Falling for a straight person
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I'm currently in this situation.I like a friend of mine but don't think I would ever make a move on him.Sometimes he acts a little feminine and playful around me and I tend to misunderstand it...I'd like to have a relationship with him as I like him a lot but I don't think anything will happen as, beside the minor doubts he causes me to have for his true sexuality, I think he is straight.Anyway good thing right now I also like a girl somewhat and I can focus there
But if I'm ever given the chance to do something with this guy I'll take it in an instant!
But if I'm ever given the chance to do something with this guy I'll take it in an instant!
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No, but weirdly I have never really been attracted to another Bisexual woman - only lesbians. Of course, that might be because I know more lesbians.
Actually, that's not true. I'd do Licky.
But I meant more with people I interact(ed) with regularly IRL.
Actually, that's not true. I'd do Licky.
But I meant more with people I interact(ed) with regularly IRL.
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11 years!
AWESOME! Congrats to you! Troublemaker! (tee hee)
ravenmx said:I fell for a straight person 12 years ago. We have been together for 11 years.
She had never been with another women, married for 18 years, but had some "thoughts".
In my case it worked out good.
AWESOME! Congrats to you! Troublemaker! (tee hee)
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And I thought that it was just me!
Why haven't I come across a handsome bi/gay?
I know three and they all suck big time!lol, and it could be literally!
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I've never really kept a torch for a straight chick. I don't walk around going "is she, ain't she" -- I tend to have a very direct, almost thick brain when it comes to attraction, and I tend to be pretty oblivious to flirtation. That's not to say I have to know someone's orientation before thinking "oh, she's hot" but in terms of falling for, I usually can't get that excited without knowing.
If I find out a woman isn't straight, only then does it occur to me to get seriously interested if she is indeed, seriously interesting.
If I find out a woman isn't straight, only then does it occur to me to get seriously interested if she is indeed, seriously interesting.
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I fell for a straight person right after the X left me (OMG, that was almost 2 years ago) He is handsome, whitty, financialy set...OH, I think i misunderstood this thread, becuase I am a woman and he was a man. You mean, like if a woman falls for the neighbors wife...
Anyway...I love this man and he loves me, and I just hated that I couldn't be intimate with him...it was totaly a soul mate thing. We are still te best of friends...and he has found a nice woman to be with.
I guess on the gay scale I might only be a 3...now that i told that secret.
Anyway...I love this man and he loves me, and I just hated that I couldn't be intimate with him...it was totaly a soul mate thing. We are still te best of friends...and he has found a nice woman to be with.
I guess on the gay scale I might only be a 3...now that i told that secret.
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deezire1900 said:
I guess the real point was something you shed light on, deezire. Someone who is UNAVAILABLE or is supposed to be unavailable to you.
I usually do not fall for anyone unless they reciprocate by flirting and obvious display of feelings. And by "fall" I do not necessarily mean "in love".
Mostly, it would be "in lust", until they show a deeper desire for something more.
Stu...you're right. The act of falling in any manner has a stopping point. It's just delaying the stopping point that may be the attraction.
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I usually do not fall for anyone unless they reciprocate by flirting and obvious display of feelings. And by "fall" I do not necessarily mean "in love".
I like the chase. But that only lasts so long, then I want someone to reciprocate some love/lust my way.
I do believe in Lust at first sight, but not love at first sight.
I like the chase. But that only lasts so long, then I want someone to reciprocate some love/lust my way.
I do believe in Lust at first sight, but not love at first sight.
No I don't agree with the falling in love at first site idea. Flirting and meeting someone by the lustful feeling is understandable and alot of young people seem to mistake that for love.
I actually had an interesting discussion with someone today about how men dont mistake that feeling while girls do alot.
As for the straight question, it is possible to date someone who's straight. It does get twitchy now and then but you just work through it. Its also very nice to have deep conversations about it.
I actually had an interesting discussion with someone today about how men dont mistake that feeling while girls do alot.
As for the straight question, it is possible to date someone who's straight. It does get twitchy now and then but you just work through it. Its also very nice to have deep conversations about it.
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The place I am volunteering at right now to pick some IT experience strikes me as *possibly* being bi-sexual. Today I saw a picture of him and his wife up on the filing cabinet behind his office chair. She's a real cute red-head. Back to him. Even though he does act pretty macho, I don't know what it is (and perhaps this is pretty dangerous territory to be wandering in, LOL) but I am physically drawn to him. He dresses well, is about 5'10" and muscular. I think what turns me on more than anything is that while he is pretty strict with me -- he tells ME what to do, even though I am much stronger than him in certain aspects of computer system administration -- he thanks me a lot for being there. I know, I know, he's been nice and is thankful that I am volunteering my time there. Still, I do fantasize about him and the "what if we had an adventure"....now, I am also drawn to the Assistant Manager that works the front desk, too....so my hot ass is in deep water it seems. 
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Instinct tells me the guy could be the type that would make me suck his cock, then beat the living shit out of me. Can't say I want ALL that, but today I did follow him out of his office on the way to the tech room so that he could give me some projects to work on. I lightly pushed him in the back to let him know that I was back there. I love touching male superiors.
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PanosGreece said:I'm currently in this situation.I like a friend of mine but don't think I would ever make a move on him.Sometimes he acts a little feminine and playful around me and I tend to misunderstand it...I'd like to have a relationship with him as I like him a lot but I don't think anything will happen as, beside the minor doubts he causes me to have for his true sexuality, I think he is straight.Anyway good thing right now I also like a girl somewhat and I can focus there
But if I'm ever given the chance to do something with this guy I'll take it in an instant!
Ditto- but it's a woman!
Actually, I've never been anything more than 'curious' myself. But she makes me feel more than curious... eager
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I have not had the pleasure of being attracted to someone at work.
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deezire1900 said:I have not had the pleasure of being attracted to someone at work.
It can be very dangerous to do so, yet VERY erotic. I find it so erotic simply because very likely nothing ever will happen. Therefore, I can always just fantasize and hopefully get in a little teasing here and there.
funwdi said:How many of you out there have fallen for a straight person? What were the results? How many of you found out that they were not really purely "straight"?
back in 1984/85-ish(?) I had a roomate who was very good looking and very straight but very cool about me being gay, at least until that one night when I just had to make a pass at him and in an instant the friendship was damaged beyond reasonable repair. Without going into too many details I will just say that this is an issue to be very careful with. If they (he/she) know that you are gay then let them make the move first or not at all is my overall rule of thumb.
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I fear that this is exactly what's going to happen and that's why I haven't made a move.I'm pretty sure he would tell me if he liked me.
I have a question:
Today I was with some friends and there was this guy, whom I don't know very well(just typical behaviour-hi!,What's up, this kinds of stuff)..
I know nothing of his sexual orientation and while I thought he was straight now he pretty much confused me.He kept calling me Babe and stuff after each sentence and when we were about to leave I ducked to pick up something and he said:"That's the position I want you!"
I mean, ok it's funny for a while, but what's the deal here?Do I know you THAT well mister?And as I'm evil enough I'm now trying to freak him out by actually responding to his 'calls for love'
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