Every one seems to be running pass...

[Aphrodisiac]

me when it comes to marriage, children, and career.

I just recieved an email from an old friend of mine, she was 2 yrs behind me in high school but we got along very well & became best friends as the years went by ... well she went off to college, got married , moved out of state, and had a baby.
I am so very happy for her but it seems everyone around me has been married for a while & thier kids are already attending grammer school.

Am I moving to slow , I ask myself this ... I am happy where I am now in my life , I am not married and I don't see myself having kids any time soon and as for a " career" ... I have yet to decide what is my calling.

I am just curious am I the only one who feels like this ....
I am sure I am not alone ... but then when I think about " marriage , kids, etc... " it makes me cringe a little ... am I weird ?!?



Just some thing that was wandering around in my thoughts.

 

[Moridin187]

You're not the only one.. I know people around my age group (19-20 year olds) getting married and settling down and having kids.

Hell nah.

I've got stuff to do right now. I need to get out, to find where I'm going in life, to party, to have sex everywhere.. When I have kids, I want to do it when I'm more or less done with all that.. when I'm stable in life and can handle and want the responsibility.

As for marriage.. I'd like to settle down with someone, to live with them possibly after a while, but I ain't nowhere near ready to make the life-long commitment just yet.

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

I'm in the midst of this very self-analysis. I feel stuck most of the time because I'm the only friend, in the group, that is married. Yet, I feel behind in so many other aspects. It's tough. I think maybe we should measure our lives by no other.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Good things happen to those that wait... hang in there... we all think you are great people....

 

[Aphrodisiac]

You're not alone.

Currently, 4 of my closest friends are pregnant and another one had her baby last week. Most of my friends are married, as well.

I am neither married or pregnant and have no desire to be. Well, okay, I get clucky about once a month for ten minutes, but that's about it.

I *do* have a kick ass career that I'm anxious to resume as soon as possible

Fox,

What you wrote made me smile.

I know what you mean about the " clucky " once a month .. but then reality sets in and I know I am not ready for a child @ this point of my life.

I am glad to hear you have a "kick ass " career ... I am going in that direction as well ... in a year I should be kicking !!!!

 

[LadyDarkFire]

HELL NO! You're definately not the only one that feels that pressure. Just remember, older parents generally are the most wise. Never try and mesure your own progress by others. You're probably light years ahead of them in other things.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Whew !

Thanks you guys ... {{hugs}}

You made me smile and to think I was thinking I was the only one who thought like this.... ...

I think @ times I think to much ..

 

[Starfish]

I am in agreement with Raindancer. It is hard when you are single handedly the only one who is in a certain situation, but it gets worse the more we compare.

I am not one to compare. I just don't consider myself anything like anyone I know anyway.