Facebook...do you mention your Lit...

[SEVERUSMAX]

....status there?

I do not. My family can read my Facebook stuff and it's not worth the conflict, stress, lectures, and other trouble that would come of advertising my Litizenship there.

So, no, I don't friend my Lit friends there, either. Nothing against y'all, but you tend to have some stuff that would cause awkward questions from my relatives. To those I have "unfriended" there, I apologize for the necessity of it. It wasn't in any way a reflection of any disapproval of your published work....just a precaution.

Here's why. When I first joined FB two years ago, I was a bit less cautious due to inexperience with it and added just about anyone who requested friendship. Then certain "friends" (not you guys, but it caused friction that made me worry about this issue more) started posting nude pics of themselves, statuses (or is that statii), etc. I got a call from my mother, who has a heart condition and I don't wish to see have a heart attack or stroke....and she was audibly upset. She certainly doesn't know that I write smut. She doesn't need to.

When one's father is a Baptist minister who has already suffered one stroke and one's mother is a preacher's wife with cardiac issues, the news that I write smut would be a very real health hazard for them, as in causing too much shock and stress.

As a result, I streamlined my FB a bit and adopted a policy of compartmentalizing my FB from my Lit involvement more thoroughly. Again, not that I'm ashamed. More that the news would literally kill my parents. I love them and I don't want to be personally responsible for such things.

Once more, I apologize if I've caused any offense. I particularly miss having updates about Selena Kitt's wall. But it's the price I must pay for family harmony and not causing pain and suffering to my loved ones in RL.

Though I should clarify that for the record.

Am I alone here?

 

[Saxon Stonedyke]

I've mentioned it in that I have complained about struggling with a story and such in a status update but then I don't have any family on mine to worry about.

A solution would be to set up an account for your pen name and use that for fellow Litizens.

 

[PennLady]

I made a FB page for my pen name (Eve McFadden), and I post links to stories and things there. A few friends and family know about it but not a lot. I know it wouldn't be that hard to figure the names out but so far this has worked well.

 

[TxRad]

I had FaceBook for a while but decided it was more a waste of time than a help with anything. Dumped Facebook, Problem solved.

 

[PennLady]

I had FaceBook for a while but decided it was more a waste of time than a help with anything. Dumped Facebook, Problem solved.

LOL Something I consider from time to time for my "real" page, I have to say. However, I've found it very handy for keeping up with music groups I like, authors, Amazon sales, etc. Funny, I use it more for that than for family and friends.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Its a question of time before FACEBOOK follows you everywhere online and alerts all your Friends to what youre up to.

 

[fuckwaffle]

Oh how important we think we are when we have those that follow us on FB, Twitter and the like.

Say everything you want in 144 character bites. Post your status to the world, yet only your 'friends' will ever know about it.

The computer age hath made us believe we are somebody, when in times past that was gods purview.

 

[THROBBS]

Yep. Even being on Lit is "risky" for me. I have had to purge my ID and posts in the past because I was a too naive and open. I was "outed" (in ref. to my real life work) on a blog, luckily not by name and luckily in a blog that not many read, and luckily I saw it, and deleted all. <(of course it is probably still "out there" downloaded or archived somewhere, there goes my presidential bid, eh?)

It is unfortunate that the general public cannot acknowledge/cope with the sexual side/facets of... well me.

"OMG the local mechanic is a perv!"
"OMG the local baker is a perv!!"
"OMG the local toy store owner is a perv!!!"
"OMG the local teacher is a perv!!!"

(People in certain professions are not "allowed" to be sexual)

It is rather sad really.

I do have a FB acct, but I keep it miles apart.

 

[fuckwaffle]

Yep. Even being on Lit is "risky" for me. I have had to purge my ID and posts in the past because I was a too naive and open. I was "outed" (in ref. to my real life work) on a blog, luckily not by name and luckily in a blog that not many read, and luckily I saw it, and deleted all. <(of course it is probably still "out there" downloaded or archived somewhere, there goes my presidential bid, eh?)

It is unfortunate that the general public cannot acknowledge/cope with the sexual side/facets of... well me.

"OMG the local mechanic is a perv!"
"OMG the local baker is a perv!!"
"OMG the local toy store owner is a perv!!!"
"OMG the local teacher is a perv!!!"

(People in certain professions are not "allowed" to be sexual)

It is rather sad really.

I do have a FB acct, but I keep it miles apart.

The what you really need to do is create an account over at xHamster.com, don't forget to use your RL name.

 

[glynndah]

I have two accounts on Facebook; one with my real name and information; one with my online persona. I keep them far, far apart.

 

[lovecraft68]

I don't have a personal facebook.

I just set one up under a pen name and the only friends I have on it are other lit authors.

 

[estragon]

Two separate pages, one for keeping up with Lit authors, the other I started years ago, and I avoid putting anything on it I wouldn't want the grand jury to read.

 

[SweetMaj]

I use my FaceBook account to stay in touch with family and friends.

I have no Lit friends on FB and prefer it that way.

Besides I'm spending more time here.

I'm adicted to Lit.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Most of the people that I know in real life know that I have posted erotic stories on the internet, though almost none of them have read them.

And even though I don't mention my real name in here, I'm more afraid of being spammed than I am anyone here figuring out who I really am. Hell, a quick google search will give that information away.

 

[topace]

I avoid anything that would raise questions with family and friends (most of the time anyways) at Facebook. Okay, I automatically have my newest journal/blog post added to my Timeline, but I want to get readers. My family finally decided that what I do is my own business (well my immediate family did anyways) and they leave me alone. Still, I try to avoid rocking the proverbial boat as much as I can - family is very important to me.

 

[mynameisben]

I only use my facebook account to play Jeopardy.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Glad to know that I'm not the only one with such concerns.

 

[THROBBS]

When I saw that LIT had a FB page, I went to check it out.

I was actually glad to see they showed "mutual friends" or was it "Friend of yours who like"...?
but an ex-sister-in-law was on there, which likely means she is on here. Now she probably is not an "issue" in and of herself, but... the snowball effect (no, not that snowball effect) could prove problematic.

I would not be surprised to hear that at least 2 of my brothers are on LIT, there are other family members and friends/acquaintances who could inadvertently blurt to... anyone.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

When I saw that LIT had a FB page, I went to check it out.

I was actually glad to see they showed "mutual friends" or was it "Friend of yours who like"...?
but an ex-sister-in-law was on there, which likely means she is on here. Now she probably is not an "issue" in and of herself, but... the snowball effect (no, not that snowball effect) could prove problematic.

I would not be surprised to hear that at least 2 of my brothers are on LIT, there are other family members and friends/acquaintances who could inadvertently blurt to... anyone.

Yeah, you'd think that if they were on there, they wouldn't judge you, but they might tell others who would judge you. I can see the concern.

 

[THROBBS]

Yeah, you'd think that if they were on there, they wouldn't judge you, but they might tell others who would judge you. I can see the concern.

Exactly.

The wife has a paranoia about FB. A mutual friend saw a post of mine (one I felt was No Big Deal) and mentioned it in conversation, innocent enough, and she (wife) hit the ceiling. (wife tends to be just a tad controlling )

Though FB does have some controls to limit distribution... ay yi yi, it is way too easy for info to slip through, by accident or "probes".

FaceBook is a great tool for Publicity, not so much for secrecy.

 

[topace]

You got that right! IMHO, it's pretty useless for secrecy, unless you block everyone from viewing everything and that's kinda pointless on a social network. If one of your friends can see something, odds are someone who mutually knows said friend can see it too.

 

[lovecraft68]

My wife works in the medical field so I do not have her linked as a friend on my facebook page.

I have also left out anyone else who was a friend on the FB page I did have a couple of years ago.

This is much to FB's chagrin as they keep shoving these things at me. I really am going to keep it to lit or other "erotic" related people.

 

[nomoretears00]

I made a FB page for my pen name (Eve McFadden), and I post links to stories and things there. A few friends and family know about it but not a lot. I know it wouldn't be that hard to figure the names out but so far this has worked well.

I did like Penn. My FB is under the name MA Church and is no way connected in any form to my RL name. It's all about writing, publishers, and other authors.

I don't even do FB in RL.

 

[bashfullyshameless]

I miss the days of LiveJournal, when friends posted thoughts and updates that were more than soundbites. I have a personal Facebook page, and I look at it often, because it's an easy, one-stop place to keep up with a great number of people in my life who are now scattered to the four winds. It put me back in touch with friends from high school and my time in the military. But it's a cheap place in every sense of the word.

As for my "Lit" status: I'm in one of those professions that society likes to believe is populated only by people who are completely disinterested in sex. Facebook has gone out of its way to show that it cannot be trusted; it's not that they just have sloppy privacy controls, it's that Facebook (the company) puts its back into destroying privacy as a concept.

My friends and family all know that I'm a Literotican, but I specifically don't talk about it on FB. I made a FB page for my author name, but I've done essentially nothing with it. I just don't really know what to talk about there.

I know I should put together an author blog and such, but... meh. Either I'm gonna talk about stuff I'm writing while I write it (which is terrible), or I'll talk about my profession (where, again, I'm not supposed to have thoughts about sex and people would freak the fuck out), or... yeah. Seems like kind of a waste of time, y'know?

 

[Joseph28]

sounds good