Expectations

[CelestialBody]

 

[Guest]

Awww....the poor wittle rich girl is angwy.

Noboby expects your sorry little pampered ass to write an ESSAY on anything. If you're so short on time stop whining here. We'll get along fine without you. No really, we will.

This is the real world, babycakes. Nobody has any time. Grow up or at very least mature and stop trying to be a martyr. It wore thin a long time ago.

I don't see what you're so miserable about in the first place. There are probably hundreds of thousands of people who would kill to be where you are and have what you have.

 

[Guest]

And why the hell do you have Laurel's cat as YOUR av? And why the hell do you have United WE Stand as though you were an American? Assimilate some more shit and maybe you'll find an identity you like.

 

[Guest]

Hang in there, CB!
In the end, YOU are the person you have to wake up to, every day. *hugs*

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Marxist]

In defense of my sparring partner,

CB is a tough chick and a little bit overworked it sounds like. Stress gets to everyone and Unregistered's sniping at someone who is feeling down is beyond mean, but cruel in the extreme. Sometimes I feel vulnerable too and would like some understanding as well. CB, if kicking the wall or banging your head or slapping me around in cyberspace makes you feel good, then do it. If no one noticed my skin is pretty thick from running through the brambles barefoot. Don't give in to negative thoughts or emotions.

Marc

 

[Laurel]

And why the hell do you have Laurel's cat as YOUR av? And why the hell do you have United WE Stand as though you were an American? Assimilate some more shit and maybe you'll find an identity you like.

She has Laurel's cat because she has a sense of humor. And she has United We Stand because she's an American - more American than your racist ignorant Constitution-hating Nazi-loving self could ever be. It must really burn you up that intelligent, educated, cultured women like her are valued higher in America and the world than your ignorant ass - else why would you troll her? Jealousy is soooo unattractive.

 

[cymbidia]

CB? Regardless of anything else, it sounds like you have a priorities problem. That's just normal natural life stuff, sweets.

It happens to us all as our lives become fuller, richer, and more demanding. We're going along fine until Life notices that we're just a little too capable, a litttle to carefree. Then, like the avenging gods of old, WHAM life whacks us a big nasty one and we're left spinning in circles and throwing up in secret cuz we're just fucking NOT able to Do It All.

You need lists. Then you need to cross stuff off those lists.

You need to practice saying "No!" in an assertive (as opposed to an aggressive) manner.

You need to repeat to yourself, over and over and over, that you no longer owe your parents the excessive fealty of a small girl.

And if you like to write essays - here or Out There - do it. Don't sweat it. Do it for yourself. Smile politely to your detractors and allow them to say whatever they like; what do you care?

Stress'll make you old fast, girl, and this kinda stress is just growing pains, believe it or not. There's more of this to come along the way. Get a grip on dealing with it now and you'll be better off the next time Life notices that you're due a swift kick in the butt.

 

[SexyChele]

CB, I feel for you. I know what it feels like to be overwhelmed at times - and the frustration that goes with it. I know you didn't ask for advice, but Cymbidia is really offering some sound principles to work from.

You will get through this.

Oh, and your av is absolutely terrific!

 

[XXplorher]

No, CB can't lie to her whole family, pull back in her personal relationships, be the shoulder that everyone cries on, excell at school, work, extra-curriculars and turn out consistently stellar essays on topics that don't even interest her on a daily basis ANd be happy at the same time.

You can’t?! What the hell’s wrong with you, chick? The rest of us are FLAWLESS!

(Hang in there – it doesn’t get any better. Er, I mean, it……… nope - I was right the first time. Ya gotta find it within yourself, missy. I’m sure you will. All the ‘crap’ simply builds character)

 

[curvacious]

hang in there CB. Things will get better and it will be ok.
I know what you mean about everyone else crying on your shoulder. Times like that I never felt like I was the one standing up, everyone else was holding me up by leaning on me.
I can't really tell you how to "fix" things other to hang in there.

 

[shadowsource]

Fuck those trolls -

Everyone with a brain knows you're 1000% American, even if your family can't relate to it. But they made you one, so their complainst are off the wall. Exercise, breathe, eat and sleep. Be well.

 

[CeceliaSkye]

Sometimes it takes getting really sick and tired of ones life to make changes...

 

[XXplorher]

Sometimes it takes getting really sick and tired of ones life to make changes...

Good point.

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

CB

Always keep your expections low... That way you will never be a dissapointment to your self ... And for what other people think..
WHO GIVES A FUCK All that matters is how you feel about your self and if your doing good enough for you ..... That is the best advice I can give you


And ~ HUGS~

NSW

 

[Azwed]

Hey CB you have to put yourself and your happiness first. I don't stress out about tests anymore. I don't stress out about work anymore. I do what makes me feel happy and make sure I get the work I need to get done done. Life gets so much better when you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and put yourself/SO/best friends first. My best friend is my gf so that helps a lot.

It took a car accident, that should have killed me and didn't, for me to realize this and even then it did not sink in for a whole semester.

I think you are ahead of the game. You at least realize you have a problem. I did not.

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: CB

Always keep your expections low... That way you will never be a dissapointment to your self ...

I disagree- don't expect less of yourself than you know you are capable of. Ever.


And learn to say "no" and mean it. You can't do everything.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Okay. Get pictures of people that are stressing you out, or some sort of representation of them and tape them to the wall. Get a ream of cheap paper. Take a piece of paper and wad it up into a ball. "This is for ______________!" Something that's pissing you off, naturally. Then throw the balled up paper at the picture as hard as you can. Once you get over feeling silly about doing it, you can really get into it. You'll make a mess, but you'll feel better, get the nasty frustration out, and no one gets hurt.

Or you could look for a troll, like KR, and cyberpop its head like a zit.

 

[Siren]

You go girl !!

 

[Never]

I think CB got medieval on someone's ass.