Explicit instructions...does anyone else do thus?

[TBOZ]

Dear Lit: I have run across the hottest thing and not sure if it is novel or common. Some time ago I had a semi-random hookup with a really sexual girl she was submissive and used very part of her stacked body to work magic. She was out of town and the typical phone play turned into directed instructions. After that, I've tried this with maybe a few girls with amazing results over the past year. So the instructions are basically explicit and details. Something like:

1. Don't cum without permission. 2. Not interacting as much as following instructions (honestly less awkward this way); 3. Describe when, how, how many times and with what pressure and speed to masturbate.

Something like: lick two middle fingers and super lightly make 8 circles at the entrance but not all the way in...etc & etc.

So, question for you experts: what does this mean in terms of what I like, and does anyone else do this or like the idea? It's been crazy hot, and none of the partners are the really open sexual types. Thoughts?

 

[MissJW]

Sure, this is pretty mundane in my marriage if I've set an order on my husband.

I give him various orders, some more strict than others. It can be about forced masturbation with explicit instructions (as you put it "lick two middle fingers and super lightly make..." etc) or ordered masturbation ("do it for five minutes seven times a day" etc). Some cases I allow him free hands (pun very intended) but of course a description ("what, when & how") is necessary in case of the last two. Then there are of course times when he's not allowed to masturbate at all (chastity) and a certain amount of prostate milking is ordered for health reasons, always depending on the length of his chastity. Usually it's once per week.

He works away from home so he keeps me updated via pictures, videos, phone and Skype. Milkings are always supervised by me (via Skype) and I of course try to "attend" as many ordered or forced masturbations as I can. If and when it's not always possible he sends me "evidence" online. This is naturally different if he's home.

If no order is set he is of course free to masturbate how and when he likes. At the moment this is the case, but it will change early tomorrow morning as he's off to work for a week. I'm yet to decide what his exact order will be, but I'm getting there.

The only rule that applies always is that he must never, ever cum without permission. Never. If he does there will be hell to pay.

Good luck with your discoveries, TBOZ! When you ask "what does this mean in terms of what I like", I'd just say it means you like to control your partners sexual activities. Good on you


---------Edit. Then there are always orders concerning for example clothes, hair, peeing, food, body positions and such, but in our marriage those are reserved for play time only.

 

[dontneedone]

If no order is set he is of course free to masturbate how and when he likes. At the moment this is the case, but it will change early tomorrow morning as he's off to work for a week. I'm yet to decide what his exact order will be, but I'm getting there.

The only rule that applies always is that he must never, ever cum without permission. Never. If he does there will be hell to pay.

I would think it would not be fun even when free to do it, if not allowed to finish. Does he express frustration? And if he does without your premission, what happens to him? And......I wonder if he has and has gotten away with it!

 

[MissJW]

I would think it would not be fun even when free to do it, if not allowed to finish. Does he express frustration? And if he does without your premission, what happens to him? And......I wonder if he has and has gotten away with it!

Well in case of "free hands" he very often is allowed to cum, he just needs a permission first. He does express frustration yes, but it happens at times when I'm too busy to manage our everyday D/s as firmly as is usually expected. You see, he feels most comfortable when he's "leashed" and controlled, but it's not always possible due to tight schedules, work, kids and whatever life happens to throw at us. That's when he gets frustrated, if it goes on for a longer period.

Of course we are two separate persons who aren't physically together 24/7, so naturally I can't be 100% sure whether he obeys me or not. It's just the case that we are both adults who love and respect each other and have consented into this "arrangement" on our respective parts, so I don't see the point in him disobeying behind my back. This is after all as much his ideal situation as it is mine. Why bother with time and energy committing to something and then just slag about, trying to "get away with it"?

The bottom line is he's not a vanilla guy who gets treated like shit by me, but a sexually submissive 40+ gentleman who values his overall sexual energy more than the number of his wet orgasms (which he still enjoys immensely) and gets off from his missus being a control freak!