Fakes, Phonies and BS'ers...

[Arden]

Just curious how many here have been caught off-guard by Lit members that mislead others about their marital status, age, lifestyle, or anything that truly matters. Face it, we have little knowledge of those we talk to online. Maybe the mystery of it all compels us to trust more than we should?

Please, DON'T name names... this thread isn't for exposing people or getting back at those that may have deceived you. Just share your experience so that others may benefit from the knowledge we've gained collectively.

 

[alwaysawake]

Just curious how many here have been caught off-guard by Lit members that mislead others about their marital status, age, lifestyle, or anything that truly matters. Face it, we have little knowledge of those we talk to online. Maybe the mystery of it all compels us to trust more than we should?

Please, DON'T name names... this thread isn't for exposing people or getting back at those that may have deceived you. Just share your experience so that others may benefit from the knowledge we've gained collectively.

I had one lady who decived me about marital status and generally just put out a pack of lies. I won't offer any details, but suffice to say that she is a sexual predator on Lit who disappeared quickly when caught in her lies. I am straightforward about who I am and have met a couple of people here from Lit...I enjoyed it, and both are still good friends. Like Windows, I am WYSIWYG....What You See Is What You Get. LOL

 

[carrie-on]

I think that there are a lot of people who have been lied to online! I got really close to someone when I first came to Lit and even though I am married...it still hurt when I found out that he had lied to me about not being married and not having anykids. Finally one day,he told me he had been married for 12 yrs and had 3 kids. I wouldn't have cared had he told me from the beginning!

 

[PhilTheeG]

Too "virgin" on Literotica to have been lied to by it's members, but have been lied to online. Worst case was a woman who kept up the false image for a good eight months; that of a single student who babysat and put on webcam shows with her boobs and toy collection in her spare time. Eventually, the lies caught up and it turned out she was a mother of four looking to abandon her husband and kids (and responsibilities, etc.) to shack up with someone and start (probably the same process of getting pregnant, etc.) all over again. Was even willing to entertain foreign studs from India and the Middle East. Nice...

 

[Native Alien]

Thank you Arden for the thread. It needed to be done but it usually ends up a mess.

I think that we are all searching for that special someone and we are so into wanting to believe that we have found them that it clouds our judgement.

We won't listen to anyone else when it comes to caution. I know for me, the deception carried over into a 10 day stay with me by a man and the promise of much more. I was told he was widowed.

The truth of it, he was married. But with the ways things went with us, there were none of the usual red flags that went up. Now I tend to be a very "doubting Thomas" as to anything anyone says to me online.

 

[1sexylady]

I find no need to lie... I am who I am. If you like me fine and if not that is fine too.

I have met many people here on Lit....Wonderful people from my own State and from Conn. Mass. Maine, NY. Penn. So Carolina, No. Carolina, Tenn. Georgia, Wisconsin, etc.

I have been lucky and have not met anyone who is a fake yet but I am sure I will. I use my instincts it works every time.

 

[bashfull]

Heard my name mentioned...

I must confess...

I've lied about myself. My penis isn't really 3 inches long. It's only 2 3/4.

:O

Just attempting to provide some levity. Yet another great thread by the the Lady of Lit.



Bash

 

[midwestyankee]

Re: Heard my name mentioned...

I must confess...

I've lied about myself. My penis isn't really 3 inches long. It's only 2 3/4.

:O

Just attempting to provide some levity. Yet another great thread by the the Lady of Lit.



Bash

Geez, do you suppose all the guys who claim 8 are really only 7 and 3/4?

Seems to me, from admittedly limited experience here, that people have varying reasons for spending time posting to Lit threads. Sure, quite a few are looking for someone, but others are here for the entertainment or the company. I tend to see this place (virtual as it is) as a community. And in any community you get people who will lease a Cadillac to look more prosperous than they really are. And I think most of us recognize that kind of deception for what it is here.

I've only been fooled once, that I know of, and that was by someone who maintained more than one Lit ID for her own purposes. Fortunately, I figured it out and I wasn't looking for personal contact anyway. It just left me with a profound feeling of pity.

It's a shame people feel they have to behave dishonestly to accomplish their purposes, but hey, this is a part of the real world too. So why should this place be any different?

 

[Noor]

A married person who pretends to be single as such meets lit freinds in RL.

Someone who plays with and professes interest in someone as a means to stir up trouble with that person's other friends.

Someone who claiming to be not on line for a long period of time but merely using a second nick.

Someone attempting to gain confidences under false pretences.

General lies, ect.... women who claim they have 44dd's, slim hips, no neck or back problems, claiming that it is easy finding bras, yeah right...

I have heard of men pretending to be women in cyber from other men.

As for cock size- who the hell cares? This is online. Besides it ain't the meat, its the motion

 

[Arden]

There are also those that pose as your friends on the boards, but turn around and spread gossip about things that you may have confided in them. Be very careful what you say, and to whom.

 

[done_got_old]

I haven't, because I haven't gotten into deep conversations with many people. The two people I've talked to are supposedly straight men and I have no reason to believe otherwise -- yet.

 

[Missingmeds]

Been lied to on several occasion by men here. They even go so far as to set up dates and then just not show up. No explanation, no nothing.

That and lameassed excuses for not being able to show up.

Sad that we have to stand back to back with someone online to protect ourselves.

 

[moosie48360]

ok...i gotta add my two cents also...yea..it sucks..been on the receiving end of all the bullshit..and i've been accused of being too damn nice and too damn naive...but..that's how i am in real life..so i don't know any other way...can't be something i'm not...i just hope..that...ya learn by yer mistakes and that..ya don't let your guard down..and it never happens again..but.......

 

[Missingmeds]

Always that but there isn't there moosie. I know exactly what you mean.

 

[moosie48360]

Always that but there isn't there moosie. I know exactly what you mean.

 

[appleapps]

Yep, sucks to be lied to. Lying and saying you care about someone and really dont or saying you are single and really arent, those are sucky lies. Been lied to by men and women alike, I personally dont know how they do it. I cant lie, I wouldnt remember what I told someone if I lied to them, too hard to keep track if you ask me. If you have so much time that you can lie and keep track of your lies then you should do something useful, like write a book on "how to catch a liar".

 

[Guest]

I haven't been lied to really bad. I"ve been kind of blown off by people who've said they havn't been online, but i see them posting all over the boards lol

I just try to be open and honest. I love this site so much because there aren't many places where you can share so much of yourself and others, and still maintain the "safety". I've made some great friends on Lit and wouldn't trade them for anything.

 

[TantaLiza]

Been lied to, beaten and much more.... tend to give too much trust til it's proven otherwise.

I'm friend to all, male and female alike, but never come between anyone because it's been done to me... I try to be as honest as I can because I find no reason to lie. Online is just that... real life is totally another... Any questions??

 

[redelicious]

The sad part of the lie is when the person telling it starts to believe the fantasy they've created for themselves.

Some people become so good at it and are somehow able to find people who will buy into the story. I have a hard time trusting anyone, but even I have second guessed my instincts and ignored the advice of others because I *wanted* to believe.

 

[Arden]

The sad part of the lie is when the person telling it starts to believe the fantasy they've created for themselves.

Some people become so good at it and are somehow able to find people who will buy into the story. I have a hard time trusting anyone, but even I have second guessed my instincts and ignored the advice of others because I *wanted* to believe.

I think we all want to believe, deep down inside. That's only human.

 

[bra_man69]

hey every thing on the internet is true

 

[Arden]

*Drop kicks bra_man into the back 40*

 

[moosie48360]

hey every thing on the internet is true

SMACKS BRA MAN INTO NEVER NEVER LAND

 

[bra_man69]

hey now what did i do

mean people suck

 

[TantaLiza]

The sad part of the lie is when the person telling it starts to believe the fantasy they've created for themselves.

Some people become so good at it and are somehow able to find people who will buy into the story. I have a hard time trusting anyone, but even I have second guessed my instincts and ignored the advice of others because I *wanted* to believe.

I'm right there with ya, babe!!! Hugs!!!