at the moment. If you love her, don't give her any reason to doubt that now. I can understand your feelings though, and I now they are well intended for her benefit. But I think she needs you now more than ever while she and her family sorts through all of this.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

hon, you're not helping or hurting the situation with her family. Your being there, however, is most definitely helping. And after all, she's the one who counts.

I'm with Never...your presence isn't going to affect how her family treats her...but it might help her.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Knuckle-punch her family in the kidneys for me, would you?

Seriously, though, if someone feels like they have to come out, it wouldn't matter to the family much if they were seeing someone at the time or not. On the other hand, she needs you, so I'd stick around for awhile.

 

[ExistentialLuv]

Thank you all for the advice, pretty much what I was intending to do. Just be there for her, cause that is all I can do. That is an important part of a relationship, having someone there for you through the good and bad.