Falling out love....
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moondoggie
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DéjàNu said:
I've never fallen out of love...I think that love is different with each person that you have this feeling for...that way it's aways new and exciting. I still have feelings for a few that I loved in their own special way..***** moved on...and so did we. So I try to refrain from using the word love...until I'm very certain. How deep you love someone is very different however...
lovetoread
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I believe that you never fall out of love,once you feel it its always there.
It just changes.
I still love my ex,but not like a lover. Over the years it became,oh how do I put this,it was more like a mother,as I took care of everything for him. (in fact he is still emailing me to do things for him.)
He tried at the end to do the things I wanted and needed years ago,but it was too late.
So you cannot stop it when it already happens,this change,you should make sure it doesnt get that bad to begin with.
It just changes.
I still love my ex,but not like a lover. Over the years it became,oh how do I put this,it was more like a mother,as I took care of everything for him. (in fact he is still emailing me to do things for him.)
He tried at the end to do the things I wanted and needed years ago,but it was too late.
So you cannot stop it when it already happens,this change,you should make sure it doesnt get that bad to begin with.
freescorfr
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I've not ever fallen out of love either. My path has gone in a different direction from people I have loved, but there's always still a little flame burning within. I really don't believe love is finite - but life and it's possibilites are finite.
You're all right.. love doesn't end, it changes. HOwever.. it is the changing from feeling love as alover to love in other ways that is termed 'falling out of love'.
I've been there. My first love's father was a very traditional Indian man, and he treated his wife like a slave sometimes. My ex started to treat me like that after we'd been together a year, and I started to realize that this wasn't for me.. I began to see through objective eyes, not rose-colored glasses, and I began to loathe the way he spoke to me. I fell out of love.
My ex-fiance, it was the same thing.. he needed me too much. I loved him so passionately, it literally hurt me to be away from him,,,and then I started to realize how bad it was for me.. and my feelings began to change. I had become a strong woman who didn't NEED him there, but wanted him there, and he was still like a child that needed me. I hate to be needed. I'd rather be wanted. Eventually, my feelings changed from those of a lover to those of a mother, to those of annoyance that I wasn't his mother, I should only be a friend. Even when it was over, he still needed me intensely, and I eventually told him I couldn't talk to him or see him anymore, because I had begun to hate talking with him.
Falling out of love.
I've been there. My first love's father was a very traditional Indian man, and he treated his wife like a slave sometimes. My ex started to treat me like that after we'd been together a year, and I started to realize that this wasn't for me.. I began to see through objective eyes, not rose-colored glasses, and I began to loathe the way he spoke to me. I fell out of love.
My ex-fiance, it was the same thing.. he needed me too much. I loved him so passionately, it literally hurt me to be away from him,,,and then I started to realize how bad it was for me.. and my feelings began to change. I had become a strong woman who didn't NEED him there, but wanted him there, and he was still like a child that needed me. I hate to be needed. I'd rather be wanted. Eventually, my feelings changed from those of a lover to those of a mother, to those of annoyance that I wasn't his mother, I should only be a friend. Even when it was over, he still needed me intensely, and I eventually told him I couldn't talk to him or see him anymore, because I had begun to hate talking with him.
Falling out of love.
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I don't know if you really fall out of love. If you love someone to begin with, you are always going to feel something for them. But the intensity changes, and this I believe. I still *love* my ex-husband and care about what happens to him, but I'm not in love with him. I don't think I was ever in-love with him.
Now, my ex-beau, is a different story. I will always be a little bit in love with him. I think about him often and still include him in my prayers.
Now, my ex-beau, is a different story. I will always be a little bit in love with him. I think about him often and still include him in my prayers.
MorgaineLaFay
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DéjàNu said:
I don't think it is anything you can stop, but that is just my thinking. You can still love someone, and fall out of the in-love state with them.
dreamer
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If someone could explain this one to me I'd be a happy camper. Heh, I've never understood the whole 'falling out of love' with someone bit.
I am assuming we mean adult, one other person kinda love, not what a great puppy dog kinda love, or boy I love my mom kinda love.
I have loved three women in my life. My feelings will never change for them. They know who they are, and I'd jump in front of a bus for any one of them without a second thought.
I never claimed to not be a sucker...but that's just the way I am.
Oh well...
I am assuming we mean adult, one other person kinda love, not what a great puppy dog kinda love, or boy I love my mom kinda love.
I have loved three women in my life. My feelings will never change for them. They know who they are, and I'd jump in front of a bus for any one of them without a second thought.
I never claimed to not be a sucker...but that's just the way I am.
Oh well...
Ezzie
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I fell out of love with my now ex husband. Of course, that's after he fell out of our bed and into someone else's.
I knew that something wasn't right from day one, though. We married young, had a baby young and had only dated for a few months before both events occured. Sometimes I wonder if I even fell in love to begin with or if I was in love with the idea of being a wife and mother. Guess I'll never truly know.
I knew that something wasn't right from day one, though. We married young, had a baby young and had only dated for a few months before both events occured. Sometimes I wonder if I even fell in love to begin with or if I was in love with the idea of being a wife and mother. Guess I'll never truly know.
