Family acceptance how do you know ?

[sexy-girl]

how did you know that your family had accepted your sexuality

i mean i imagine sometimes its obvious when they haven't

when i first told my family they were cool with it but at first i wasn't sure if they had accepted it or if they were just going along with it because they knew they had no choice


i am sure my family have accepted it now but i cant remember a specific time when i felt ah ha thats it they've accepted it

 

[Pookie]

Mine never made my being bisexual an issue with me. They've never really treated me differently because of it either. Mine seemed to accept it as just part of who I am. I know my situation is very different than what others have experienced though. If I was a lesbian, I'd wonder if their reaction would be very different. But knowing them as they are, I seriously doubt it.

 

[Cigan]

If they can still laugh with you about the same things they always laughed with you about, and give you a rough time because you're family and it's their solemn duty to embaress you at every turn, because well that's what families do. And these things are still ok, and you bring your boy/girl/samesex mate over and they can laugh with them as well, then I think those are good signs.

 

[Queersetti]

how did you know that your family had accepted your sexuality

i mean i imagine sometimes its obvious when they haven't

when i first told my family they were cool with it but at first i wasn't sure if they had accepted it or if they were just going along with it because they knew they had no choice


i am sure my family have accepted it now but i cant remember a specific time when i felt ah ha thats it they've accepted it

I understand what you mean. It's sort of like we are all conditioned by movies, tv, etc. to except some dramatic emotional breakthrough, and I am sure it happens with some people, But for most of us, I think reaching that level of acceptance from our families is something that is achieved incrementally through our daily lives.

 

[sexy-girl]

Re: Re: Family acceptance how do you know ?

I understand what you mean. It's sort of like we are all conditioned by movies, tv, etc. to except some dramatic emotional breakthrough, and I am sure it happens with some people, But for most of us, I think reaching that level of acceptance from our families is something that is achieved incrementally through our daily lives.

yeah thats exactly what i was trying to say really ... but i also was wondering if some people did feel that dramatic breakthrough

 

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[Mistress K]

My Dad has been pretty cool from the beginning but I guess I realised he truly accepted it when he said he would help me move into my girlfriends place and spent the day with us, no dramas whatsoever.

My Mum on the other hand still hasn't excepted it, she is very cold towards me and will not even mention my girlfriends name. We talk a bit better now but she won't talk to me about my life which is a little sad.

 

[sexy-girl]

My Dad has been pretty cool from the beginning but I guess I realised he truly accepted it when he said he would help me move into my girlfriends place and spent the day with us, no dramas whatsoever.

My Mum on the other hand still hasn't excepted it, she is very cold towards me and will not even mention my girlfriends name. We talk a bit better now but she won't talk to me about my life which is a little sad.

thats sweet about your dad ... i guess for me when i felt my family actually getting on with my girlfriend and liking her as a person that helped me realize that they were cool with it

im sorry your mother is having a hard time with it but like Q said sometimes i guess things just happen slowly and you don't get that big wham ... things will just maybe get better without you even noticing it

 

[sigh]

My mom has always been cool about it, but it wasn't all that long ago that my mom came to visit while my love was staying over. It was the first time that I'd slept with a woman while my mom was in the house.

It made me nervous, in fact I started a thread (over in the GB) about it that night, after the two of them were sleeping, though it turned out it was much more a problem for me than for either of them. The next morning I found them in their jammies sharing coffee in the kitchen, talking and laughing like old friends.

Since then, I haven't even questioned acceptance. Until that day I knew that my mom was cool, but now I really know it.

It's a good feeling.

 

[Mistress K]

thats sweet about your dad ... i guess for me when i felt my family actually getting on with my girlfriend and liking her as a person that helped me realize that they were cool with it

im sorry your mother is having a hard time with it but like Q said sometimes i guess things just happen slowly and you don't get that big wham ... things will just maybe get better without you even noticing it

Thanks for that. I'm sure my Mum will come around in time because she knows she will lose me if she doesn't. I don't mean that i'll stop speaking to her but there is only so much we can discuss without getting personal. I'm giving her the space that she needs and don't push any issues related to the topic and hope that she will understand in her own time.

 

[CharleyH]

The only thing I got from my brother was, "Whatever." He has never blinked an eye.

From my parents . . .in a 'big' dramatic cry session because I FELT like I was disappointing them . . . "We love you, and whatever makes you happy. We just want you to be happy." They have treated me the same since.

With my Grandmother, much more recently instead of telling me happy BDay.
"Are you a lesbian?"
"Why?" And I laughed.
"Because you have short hair."
I laughed harder, "Well Gran, so do you."
Being 70-something, she didn't quite get it. "Don't worry, I won't convert you," I said.
She laughed, and has since read some of my erotica. OK . . . so granny-edited, but lesbian erotica nonetheless . . .