Fantasies and the Extreme

[devinity7]

I'm sure there are lots of threads here about fantasies and fetishes. All as erotic and unique as the individuals that share their ideas. I was wondering though, if my fantasy doesn't include any kink or extremely erotic pleasures and is a little more vanilla; does that make it not a legit fantasy?

Aren't fantasies something we have never had a chance to experience or something we think we might not ever experience? If I've never made love to anyone and that is my primary desire to have a very passionate encounter, am I boring?

I admit I enjoy kink, love the erotic and have a submissive side, but I feel all that could be enhanced if I were to experience some true passion with someone.

Any thoughts?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I'm sure there are lots of threads here about fantasies and fetishes. All as erotic and unique as the individuals that share their ideas. I was wondering though, if my fantasy doesn't include any kink or extremely erotic pleasures and is a little more vanilla; does that make it not a legit fantasy?

Aren't fantasies something we have never had a chance to experience or something we think we might not ever experience? If I've never made love to anyone and that is my primary desire to have a very passionate encounter, am I boring?

I admit I enjoy kink, love the erotic and have a submissive side, but I feel all that could be enhanced if I were to experience some true passion with someone.

Any thoughts?

Nothing comes to mind.

 

[devinity7]

Perhaps this isn't a place to discuss it. If not, my apologies.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Perhaps this isn't a place to discuss it. If not, my apologies.

It's as good a place as any...maybe not church.

 

[devinity7]

It's as good a place as any...maybe not church.

Wish I had known that sooner....The priest now looks at me funny.

 

[bluesbro28]

Passion is what gets you to bed, kink and games are what make you wanna stay

The amount of times me n the wife wanna make slow passionate love is unreal yet half way thru we can't control the hidden desires to be dominant, kinky and damn right filthy.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Wish I had known that sooner....The priest now looks at me funny.

You're Catholic? So sorry.

 

[devinity7]

You're Catholic? So sorry.

Ok, I had to laugh... I get that statement, completely. And I hope no one thinks I had actually gone to confession with this issue. I eliminate the middle man on most things.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Ok, I had to laugh... I get that statement, completely. And I hope no one thinks I had actually gone to confession with this issue. I eliminate the middle man on most things.

So you like men?

 

[blackleggings]

Ok, I had to laugh... I get that statement, completely. And I hope no one thinks I had actually gone to confession with this issue. I eliminate the middle man on most things.

I'm Catholic. Or was. Or still am on paper. I'm sure confession time is the highlight of the week for priests.

 

[fluffPE]

I'm Catholic. Or was. Or still am on paper. I'm sure confession time is the highlight of the week for priests.

You have been naughty?

 

[rosco rathbone]

"legit" lol. What does that even mean? Who would have standing to decide?

 

[blackleggings]

You have been naughty?

Not today! I have a clean slate today.

 

[fluffPE]

Not today! I have a clean slate today.

You may skip confession today, then.

 

[devinity7]

So you like men?

Very much so...

 

[devinity7]

I'm Catholic. Or was. Or still am on paper. I'm sure confession time is the highlight of the week for priests.

I agree.

 

[heatsink]

I agree.

Back to your original question, I think it's quite legitimate to bring up here.

What you are talking about I think is the starting point of most relationships between strangers. On a first chance meeting for example, two experienced and committed BDSM lovers are not going to end up in the extremes of their preferences within the first hour, no I personally think its a good question.

 

[devinity7]

Back to your original question, I think it's quite legitimate to bring up here.

What you are talking about I think is the starting point of most relationships between strangers. On a first chance meeting for example, two experienced and committed BDSM lovers are not going to end up in the extremes of their preferences within the first hour, no I personally think its a good question.

Thank you for saying so. I don't feel (personally) that I can truly appreciate fulfilling fantasies of kink or eroticism, until I can first have a passionate one on one experience. I wondered if others felt the same.

 

[heatsink]

Thank you for saying so. I don't feel (personally) that I can truly appreciate fulfilling fantasies of kink or eroticism, until I can first have a passionate one on one experience. I wondered if others felt the same.

I have a further thought in that direction. I've had unfulfilled fantasies that have eventually become played out realities and the outcome is sometimes surprising. On the one hand the realization can fuel an ongoing bushfire of experience and at the other extreme nothing but a damp squib.
To me that is one aspect which makes the question so valid, the unpredictability.

 

[devinity7]

I have a further thought in that direction. I've had unfulfilled fantasies that have eventually become played out realities and the outcome is sometimes surprising. On the one hand the realization can fuel an ongoing bushfire of experience and at the other extreme nothing but a damp squib.
To me that is one aspect which makes the question so valid, the unpredictability.

Yes, damp squib is a drag.

 

[Erosfan]

Thank you for saying so. I don't feel (personally) that I can truly appreciate fulfilling fantasies of kink or eroticism, until I can first have a passionate one on one experience. I wondered if others felt the same.

You have to crawl before you walk and walk before you run.
There must be a starting point, so your question is quite valid as are your feelings.
Your thoughts and feelings are very normal.

 

[run_silent]

I'm sure there are lots of threads here about fantasies and fetishes. All as erotic and unique as the individuals that share their ideas. I was wondering though, if my fantasy doesn't include any kink or extremely erotic pleasures and is a little more vanilla; does that make it not a legit fantasy?

Aren't fantasies something we have never had a chance to experience or something we think we might not ever experience? If I've never made love to anyone and that is my primary desire to have a very passionate encounter, am I boring?

I admit I enjoy kink, love the erotic and have a submissive side, but I feel all that could be enhanced if I were to experience some true passion with someone.

Any thoughts?

OK, I don't know you so I maybe wrong. I suspect you are very sexual and that's how you start out a relationship. Perhaps you should finding the passion before you have sex.

 

[tactful]

Another deeply perverted thread.

 

[SeaDaddy1]

I'm sure there are lots of threads here about fantasies and fetishes. All as erotic and unique as the individuals that share their ideas. I was wondering though, if my fantasy doesn't include any kink or extremely erotic pleasures and is a little more vanilla; does that make it not a legit fantasy?

Aren't fantasies something we have never had a chance to experience or something we think we might not ever experience? If I've never made love to anyone and that is my primary desire to have a very passionate encounter, am I boring?

I admit I enjoy kink, love the erotic and have a submissive side, but I feel all that could be enhanced if I were to experience some true passion with someone.

Any thoughts?

I think if I win the lottery, I'll have the chance to fulfill a a lot of fantasies.

 

[devinity7]

You have to crawl before you walk and walk before you run.
There must be a starting point, so your question is quite valid as are your feelings.
Your thoughts and feelings are very normal.

True, I'm prepared to crawl.

OK, I don't know you so I maybe wrong. I suspect you are very sexual and that's how you start out a relationship. Perhaps you should finding the passion before you have sex.

I think you're right on this one....could be a part of the problem.

I think if I win the lottery, I'll have the chance to fulfill a a lot of fantasies.

Oh, so there lies my issue, I must first obtain fortune, then it will all fall into place? Who'd a thunk it?