Falling for a married woman and I want to know....

[kingem125]

I want none of this but shes married business becaues I know women especially younger women rush into relationships and want to get married then regret it.

So let's call her m. M is incredibly easy to to talk to. Shes cute and about my age im 21 and shes 23. Shes a sweetheart and so am I. She is incredible.

The more I talk to her the more I feel I would love to come home to her every day, hold her care for her ect.

I know we havent talked for to long yet, so.theese feelings sound rushed and insane..

we talk a lot when we do talk.

Im sure she likes me but not 100%.

I approached her yesterday. We talked for like 15 min solid. Then again later.

She wore her ring yesterday but I didnt see it today. When we talk she asks questions about me like where do you live,do you live with your folks ect.Yesterday I didnt see a whole lot of her.

today I see her constantly where ever I end up being frequently at work.

I try not to approach to much incase she doesnt feel the same.

when our eyes meet we smile.

She does say hi in the morning if we see each other.She seems truely excited to see me.

Also shes pregnant. She doesn't talk much about the man other then one brief mentioning yesterday.

she was like wtf when I said I feel like I want to wait on kids. Im mad I said that cus I dont care I will raise the kid. Im Sure I can give her better then her man cus he makes very little money.

How would I know if she likes me back vs. Being friendly.

What should I watch for?

Also how should I let her know I would make an exception about the kid but only for her?

 

[fantasyman99]

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[kingem125]

No I wanna know for real tho

 

[atariblue]

let me get back to you. ill consult with my7th grader how he tells if a girl likes him.

this, this right here....I can't even........perhaps a note that says "do you like me" with boxes to check "yes" or "no"

 

[DrHappy]

Are you looking for someone to tell you that it’s okay pursue a married pregnant woman, and that it’s alright because of she might like you and that maybe she regrets her marriage? I’m sure that I’m not the only one here that thinks that this is a unwise and unethical move for a number of reasons.

This isn’t just something between you and her. There’s another guy involved. There’s also a child involved. What happens to the mother’s marriage will affect the life of the child significantly. Assuming that she’s susceptible to having an affair with you, don’t fuck around with this kid’s life.

Having kids can be stressful for a marriage. The pregnancy is rough for many moms. Hormones go crazy as well as brain chemistry. Some women deal with extreme fatigue, nausea, and emotional swings. Some don’t. Dealing with a newborn is always tough. You work 24-7 to keep a very demanding tiny pink helpless person alive. Intimacy between a woman and her husband tends to take a backseat to the priority of the baby, and hopefully, the couple has a strong foundation before this point. It’s not just the time involved, but there’s also sleep deprivation and emotional drain. There’s also the constant barrage of barf, pee, poop, and dirty diapers. It makes for a real romantic love nest. It’s a time that can be exhausting for the mom and the father. Sometimes, the mother deals with post-partum depression after the baby is born. It’s a time that can stress the relationship. Hopefully, some dickhead didn’t take advantage of her during a weak moment during the pregnancy to entice her to cheat on the father.

I’m not excusing any bad behavior of the father, but this can be a difficult time for men as well. Some men deal with it well. Some men have trouble dealing with the physical changes in her body. Some men have trouble reconciling that this mother is someone who still wants to be romantic (Madonna-whore syndrome). Sometimes, there is friction when the man wants to continue romance, while the woman can only focus on being a mother. Maybe he holds her responsible for a pregnancy that he wasn’t ready for. Maybe she hasn’t behaved as nicely as she should have. Sometimes, the hormones can make someone do and say mean things. Maybe they simply have had misunderstandings. However, most marriages have rough spots. Their marriage may be stronger than ever if they work through it together.

Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Let’s say a friend comes up with you and says:

Friend: Hey, I’ve found this great girl. I think that she’s marrying material!
You: Great! Have you met her family?
Friend: No…. well… she’s married.
You: Oh. That’s not good. What are you thinking? She doesn’t have any kids, does she?
Friend: Not yet, but she’s pregnant from her current husband. I don’t think it will be a problem, though.
You: You’re delusional.

She's young and dealing with her first child. It's not surprising that her marriage may not be as easy as she expected. If she’s a great person, an ethical guy might befriend her and potentially try to help her through any relationship issues she’s having with her husband. However, using this opportunity to get into her pants is a dick move and a bad idea. You won’t be happy if you manage to succeed.

 

[TxTallGuy]

Are you looking for someone to tell you that it’s okay pursue a married pregnant woman, and that it’s alright because of she might like you and that maybe she regrets her marriage? I’m sure that I’m not the only one here that thinks that this is a unwise and unethical move for a number of reasons.

This isn’t just something between you and her. There’s another guy involved. There’s also a child involved. What happens to the mother’s marriage will affect the life of the child significantly. Assuming that she’s susceptible to having an affair with you, don’t fuck around with this kid’s life.

Having kids can be stressful for a marriage. The pregnancy is rough for many moms. Hormones go crazy as well as brain chemistry. Some women deal with extreme fatigue, nausea, and emotional swings. Some don’t. Dealing with a newborn is always tough. You work 24-7 to keep a very demanding tiny pink helpless person alive. Intimacy between a woman and her husband tends to take a backseat to the priority of the baby, and hopefully, the couple has a strong foundation before this point. It’s not just the time involved, but there’s also sleep deprivation and emotional drain. There’s also the constant barrage of barf, pee, poop, and dirty diapers. It makes for a real romantic love nest. It’s a time that can be exhausting for the mom and the father. Sometimes, the mother deals with post-partum depression after the baby is born. It’s a time that can stress the relationship. Hopefully, some dickhead didn’t take advantage of her during a weak moment during the pregnancy to entice her to cheat on the father.

I’m not excusing any bad behavior of the father, but this can be a difficult time for men as well. Some men deal with it well. Some men have trouble dealing with the physical changes in her body. Some men have trouble reconciling that this mother is someone who still wants to be romantic (Madonna-whore syndrome). Sometimes, there is friction when the man wants to continue romance, while the woman can only focus on being a mother. Maybe he holds her responsible for a pregnancy that he wasn’t ready for. Maybe she hasn’t behaved as nicely as she should have. Sometimes, the hormones can make someone do and say mean things. Maybe they simply have had misunderstandings. However, most marriages have rough spots. Their marriage may be stronger than ever if they work through it together.

Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Let’s say a friend comes up with you and says:

Friend: Hey, I’ve found this great girl. I think that she’s marrying material!
You: Great! Have you met her family?
Friend: No…. well… she’s married.
You: Oh. That’s not good. What are you thinking? She doesn’t have any kids, does she?
Friend: Not yet, but she’s pregnant from her current husband. I don’t think it will be a problem, though.
You: You’re delusional.

She's young and dealing with her first child. It's not surprising that her marriage may not be as easy as she expected. If she’s a great person, an ethical guy might befriend her and potentially try to help her through any relationship issues she’s having with her husband. However, using this opportunity to get into her pants is a dick move and a bad idea. You won’t be happy if you manage to succeed.

Seconded, Thirded, and Fourthed! It is *not* a good idea. She's married. She's under a lot of stress expecting a new child. Do not go down this road, it will only cause pain and frustration for all involved. If situations change, and she decides to dissolve her marriage, then let that be her decision. Don't be the reason it happens.

 

[FantasyXY]

Jackwagon

I say go ahead and tell her how you feel about her... Then prepare to have your heart ripped out and crushed by her rejection.

Oh, wait, that's the fear that made you write start this tread in the first place.

Aside from your crush on this woman, why on earth would you want to do harm to your fellow man. Think about how you would feel if you were this woman's husband and some young Jackwagon like yourself was trying to steal away his entire young family.

Believe it or not there are millions of single women in the world that are just as captivating at this one. Quit being lazy and go find one of them.

 

[Bookishleigh]

What should I watch for?

Also how should I let her know I would make an exception about the kid but only for her?

Divorce papers. But seriously, don't be that person - if she's willing to go behind her man's back with you, she is willing to do it to you too.

Although, perhaps she is just being nice and you're reading too much into it.

Plenty of fish out there (and not just the dating website).

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

She's knocked up with somebody else's kid (I missed whether it was her husband's or not) and you haven't fucked her yet (unless I missed that too). Are you Ralph or Potsie?

 

[Bottomlover]

I get it, but it will only lead to pain for one or both of you. It hurts, but let her go.

 

[WonderPonder]

Christ I choked while having a drink reading this.
Seriously though I believe what you have is an infatuation with this young lady. Pursuing it is wrong on ever level plan and simple.

She's knocked up with somebody else's kid (I missed whether it was her husband's or not) and you haven't fucked her yet (unless I missed that too). Are you Ralph or Potsie?

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't ever click on this forum. I meant to click GB, but my fat, Shrek like fingers brought me here. And this is the first thread, which sounded delightful. No one has given GB style advice, so I should.

Pros:
She has a history of fucking
She can't get pregnant
She likes unprotected sex
Her tits will only get bigger
You make more money than her poor ass baby daddy
She's definitely into you
She would appreciate the thought that you'd raise her kid from another man

Cons:
I can't think of a single one

Bro, you've gotta bump that baby sack with your dick TO-NIGHT!!!! Don't wait. I'm pretty sure she would welcome your nuts in her guts ASAP.

You're welcome.

 

[luci_smith]

You say you don't want any of the "she's married" stuff. I was married briefly when I was young and split from him after 5 months. Too long of a story to explain. So yeah, it can happen. I wasn't pregnant though (thankfully).

I also don't believe the "once a cheater always a cheater."

I'll talk about it from the other side. You don't want to be the other man. It's torturous. If she is unsure and strings you along it will be painful. And in the end, she might not chose you but you'll spend a lot of time wondering and worrying and hoping and wasting time when you could be out meeting someone else who is available. It's very hard to be in a relationship with someone who isn't really available... either emotionally or actually. . .

 

[Lord Pmann]

Why all the negative shit?! This seems like a Cracker Jack idea!

 

[SundayNew]

I want none of this but shes married business becaues I know women especially younger women rush into relationships and want to get married then regret it.

I had a friend ... a real loser ... loved everyone else's girlfriend, could never find his own, something safe in that? He didn't have to attempt to attract someone, he could just talk to them and slowly weasel his way into their life under the pretense of a friend. Always had to watch where you stepped if you walked behind him, lest you slip on the floor.

We finally got sick of him and cut ties (we being a group of friends).

A few billion women in the world ... you really need a woman who loves someone else?

 

[NickCarraway12]

What if her husband finds out that you're chasing his wife and he kills you?
You wouldn't get to enjoy talking with her anymore.

Some married women are looking for affairs, some are just flirting because it makes them feel like men still like them even though they're married and pregnant. Others flirt because of marital issues while some do it out of boredom.

 

[jomar]

What if her husband finds out that you're chasing his wife and he kills you?
You wouldn't get to enjoy talking with her anymore.

Some married women are looking for affairs, some are just flirting because it makes them feel like men still like them even though they're married and pregnant. Others flirt because of marital issues while some do it out of boredom.

You sound knowledgeable. Can you help the OP know how to approach her at the company picnic so he can get at least get a handjob?

 

[Aphro]

I don't ever click on this forum. I meant to click GB, but my fat, Shrek like fingers brought me here. And this is the first thread, which sounded delightful. No one has given GB style advice, so I should.

Pros:
She has a history of fucking
She can't get pregnant
She likes unprotected sex
Her tits will only get bigger
You make more money than her poor ass baby daddy
She's definitely into you
She would appreciate the thought that you'd raise her kid from another man

Cons:
I can't think of a single one

Bro, you've gotta bump that baby sack with your dick TO-NIGHT!!!! Don't wait. I'm pretty sure she would welcome your nuts in her guts ASAP.

You're welcome.

^^^^^^

This.

 

[NickCarraway12]

You sound knowledgeable. Can you help the OP know how to approach her at the company picnic so he can get at least get a handjob?

Sure. Walk up and ask. Cover your genitals when she tries to kick them, all the while you realizing that you had misinterpreted her friendliness for attraction.

 

[atariblue]

So, does OP work with this woman? What's the social situation? Do you see her daily or less often? Just trying to put the pieces of the puzzle together.

 

[imalickin]

Word to the wise...

If she's flirting with you and she's married to someone else...what do you think will change if she's married to you? And would she be home when you showed up?

And if the kid isn't her husbands...(you didn't say)...think about it.

 

[jomar]

Sure. Walk up and ask. Cover your genitals when she tries to kick them, all the while you realizing that you had misinterpreted her friendliness for attraction.

Thank you on his behalf.

 

[HornyJunkMail]

Hi OP you want to voluntarily put your balls/life in a vice? This woman is married and pregnant. Did it never occur to you that she just might look at you as a friend? Someone she can talk to and rely on AS A FRIEND. As other posters have pointed out do you really want to be the one to stick your oar in where it isn't wanted? Can you say car crash? Just because she talks to you for a whole 15 minutes isn't a signal from her that she's going to jack in her marriage. As the saying goes there are plenty of fish in the sea. Frankly, I'd leave this as a friendship (if it gets to that level). Trying to go beyond that isn't a good idea.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Normally I take the view that we are not responsible for a married person's sexual activity. They have a responsibility to their spouse. N one else does.

Having said that this situation is laden vulnerabilities and uncertainties. There are many possible scenarios but none seems to come with a lot of clear thinking. You may just be the "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" guy - reminiscent of her more carefree days and without the baggage of being a young married father to be.

Do you have an obligation to her husband? No you don't. But riding in there and trying to look like the good guy by comparison when you haven't the slightest fucking clue what is going on in their life would make you a douchy scumbag.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Also how should I let her know I would make an exception about the kid but only for her?

well.. she does smile when she looks at you.. that's sayin' somthin' right there. I'm not so sure about this last part though.
what the fuck (and I don't use the f word often).. but what the fuck do you mean by "make an exception"
and don't even answer. you have no idea what it means.