Ever feel like...

[rikaaim]

Men, ever feel like you're being evaluated? The other day I'm sitting at school, working on the computer, and up comes a female friend that I just met last week. I was thinking of asking her out for lunch or dinner or something next time I saw her. I had my headphones on and she taps me on the shoulder. Surprised to see her again so I soon, I take off my headphones and she asks if I'd like to go get something to eat. I was about to go eat anyway and thouht, "Hey, this is perfect." Obviously I say sure. She says she just has to meet up with a few friends first because they were all going out to lunch. Then she mentions that I'm going to be the only guy. Yeah. We meet up with two other girls and one of them has to stay behind for class. So, it's me, her, and a friend of hers. I instantly get that feeling of a "safety" date. One where I'm on a luncheon date, but she brings her friend along just in case. Things actually go pretty good, even though I'm nervous as hell and blushing like a crimson rose. After we eat we head out to a park. We're all walking along the path and then the two of them start talking about me in sign language. What am I supposed to do? I just kinda stand there silent. They're not speaking anything, but saying tons, about me, in plain sight. At which point the one I like says, "You know we're talking about you, right?" Yeah, I knew. the pointing at me kinda gave it away. I was told it was good things. I hope so. I didn't even think to get her phone number. I'm just too shy around women sometimes.

Respond if ya like with your own stories. Open forum. Ever feel like...whatever. Have fun.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Argh. I know exactly what you mean. I went on a date with a cute shy guy from work once, with the understanding that we would be going out dancing, alone.

First off, he picks me up from work and his brother is with him. WTF? Who picks up a girl on the first date and takes his brother along?! I mean, he'd worked closely with me for about six months, I think he knew I wasn't a serial killer by then.

Then, we get to the club and a couple he's friends with are there waiting for us. I thought they were really nice at first, but then I started to notice his friend checking me out. I came back from the bar and overheard them talking about me and his friend was saying "She's hot. Are you going to fuck her?" to which my date replied "We're just going to be friends."

So, I'm clearly not going to get laid ever by this guy who had asked me "Would you like to go out on a date with me?" Um, doesn't a date mean a prospect for more eventually? I feigned headache and got home in time to catch my regular booty call. Fuck that noise.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Men, ever feel like you're being evaluated?

A hand has written, in lipstick, on the wall.

I have been judged, and found wanton.

The Right Rev. Rumple Foreskin

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Men, ever feel like you're being evaluated?

A hand has written, in lipstick, on the wall.

I have been judged, and found wanton.

The Right Rev. Rumple Foreskin

*passes out* Like we even wondered.

 

[Honey123]

Argh. I know exactly what you mean. I went on a date with a cute shy guy from work once, with the understanding that we would be going out dancing, alone.

First off, he picks me up from work and his brother is with him. WTF? Who picks up a girl on the first date and takes his brother along?! I mean, he'd worked closely with me for about six months, I think he knew I wasn't a serial killer by then.

Then, we get to the club and a couple he's friends with are there waiting for us. I thought they were really nice at first, but then I started to notice his friend checking me out. I came back from the bar and overheard them talking about me and his friend was saying "She's hot. Are you going to fuck her?" to which my date replied "We're just going to be friends."

So, I'm clearly not going to get laid ever by this guy who had asked me "Would you like to go out on a date with me?" Um, doesn't a date mean a prospect for more eventually? I feigned headache and got home in time to catch my regular booty call. Fuck that noise.

Should have asked for his friend's number!!

 

[Honey123]

Men, ever feel like you're being evaluated?

A hand has written, in lipstick, on the wall.

I have been judged, and found wanton.

The Right Rev. Rumple Foreskin

Was that on a bathroom wall???

 

[Honey123]

Men, ever feel like you're being evaluated?

{{hugs}}

Well....I am confused a bit, did you know that the other girl was deaf? Or is this something they do? If that's something they do...I believe that's quite rude.

I also feel that no matter who, what or where...we are always being evaluated. Let's face it. When you check someone out you're evaluating them, right? Even if you will never go up to the person, or meet the person again.

I'm sure her intentions were good and their conversation about you was good as well...but unless you know why she would do that, right in front of you, I probably wouldn't get her number.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Should have asked for his friend's number!!

I probably would've banged him if he hadn't been, well, freakish.

 

[Honey123]

I probably would've banged him if he hadn't been, well, freakish.

hmmm...that usually changes after a few drinks...freakish becomes interesting....odd....eccentric even

Unless he looked like the missing link...then you'd have to really really have a number of drinks in ya

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Was that on a bathroom wall???

The bathroom wall of a bus station, to be precise. Where else?

Scarlett, what can I tell you? I'm just glad I've hung around long enough to gain the exalted status of "old lech." Being a young lecher has so little cache.

Rumple Foreskin

 

[OhMissScarlett]

hmmm...that usually changes after a few drinks...freakish becomes interesting....odd....eccentric even

Unless he looked like the missing link...then you'd have to really really have a number of drinks in ya

There was no amount of drinks that could've gotten me into bed with this guy. Everything he wanted to talk about had to do with wrestling and he looked like an anorexic Tom Green.

I'm just glad I've hung around long enough to gain the exalted status of "old lech." Being a young lecher has so little cache.

LOL. In my opinion, lecherous rocks, at any age.

 

[rikaaim]

{{hugs}}

Well....I am confused a bit, did you know that the other girl was deaf? Or is this something they do? If that's something they do...I believe that's quite rude.

I also feel that no matter who, what or where...we are always being evaluated. Let's face it. When you check someone out you're evaluating them, right? Even if you will never go up to the person, or meet the person again.

I'm sure her intentions were good and their conversation about you was good as well...but unless you know why she would do that, right in front of you, I probably wouldn't get her number.

I know her friend doesn't have any hearing problems. I asked them why the learned sign language in the first place. The one I'm interested in said that when she was a little girl her parents thought she was deaf because she didn't speak. They were shocked when she spoke for the first time and it was a complete sentence. She said she had a hearing disability in the restaraunt, but I couldn't really hear her because it was so loud in there. The friend seemed to be doing it out of jest, teasing. I'm not really sure how serious they were.

 

[rikaaim]

Argh. I know exactly what you mean.

"She's hot. Are you going to fuck her?" to which my date replied "We're just going to be friends."

So, I'm clearly not going to get laid ever by this guy who had asked me "Would you like to go out on a date with me?" Um, doesn't a date mean a prospect for more eventually?

I would have thought the same thing. He said date, right? Then yeah I would have thought as much. If it was, "Hey, wanna grab a bite to eat?" Maybe not so much. That can be a little unclear, on purpose even. If it was "just dinner" or lunch or whatever then the person can pass it off as not really being a date if they're not interested. Still sucks though. It sounds like he had not intentions to begin with, so why start?

 

[OhMissScarlett]

I would have thought the same thing. He said date, right? Then yeah I would have thought as much. If it was, "Hey, wanna grab a bite to eat?" Maybe not so much. That can be a little unclear, on purpose even. If it was "just dinner" or lunch or whatever then the person can pass it off as not really being a date if they're not interested. Still sucks though. It sounds like he had not intentions to begin with, so why start?

*shrugs* I suppose I'll never know. He even continued to ask me to do stuff with him after that, which I did, because he was really fun to spend time with. Maybe he got wind of my reputation at the last minute. LMAO.

 

[rikaaim]

*shrugs* I suppose I'll never know. He even continued to ask me to do stuff with him after that, which I did, because he was really fun to spend time with. Maybe he got wind of my reputation at the last minute. LMAO.

If I got wind of your reputation I wouldn't worry anymore. I'm always so shy because I seem to have this idea that women never want it. Don't ask me where it came from. I don't know. When it comes to dating I still have old world beliefs. Hold the door open. Be gentle. Dont' force anything. Blah blah blah. So far the only thing that approach is getting me is more lonely nights.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

If I got wind of your reputation I wouldn't worry anymore. I'm always so shy because I seem to have this idea that women never want it. Don't ask me where it came from. I don't know. When it comes to dating I still have old world beliefs. Hold the door open. Be gentle. Dont' force anything. Blah blah blah. So far the only thing that approach is getting me is more lonely nights.

Well, there's nothing wrong with being a gentleman. I think, to some degree, women are still being taught to not act like they want sex. Granted our culture is changing. Still, I think women, especially young women, are scared of being considered a slut.

It was never something I was afraid of, having been branded as one since middle school. Funny how once I was in my late twenties, the same behavior was considered independant and tenacious rather than slutty.

 

[rikaaim]

Well, there's nothing wrong with being a gentleman. I think, to some degree, women are still being taught to not act like they want sex. Granted our culture is changing. Still, I think women, especially young women, are scared of being considered a slut.

It was never something I was afraid of, having been branded as one since middle school. Funny how once I was in my late twenties, the same behavior was considered independant and tenacious rather than slutty.

You know what's funny, I'm afraid of being branded as a "man". You know, they typical kind. Only wants sex. Only wants to get the goods and go. You know what? Sometimes I do. What's wrong with that? Sometimes I just want to find a person with the same wants, fulfull those wants, and part ways. Why can't I find a few of those people? That's what I want in the meantime of waiting for the right one.