Face Slapping

[Leolover711]

This might sound odd, but through all My years of being a Top/Dom/ Master whatever I have never slapped a sub/slave/bottom's face. I have enjoyed administering many spankings to asses, thighs and breasts, but never face slapping. Recently, I have developed a fantastic OL relationship and sometimes phone with a new sub/slave. I have the desire to slap her face, but have not acted on it or even talked to her about it. At the deepest levels, I respect her and treasure her immensely, which is My natural response to one who would give themselves so completley to Me. Something inside just feels a little like it would be a sign of disrespect and I guess I am afraid that once crossed, the bridge could not be travel over again.

I would love to hear thoughts from Doms and subs on their experince with face slapping.

Thanks.
Leo

 

[AAkasha]

This might sound odd, but through all My years of being a Top/Dom/ Master whatever I have never slapped a sub/slave/bottom's face. I have enjoyed administering many spankings to asses, thighs and breasts, but never face slapping. Recently, I have developed a fantastic OL relationship and sometimes phone with a new sub/slave. I have the desire to slap her face, but have not acted on it or even talked to her about it. At the deepest levels, I respect her and treasure her immensely, which is My natural response to one who would give themselves so completley to Me. Something inside just feels a little like it would be a sign of disrespect and I guess I am afraid that once crossed, the bridge could not be travel over again.

I would love to hear thoughts from Doms and subs on their experince with face slapping.

Thanks.
Leo

What sounds odd is how you are going to slap her face if the relationship is online and phone?

Akasha

 

[Leolover711]

What sounds odd is how you are going to slap her face if the relationship is online and phone?

Akasha

Ahhh, well the cyber or roleplay W/we do is very intense. So when I tell her I am taking My crop, W/we hear the swish as it slices through the air. she uses it on herself and I can actually hear it strike when W/we are on the phone. So if Isaid I was taking her by the hair, slapping her face and saying "worship My cock slut" it is a very real yet imagined experience for U/us.

 

[sunfox]

Face-slapping, to me, is a deliberately insulting act.. humiliating.. meant to shame the slapped person.

Which is probably why I like it.

C knows I can get into my head too much sometimes, and when I'm slow to answer or clearly scattered, he'll give me a good slap to bring me back to him and focusing on him.

It's also used as above, to deliberately humiliate me.

Not something I would allow just anyone to do to me, though... most people'd get a fist to the jaw in response to slapping me.

 

[serijules]

Oh god, this is one of my most favourite kinky things on earth.

When I first told D how much I loved having my face slapped, she was a bit hesitant. To her, it was more so an action of abuse, and it was hard for her to get past that. However, once she saw how I reacted to it, it's become a part of our relationship whether I like it or not...and sometimes, I don't. Which makes me want it all the more.

The thing about it that is so confusing for me is that, when she slaps me, I feel so chastised, so controlled, so humiliated. Usually anything that humiliates me is really not something I'm going to enjoy or desire. And I never try to MAKE her slap me, I usually regret the moments in which she does as it usually (not always) means I have been disrespectful in some way, and I hate disappointing her. Sometimes she will slap me for being such a slut, for not begging fast enough or well enough. If I was allowed, I think I could orgasm just from that.

I guess it is much like spanking...I love being spanked, and even when the spanking is a punishment and I hate punishments, I still love being spanked in general. I just don't like the disappointment that goes along with a punishment spanking, and that disappointment makes the spanking hurt in a much worse way than usual. Slapping is much the same for me...I love being slapped, but I don't always like the emotions that go along with it. Sometimes it can be the hardest "punishment" because unlike a spanking I can't hide my face, I can't look away from the stern look she is giving me, so I feel very very exposed and vurnerable. Even in a "punishment" type of slap, it can be very erotic to feel that exposed though. However, I never feel it is abusive or demeaning when D does it, although it is certainly something that is limited only to her.

 

[Rrrosyn]

During a scene I sometimes get the desire to slap his face. Not that he's earned it or that he has spoken and ill word. I just really want to. I have not and will not because he's stated clearly it isn't something he'd be into. Knowing that, I know it would really spook him.

But sometimes I really want to just for the thrill. Maybe a sort of heady Domme-space I get into. Usually when in a position where hair pulling is too acrobatic.

 

[Leolover711]

Rrossyn, seri, sun
Thanks for your thoughts. It definetly is helping ME get a better perspective.
Leo

 

[Netzach]

Turns me on.

M would crumble from it.

G gets hard from it.

H accepts it and likes it because he'll take anything from me.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Face-slapping, to me, is a deliberately insulting act.. humiliating.. meant to shame the slapped person.

Which is probably why I like it.

C knows I can get into my head too much sometimes, and when I'm slow to answer or clearly scattered, he'll give me a good slap to bring me back to him and focusing on him.

It's also used as above, to deliberately humiliate me.

Not something I would allow just anyone to do to me, though... most people'd get a fist to the jaw in response to slapping me.

This gave me a warm fuzzy.

 

[Killishandra]

My situation is similar to Serijules', in that my Dom at first found the idea of slapping my face an act of abuse...

Damn, sometimes I think I am such a bad influence on Him, lol.

Anyway, it is used to get my attention sometimes (I get distracted very easily, especially in conversations between the three of us.. it's easy to let them keep talking while my attention drifts to reading something on a wall or a sign or some such.) I cringe every time I'm slapped, I can't help it, even when I know it's coming (although most times I don't.) Increasingly, He will hold me down on the bed in some fashion when we're just lying around and smack my face repeatedly and chortle at me while I cringe. It makes me hella frustrated... but I think it's currently His favorite game.

In any case, He certainly has no concerns about slapping my face anymore. Before we met (and for the first couple weeks of our relationship) He didn't really believe in corporal punishment, either. He reserved spankings only for fun and sexual play, and would only talk things out when we had problems. Last night when He got angry at me over something relatively minor and gave me three strong wacks on the ass I said "I thought you used to say you don't believe in corporal punishment!"

His response: "I changed my mind when I got to know you."

 

[serijules]

I still always flinch too, even when I know it's coming, even when I WANT it. Sometimes I even get ultra-angry, people have commented you can sometimes see fire in my eyes when I am slapped, and I have to struggle to control myself from glaring or breaking away. I think D likes to watch me struggle to control myself in those moments, knowing I won't dare react as I may feel. It's like a physical show of my training that I don't react, that I just take it, that I don't look away no matter how humiliated I am. It just brings up such a rush of emotions in me, and that turns me on something fierce, to feel that strongly.

 

[shy slave]

Face slapping is such a useful thing to do.

It really puts me in the 'right place' in my head if it is done at the 'right' time.

Having my face slapped is an immediate way of taking me out of everyday thoughts into a place where only he exists.

On the other hand he uses to punish me if I don't respond quickly enough or forget what I was supposed to be doing.

They are very different kind of slaps.

He knows me well enough now to gauge a slap that can send me over the edge into an orgasm and the heavy purposeful slap of an instant punishment.

Its impossible to confuse them.

 

[Leolover711]

Thank you shy. As always your thoughts and insights are helpful and well communicated.

 

[sunfox]

This gave me a warm fuzzy.

I live to please, rosco.

 

[Etoile]

I think flinching is unavoidable - it's like when somebody throws something toward your face, you instinctively close your eyes to protect them. I think that flinch right before we get slapped is the same way...just instinctive and can't be helped.

I love having my face slapped, too. I don't think it has ever been done in a humiliating way...like shy slave, it is more a "get back here" for us, or a "you better behave" thing. Definitely one of my favorite violent acts.

 

[Leolover711]

I think flinching is unavoidable - it's like when somebody throws something toward your face, you instinctively close your eyes to protect them. I think that flinch right before we get slapped is the same way...just instinctive and can't be helped.

I love having my face slapped, too. I don't think it has ever been done in a humiliating way...like shy slave, it is more a "get back here" for us, or a "you better behave" thing. Definitely one of my favorite violent acts.

I am becomming convinced that I should initiate this. Thanks E and all the rest. I definetly will post the results!

 

[FurryFury]

I think I might bug out if someone slapped me and attack them. I have serious slapping issues.

I was slapped a lot as a kid.

Fury

 

[Richard49]

I would love to hear thoughts from Doms and subs on their experince with face slapping.

Thanks.
Leo

There is a thread on hair pulling here
I posted to it my experences


When I would grab "r"s hair and give her even a light slap
I had to be prepared to catch her as she went down from going to sub space

face slapping is many things
but it can be a reminder of who is owned and by who

 

[Tollo]

Given that the question was originally posted about a week ago, I am wondering if you have tried this out with your sub yet, and if so, how did it go over?

I have no experience with this sort of play on line or on the phone and I guess that such a relationship has its own dynamic. You indicate that your sessions take on a "very real" feel, and so I would recommend that you be cautious about this. Despite the overwhelmingly positive reaction to the idea here, I suspect that many subs would not respond well to a direct slap to the face from a partner, if this was something unexpected or significantly different from previous acts. A slap in the face can mean many things in different contexts so I would not do this unless I was reasonably sure of how my partner was going to respond. At the very least you risk breaking the mood of a good session, at worst this could cause a big set back for the relationship.

In my relationship face slapping can be OK, but definitely edgy, in a sexual context. Were I to slap A. in the context of a punishment session however, it would be way over the edge, certainly for her, and probably for me.

If I may ask, what is it about this sub which has brought out this previously unknown desire?

Tollo

 

[Leolover711]

I am becomming convinced that I should initiate this. Thanks E and all the rest. I definetly will post the results!

Well, I intiated the activity and boy, woohoo, it was like a firecracker went off. It just happened much like My fantasy had been. I had grab her by the hair, which she loves, and pulled her down to her knees. This btw was after a considerable amount of foreplay to get both of us in the mood. I pulled her head back and told her to look into My eyes and I commanded her to worship My cock, she procdeed to do her usually magnificant job and I just pulled her off My cock (note to shy slave: I have at least enough intelligence not to slap any woman that has My cock in their mouth ;-)) slapped her jsut hard enough to sting and brign a slight redness and said, " I want more than that slut, I want you to fuck My cock with your face!" She just started trembling and went wild on My cock! After a minute or two, I pulled her off and slapped her other cheek and said, "that's it fuck My cock with your face like the awesome little cumslut that you are!" She trembled, basked in the warm glow emanating from her cheeks and took Me over the edge and to a place far away.....

So thanks to A/ll for your support. If you haven't tried it I encourage you to think about making it apart of your repitoire.

Peace, Love, Abundance, and lots of hot nasty sex to All!
Leo

 

[Andante]

(note to shy slave: I have at least enough intelligence not to slap any woman that has My cock in their mouth ;-))

I'll never forget the drive-way scene in 'The world according to Garp'

 

[M's girl]

I'll never forget the drive-way scene in 'The world according to Garp'

That was hilarious, indeed.... but maybe it helps I'm not a man (ouch) that I think that way...?

 

[shy slave]

she procdeed to do her usually magnificant job and I just pulled her off My cock (note to shy slave: I have at least enough intelligence not to slap any woman that has My cock in their mouth ;-)) Peace, Love, Abundance, and lots of hot nasty sex to All!
Leo

I knew you were a gentleman

or is that you value certain parts of your anatomy to much to take a risk?

lol

 

[Shy_Joanna]

Stop thinking about it...just do it! She'll love it!

 

[Blackie_Lovless]

Re: face slapping

I had my face slapped by someone I was dating years ago. His reasoning... "sometimes a woman needs to be slapped". I can't remember the hows or whys of it, but made it made me really angry when he did it, I felt insulted and I asked him to leave my apartment.
Something about it must have stayed with me, for when my Master and I finally got together I asked him to do it as we were having sex. He hesitatingly complied. Of course I enjoyed it, the slap came unexpectedly during a pleasurable act. He slapped me one other time during a break in a blow job. I had become so aroused that I tried to hump/rub against his leg.
He was not amused and smacked me!....that time it was not so thrilling.
Love it and want some more of it, in the proper context of course