Ever been out kinked?

[calmlikeabomb]

Someone who I assumed was very vanilla asked me to "make" a "banana smoothie" in her and I noped the fuck out. Mixing food and sex in general feels a little wierd to me, and I wonder if there are other acts or experiences that made you go "Nope, not that, anything but that."

 

[strongnsensual]

Didn't turn out too well for Quagmire as I recall.

 

[puppett]

i was on litchat talking about pet play, clearly i am an innocent

 

[lily_wall_]

Send me the recipe

 

[calmlikeabomb]

Send me the recipe

Well it was to be a squishy banana, to be ground in the old organic mortar and pestle, and then glazed, while inside, with a smattering of protein juice, scooped out and fed to the good little girl.

Sounded super erotic in theory, but actually contemplating the act... Yikes!

 

[y=mx+b]

Not particularly.
Not as of yet in real life

But once I see scat or diaper play in my online scrolling I'll redirect elsewhere.

Not so much out of being out kinked. But rather because it's not my jam.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Someone who I assumed was very vanilla asked me to "make" a "banana smoothie" in her and I noped the fuck out. Mixing food and sex in general feels a little wierd to me, and I wonder if there are other acts or experiences that made you go "Nope, not that, anything but that."

Sounds like a legitimate request on her part. You needed to respect her needs and wants.

 

[ZeroDarkDirty]

Kink is not a totally ordered space where you can say one thing is necessarily more or less than another, but I have been with partners who were into some things I was turned off by or thought were too dangerous for my tastes and skills so I could not go there for them.

There were also a few where I really felt like where their interests seemed to come from an unhealthy place and I just did not feel comfortable participating with them even though the same acts were a fun time with others.

No, I am not giving examples.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

Sounds like a legitimate request on her part. You needed to respect her needs and wants.

Fair enough. Maybe next time with whipped cream for the flavour...

 

[calmlikeabomb]

Kink is not a totally ordered space where you can say one thing is necessarily more or less than another, but I have been with partners who were into some things I was turned off by or thought were too dangerous for my tastes and skills so I could not go there for them.

There were also a few where I really felt like where their interests seemed to come from an unhealthy place and I just did not feel comfortable participating with them even though the same acts were a fun time with others.

No, I am not giving examples.

Well said. Safe, sane and consensual varies from person to person...

 

[wouldloveto]

Kink is not a totally ordered space where you can say one thing is necessarily more or less than another, but I have been with partners who were into some things I was turned off by or thought were too dangerous for my tastes and skills so I could not go there for them.

There were also a few where I really felt like where their interests seemed to come from an unhealthy place and I just did not feel comfortable participating with them even though the same acts were a fun time with others.

No, I am not giving examples.

I second the well said. I have been asked to participate in acts that were "too dangerous for my tastes and skills" also. After more training, and understanding the desire, some of my limits were adjusted.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I had a red flag for slapping my face.
I was enjoying a Dom spanking me, belt around my throat, etc.

And in a very passionate moment, he slapped my face.

He was dressed and leaving about 5 minutes later.

I won't do anything on my red flag list.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

I had a red flag for slapping my face.
I was enjoying a Dom spanking me, belt around my throat, etc.

And in a very passionate moment, he slapped my face.

He was dressed and leaving about 5 minutes later.

I won't do anything on my red flag list.

That's quite awesome actually. You gotta have respect, otherwise it's just distasteful. Slapping is a favourite kink of mine, but it's not the act, it's the person I'm with that matters, and we are not just a set of kinks and fetishes, we are interesting, fun, awesome people engaging in naughtiness we can both giggle about later while cuddling.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

That's quite awesome actually. You gotta have respect, otherwise it's just distasteful. Slapping is a favourite kink of mine, but it's not the act, it's the person I'm with that matters, and we are not just a set of kinks and fetishes, we are interesting, fun, awesome people engaging in naughtiness we can both giggle about later while cuddling.

My father was a mentally and physically abusive drunk.
I don't have a problem with my ass getting spanked. But my face is a different story.

If i had to guess, it was because when I was 19, he smacked me across the face.
My future husband and his brother were there to witness it.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

My father was a mentally and physically abusive drunk.
I don't have a problem with my ass getting spanked. But my face is a different story.

If i had to guess, it was because when I was 19, he smacked me across the face.
My future husband and his brother were there to witness it.

That sounds awful. I hope he got his and that you are in a better and safer place mentally and physically. I am an atheist but abusive parents deserve a special place in hell.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

That sounds awful. I hope he got his and that you are in a better and safer place mentally and physically. I am an atheist but abusive parents deserve a special place in hell.

He stopped drinking almost 25 yrs before he passed.
With the help of a great counselor, I made my peace. I helped him to doctor's appointments and was holding his hand on his last breath.

I went back to the counselor after and we discussed how it was good I made peace and had the opportunity to see my dad in a different light when he was sober.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

He stopped drinking almost 25 yrs before he passed.
With the help of a great counselor, I made my peace. I helped him to doctor's appointments and was holding his hand on his last breath.

I went back to the counselor after and we discussed how it was good I made peace and had the opportunity to see my dad in a different light when he was sober.

You are a bigger person than most.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

You are a bigger person than most.

My older sister included.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

My older sister included.

Pardon me for assuming, but perhaps even if her experiences were the same as yours, her journey was is her own. Maybe one day she will regret not making her peace the way you did, maybe she won't. Regardless, you are a better and bigger person than most. I was bullied heavily as a kid and God knows i still bear that anger and those scars.