Fantasize about rape

[Slayer1985]

I am a 20 year old female and I feel like I am fucked up in the head because I CONSTANTLY fantasize about being raped. For as long as I can remember I have thought about this, I know if it were to really happen I would be mortified but it seems it's become an obsession for me. I came on here and found some rape stories and even wrote one myself, describing pretty much how I would want it to happen. Does this make me sick? Anyone else think of this stuff, raping or being raped?

 

[Koroshinobi]

It doesn't make you weird it doesn't even make you sick, have you looked at the nonconsent story archive its huge!!!! alot of women have the same desires but fanstasy and reality don't always match. What is best is to find someone you trust who will help you play out your desires,
Good luck

 

[Slayer1985]

Thanx for your reply, really made me feel better. Still, I kinda want it to happen, but not really, i don't. but thank you.

 

[naxalite0906]

I dont want to dampen spirits or hijack the thread.. Fantasy is all good but I had a gf who was raped and i can tell you now.. it was a horrific thing to deal with..

 

[Harper2808]

Male rape !

although male - I fantasize about it happening to me !

 

[gldflcn]

Evening

Thanx for your reply, really made me feel better. Still, I kinda want it to happen, but not really, i don't. but thank you.

Are you sexually submissive? I have found that in relationships, both in RL and online, women who are sexually submissive tend to have this fantasy. I do not think that you are sick or twisted or strange in any way. I believe that everyone has there sexual likes, dislikes, turn-ons, etc. I do not, in any way, condone the actual act of a forced, sexual assault. I use that term to define what is being discussed here. I think that if you are that interested, you explore. There are many safe ways that this can be accomplished. The first is do you have a partner that you trust? Could be a BF or a FB..whichever....but you set some rules...establish a 'safe word' that when used all activity stops. Next discuss that you would be comfortable with, then put the plan in motion.
Obviously for the 'real' thing you wouldn't want to know when he was coming over or when he was going to do this. So that part will be left up to him, to some extent. I would be interested in hearing how this goes for you, or if you would like discussing more please pm.
good luck.

 

[speedy tortoise]

I adore being 'forced' but I think for me it is not so much a rape issue as an 'it's out of my control' issue.

I love being forced to do something that is possibly not the norm, possibly something I would never even dream of doing.

Having said that, I have had many a dream fantasy of being forcibly gang banged ... but that's what fantasy is all about, doing something that is possibly unsafe in a safe environment ... ie, in my own little mind

 

[Slayer1985]

I dont want to dampen spirits or hijack the thread.. Fantasy is all good but I had a gf who was raped and i can tell you now.. it was a horrific thing to deal with..

i am sorry... I too WAS raped, but not the way I fantasize about. I don't really ever tell anyone this because it is so embarassing, but I was raped anally... while having REGULAR consentual sex with someone, he had me lay on my stomach, which I thought nothing unusual because I had done so many times. But then he pinned my arms down and my legs w/ his and ramed himself in my ass. It took me a week to say a word, but then I started to bleed from that 'area' so I had to tell my grandma and go to the hospital. I still can't stand to see, or even hear about anal sex, I break into tears every time. But for some reason that hasn't hindered my fantasies any? God, I wish I wouldn't have even thought about that... anyway, me and my boyfriend, the first time we had sex I had him 'pretend' rape me, and oh god did I love it! He's really muscular too so that made it all the better... even though I like to fantasize about older, kinda scruffy men doing it, like a big trucker or something like that.

 

[escape15213]

25M PA, PM me if you want to talk some more.

 

[Slayer1985]

Hmmmm....

 

[Erotic-Kiss]

I am a 20 year old female and I feel like I am fucked up in the head because I CONSTANTLY fantasize about being raped. For as long as I can remember I have thought about this, I know if it were to really happen I would be mortified but it seems it's become an obsession for me. I came on here and found some rape stories and even wrote one myself, describing pretty much how I would want it to happen. Does this make me sick? Anyone else think of this stuff, raping or being raped?

You're not sick at all. Being taken forcibly is a normal fantasy. But I hate the idea of calling it "rape" fantasy. If you want it, it's not rape, even if you fight. Rape is an ugly thing.. .there is nothing sexual about it. So, you don't want to be raped..... you want to PLAY at being raped....

Semantics. I know.

 

[Slayer1985]

I've been 'play' raped before, it was good... but i want to feel the fear of it... I don't know, being afraid while having sex gets me off so hard.

 

[xxxyz]

sorry to hear about that experience; if you ever need a shoulder to cry on (or a lap to bend across) drop me a line.

i am sorry... I too WAS raped, but not the way I fantasize about. I don't really ever tell anyone this because it is so embarassing, but I was raped anally... while having REGULAR consentual sex with someone, he had me lay on my stomach, which I thought nothing unusual because I had done so many times. But then he pinned my arms down and my legs w/ his and ramed himself in my ass. It took me a week to say a word, but then I started to bleed from that 'area' so I had to tell my grandma and go to the hospital. I still can't stand to see, or even hear about anal sex, I break into tears every time. But for some reason that hasn't hindered my fantasies any? God, I wish I wouldn't have even thought about that... anyway, me and my boyfriend, the first time we had sex I had him 'pretend' rape me, and oh god did I love it! He's really muscular too so that made it all the better... even though I like to fantasize about older, kinda scruffy men doing it, like a big trucker or something like that.

 

[Slayer1985]

sorry to hear about that experience; if you ever need a shoulder to cry on (or a lap to bend across) drop me a line.

well thank you

 

[stageleft]

play rape

I've been 'play' raped before, it was good... but i want to feel the fear of it... I don't know, being afraid while having sex gets me off so hard.

my girlfriend adores role-play rape..when she had some old dresses to throw out she urged me to rip and tear them off her..this led to some fantastic frenzied sex,not sure how to initiate the fear factor you crave for..i once gripped my girlfriends head and pushed it down wedging my cock in her throat..she gasped heavily fearing she was unable to breathe..& wanted to try it over & over again

 

[Slayer1985]

my girlfriend adores role-play rape..when she had some old dresses to throw out she urged me to rip and tear them off her..this led to some fantastic frenzied sex,not sure how to initiate the fear factor you crave for..i once gripped my girlfriends head and pushed it down wedging my cock in her throat..she gasped heavily fearing she was unable to breathe..& wanted to try it over & over again

I wouldn't know how to add in the fear factor either... thats why it's so frustrating...

 

[psiwolf13]

adding fear

ok. Some thoughts. Some of these have been used by me, others by people i know. First USE A SAFE WORD!!. If you don't know what that is, it's a word you and your partner use to END the scene. Make sure it's something nonsensical, something that WON'T come up in the scene. "no" isn't a good safeword. "watermelon" is. Next, (assuming a female, sub/ victim) ladies be in a ratty dress or something you don't mind getting torn. The ideas follow: Agree on a day but not a time. Let the guy decide that, and make sure he's got a key to the house/ apartment whatever. Best if you have the day off. (do make sure he knows exactly where you live, would be rather bad if he broke into the wrong aprtment). The idea is that you know it's going to happen, but not when or how. Guy's be creative. Gags aren't the best idea, also don't grab the throat. It's too easy to choke and cause serious pain. Blindfolds are great. Blindfolding her, tying her down, taking her. Then try tying her in a different position, then leaving her there. I did this to a girlfriend. I left her there for 15 minutes while i changed all my clothes and came back in and took her again, wearing a different type of condom. She thought for a momemt that i was someone ELSE. Really scared her and i did have to reassure her it was only me. Remember that scent can be disguised. Well thats all i have for now.

 

[Private_Label]

I am a 20 year old female and I feel like I am fucked up in the head because I CONSTANTLY fantasize about being raped. For as long as I can remember I have thought about this, I know if it were to really happen I would be mortified but it seems it's become an obsession for me. I came on here and found some rape stories and even wrote one myself, describing pretty much how I would want it to happen. Does this make me sick? Anyone else think of this stuff, raping or being raped?

I don't think I would like being raped. But I do fantasize about being pinned down and being roughly taken as I struggle against it.

I am very self confident, so it isn't that I am shy or anything.

Maybe it is that I am (or need to feel) in total control of my life, this is one area that in order to njoy it I have to give up control and be overpowered by the feelings.

 

[thrity]

I'm a guy, I can never imagine I'm able to rape anyone. Firstly, it's not fun at all, secondly, I even couldn't get erotic when the woman is not in the mood.
I doubt someone is able to do it.

 

[MasterSnatch]

Not sure if anyone else said it because I'm too tired to read everything right now but a lot of women fantasize about rape. Its that lose of control and power that turns on many, that they get taken forcefully.

Now it doesn't mean women actually WANT to be raped, fantasy and reality are two different things. Its just one of those things some like to think about and enjoy "rping" but having it happen to them is often a different matter entirely.

It certainly doesn't make you sick or anything, its much more common than you may realize.

 

[Gibbons]

There's nothing wrong with your fantasy. Many people fantasize about things that they wouldn't find exciting outside of playing. Taken in the context of fantasy or play, a rape fantasy becomes a very sexual experience. It's similar to the way that someone can enjoy being spanked when it's part of a game or when it's combined with caresses or kisses, but wouldn't particularly enjoy it if a random stranger walked up and whapped them on the butt.

Bottom line, if you enjoy it and it's not hurting anyone, have fun with it.

 

[Slayer1985]

There's nothing wrong with your fantasy. Many people fantasize about things that they wouldn't find exciting outside of playing. Taken in the context of fantasy or play, a rape fantasy becomes a very sexual experience. It's similar to the way that someone can enjoy being spanked when it's part of a game or when it's combined with caresses or kisses, but wouldn't particularly enjoy it if a random stranger walked up and whapped them on the butt.

Bottom line, if you enjoy it and it's not hurting anyone, have fun with it.

You are right.... Sometimes i've fantasized about a certain person I know raping me, I don't know, but sometimes I feel that if it really happened, I know I wouldn't want it, but I feel it would stop my constant obsessing about it... It really gets to me sometimes... I just asked my b/f if he would partake in a little play and he smiled and said "oh yeah!" so that will be fun!

 

[psiwolf13]

good luck with that. try some of the stuff suggested. have fun with it

 

[Akiko 1]

shared fantasy...

Hey there Slayer1985, you are totally NOT alone as others have assured you. I too am in the same situation as you with this 'fantasy' and for awhile too, I thought I was crazy! I am all for the fantasy of forced sex, being tied down, and fucked hard and rough by one or more guys, as I am pleasured and pleasing others. I don't however condone the violence or bloodshed that comes with the actual rape 'crime', then it veres off of trail of 'fantasy'. I am glad that your bf shares this fantasy with you, as my hubby doesn't. So if there are guys out there, preferably older (+40) and would like to discuss more about this and share some thoughts with me, please feel free to PM me. Good luck with your fantasy slayer1985, and wish me luck in my online quest!

 

[bridget8181]

I'm sure everything I have to say has been said, but I just wanted to throw in my two cents and let Slayer know she's not alone. I'm a 23-year-old female who has had forced sex fantasies for as long as I can remember. It took me a long time to reconcile this with my strong sense of feminism, but I realized what was underlying the fantasy was a perfectly normal female trait: the need to be desired.

What it is, I think, is that I want to be manhandled by someone whose desire for me is too strong to contain. I want a guy to want me so badly that he's willing to take me by force without regard to whether I want it or not. Maybe this will ring a bell for you; maybe your fantasies have other roots. But I assure you, like everyone else has said, it's not uncommon or abnormal or something to be ashamed of.

You've got a leg up, if your powerful muscular bf is game to play out these fantasies with you. I should be so lucky; my bf is perfect in every way except he's on the sub side, like me. He's willing to try anything in bed but it's just not very convincing for him to "rape" me when the whole time I know he'd much rather be pinned under me instead.