Fate do you believe?

[Carl East]

I don't know about you guys/gals but I believe that everything happens for a reason, call it fate call it destiny or whatever.

I mean how many of you had known your partner, long before you actually met and never even considered that that would be the love of your life.

I bet there's people here now, who like someone so much that they would love to drop everything just to meet them. I have a little story that I'd like to share that will probably make believers of you that fate exists.

When I met my second wife, we were both working in a supermarket, she was on the day shift I was on the night shift. You'd think that that alone would conspire to keep us apart wouldn't you. The only time I ever saw her during those weeks, was when I came in to take over from the day shift.

I'd see her just long enough to say hi to, anyway one of my friends knew that I liked her and he happened to live just around the corner from her. So unbeknown to me he told her, the next thing I know she's asking me if I like her.

To cut a long story short we end up together at that point, I ask her where she lives and to my utter amazment I find that she's living in a house that I lived in eighteen years earlier.

Not only that but sleeping in the exact same bedroom, FATE what are the odds.

I wouldn't mind betting that there are some here who flirt with their favourites, who are going to share the rest of their lives with them. They just don't know it yet.

Carl

 

[christophe]

damn right i believe in destiny and fate...it is just a matter of which path you choose to get there that puzzles me

 

[princess4u]

i am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason

this is how i met my husband - i had been to the movies with a few girlfriends - after the movies we went to dinner which was terrible - so to make us feel better we decided to go have a drink - we went to our regular spot which we found closed for the "memorial day" weekend - so we went to a different club that we had never been to before - i met my husband that night at the second club - he just happened to stop in after work and i was there - seems to me that something (fate?) brought us together at the same place and the same time ~

 

[Carl East]

i am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason

this is how i met my husband - i had been to the movies with a few girlfriends - after the movies we went to dinner which was terrible - so to make us feel better we decided to go have a drink - we went to our regular spot which we found closed for the "memorial day" weekend - so we went to a different club that we had never been to before - i met my husband that night at the second club - he just happened to stop in after work and i was there - seems to me that something (fate?) brought us together at the same place and the same time ~

Yes it's funny how one thing after another transpires just to get you to that point, isn't it?

I mean I bet if you went for a meal at the same place now you'd enjoy it, fated.

Carl

 

[MissTaken]

While I do believe that things happen for a reason, I don't rely on fate. Free choice is a huge factor.

Is there someone here that I may spend the rest of my life with?

Perhaps. Perhaps not. However, it won't happen unless I am open to have it happen.

And some will tell you, I have walls that need to come down.

Not baggage, just walls built by caution and experience.

 

[Carl East]

While I do believe that things happen for a reason, I don't rely on fate. Free choice is a huge factor.

Is there someone here that I may spend the rest of my life with?

Perhaps. Perhaps not. However, it won't happen unless I am open to have it happen.

And some will tell you, I have walls that need to come down.

Not baggage, just walls built by caution and experience.

Trust, that is the word your grasping for MissTaken, we all need to trust the person we have desires for. Without that trust those walls will never come down, again though you just haven't met that one person that could make holes in that wall.

I agree by the way that one has to be open to recieve the messages others are sending, just never give up looking.

Carl

 

[sexy-girl]

i dont know if i believe in fate but i will say the story that i said i wouldnt (in your other thread )



i was staying with my sister for a few weeks although my sister wasnt off work so i was following my sister around as she was doing her work (fixing computer servers for lots of different companys) anyway she was upgrading one companys server so she'd be working in this building for about a week or so


my girlfriend to be who lived in canada was on holiday in england with her father ... her father is a lawyer and was having meetings in the same building that my sister was doing the computer upgrades ... my girlfriend to be was following around her father


so we being both on our holidays and getting kind of bored because of following around people that were working happened to meet in a break room in this building ... we became friends quickly and met eachother everyday of our holidays and fell in love at the same time


was it fate that we met like that ... maybe

 

[Jewelz]

I too believe in fate and destiny. I used to firmly believe in it and would just have faith enough that if it was meant to be, it would be. I believe that to a certain extent now. Too many factors to suade me one way or another. Im a dreamer. I always say "I dream big". I could go on about certain encounters in my life that I truly believe was fate. Not a controlled destiny. I believe that we have choices that will compliment or tarnish fate.

 

[Carl East]

Was it fate that we met like that ... maybe

It makes you wonder doesn't it, I mean a hundred things could have happened that day but they didn't. What is fate though, is it a force of nature a thread that pulls at you directing your course. Whatever it is, it seems to have guided you well.

Have a great day.

Carl

 

[kotori]

Not me. It's random. People create situations, and react to them. What happens may not be up to you, but how you handle it is totally yours.

How would "fate" work? To imply that there is some reason for random events implies that there is some entity ("god" for lack of a better word) pulling the strings. If there is a god, and he spends time orchestrating people's love lives, while allowing a Hitler or Pol Pot to go unchecked, he/she/it has a serious problem with prioritizing.

 

[Carl East]

I too believe in fate and destiny. I believe that we have choices that will compliment or tarnish fate.

I couldn't have put it better myself.

Carl

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Carl,


I also believe in fate... that is how I met the man I am with ...

As weird as this may sound the very first time I met him I told him he was the "one". Even though we had barely met I knew he was the one I had been waiting for ...


He still freaks out and asks me how I knew he was going to be the one, and I tell him I just felt it... simple as that ...

He tells me I used witchcraft on him...

 

[Carl East]

Not me. It's random. People create situations, and react to them. What happens may not be up to you, but how you handle it is totally yours.

How would "fate" work? To imply that there is some reason for random events implies that there is some entity ("god" for lack of a better word) pulling the strings. If there is a god, and he spends time orchestrating people's love lives, while allowing a Hitler or Pol Pot to go unchecked, he/she/it has a serious problem with prioritizing.

I don't for one minute conclude that fate is in god's hands, I think as someone already said, fate is heavily influenced by our own actions. However, I can't help feeling that there is a force at work, a force that I wouldn't even attempt to put a name too.

Carl

 

[Carl East]

Carl,


I also believe in fate... that is how I met the man I am with ...

As weird as this may sound the very first time I met him I told him he was the "one". Even though we had barely met I knew he was the one I had been waiting for ...


He still freaks out and asks me how I knew he was going to be the one, and I tell him I just felt it... simple as that ...

He tells me I used witchcraft on him...

You see, you are the classic example of someone who's experienced this phenomenon, it's the knowing that is hard to explain.

Some would say it was just a gut feeling, others that you were destined to meet. Whatever the explaination, I wish you and your loved one well.

Carl

 

[AzureAngel]

I'm trying to learn to "Leave things to fate."

I don't LIKE to believe in it. I like to believe that I have absoute control over myself and certain things. "If you want it, you can achieve it," and all that proactive work ethic mumbo jumbo. It's mainly a power thing.

It's pretty difficult when coming from a very power-oriented upbringing to switch over to something as free as "Fate." Hard to let go. *Chuckles.*

 

[alexandraaah]

Proactive? Pfffft.


Carl, I believe there are no coincidences. Someday, I'll write all the stories that lead me to knowing this.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Fate is like luck... you make your own...

 

[juicygirl]

I deny fate and destiny. Otherwise everything is too fucked up, and the monotheistic religious god is a motherfucker. Its all basically luck. When you run out you're dead.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

was it fate the person that became my wife just happend to be a student at the college I attended? was it fate there just happend to be a specialist at the hospital with the knowledge to treat our oldest child when even her ob/gyn gave us little hope for his survival? was it fate our insurance company required us to be at THAT hospital instead of a cheaper one? and lastly was it fate that placed me no more than 10 seconds past a horrific car accident which took the life of the person behind me? Could I really be this lucky, I tend to doubt it. yes you create you own luck at times, but there are other times in ones life you just sit back and wonder wtf is going on for I have/had no control over what just happend. at least I do.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

What's today? Saturday. No, on Saturdays I don't believe in fate. On Saturdays I believe in the second law of thermodynamics. Entropy, entropy . . . all is entropy.

 

[juicygirl]

Uh broken there is good and bad luck. There is no reason to ascribe fate to any of those things that happened just count your lucky stars that you're lucky.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

fair enough, if it was not fate (although I will carry it to my grave that is was) then I am very thankful to be one lucky son of a bitch.

 

[Carl East]

Fate sat down with a heavy heart, placing her hands over her face and leaning forward.

"I just can't go on, too many people are losing faith in me," she said, looking up at the sky.

"You don't need too," came a voice from behind.

Fate turned to see someone she vaguely recognised, and then watched with interest, as she approached.

"I know you, don't I?" she said, looking intensly at the strangers face.

"You should do, I am fate, your replacement," she claimed, placing a hand gently onto the shoulder of the other.

"You were fated to be replaced this day, for the sake of all those that believe in fate."

With that fate smiled, knowing that fate was once again in good hands, for as she started to remember when she took over from the last fate, "It was fated so."

Carl

 

[juicygirl]

I am going to get my basball bat and open up a big can of whoop ass on that fate mutha. Bitch you are going down!

 

[Carl East]

I am going to get my basball bat and open up a big can of whoop ass on that fate mutha. Bitch you are going down!

LOL ok.

Carl