Etiquette for Online Relationships

[cuzeyemwhateyem]

I was wondering if there was any accepted ettiquette for online relationships?
Being new to this online thing I notice that in many of the threads people seem to “pair up” Sometimes they are partners in real life. Others have met online and seem to team up. I have recently met someone online and this being my first experience at an online relationship I often pause to think “is what I’m about to say acceptable?”
Is it appropriate to ask them to send a photo? What is the ettiquette to ask for a naked photo? Is there a waiting period? How long before you can suggest cybersex?
Would you show yourself on cam with someone who doesn't have a cam?

 

[Buttah]

I should imagine every poster is different. If you are talking in PM or a messenger service I would suppose you bring it up in conversation. I guess I would just outright ask them their thoughts on it.

 

[celticlass]

I'm not sure if there is an "accepted" etiquette for online relationships. If anything, probably the main thing to remember is that there is a real person with feelings at the other end of the modem. Be honest and wait to get the feel of the relationship before asking for naked pics or cybersex. I mean, would you go up to someone you've just met and ask to see them naked or to ahve sex with you? Not usually. You'll talk to that person and get to know them a bit first.

On the flip side, it's important to remember that you've got the right to deny someone if you don't want to do what they're asking. If you don't want them to see you naked, then be comfortable saying "no" to their request for a naked pic. If the person really wants to know you as a person, your refusal won't stop them from being interested.

Good questions, by the way!

 

[cuzeyemwhateyem]

I'm not sure if there is an "accepted" etiquette for online relationships. If anything, probably the main thing to remember is that there is a real person with feelings at the other end of the modem. Be honest and wait to get the feel of the relationship before asking for naked pics or cybersex. I mean, would you go up to someone you've just met and ask to see them naked or to ahve sex with you? Not usually. You'll talk to that person and get to know them a bit first.

On the flip side, it's important to remember that you've got the right to deny someone if you don't want to do what they're asking. If you don't want them to see you naked, then be comfortable saying "no" to their request for a naked pic. If the person really wants to know you as a person, your refusal won't stop them from being interested.

Good questions, by the way!

Thanks for your reply

 

[Buttah]

~looks to see if she is suddenly invisible~

 

[Vinde]

~looks to see if she is suddenly invisible~

Who said that?

(sorry i couldn't resist )

 

[Buttah]

Who said that?

(sorry i couldn't resist )

I gave him a pity post because no one had replied and look what happens?

 

[cuzeyemwhateyem]

~looks to see if she is suddenly invisible~

Sorry..thanks for your reply too your comments are appreciated

 

[cuzeyemwhateyem]

I gave him a pity post because no one had replied and look what happens?

LOL you posted about 40 seconds after i submitted the thread ... thank you

 

[cuzeyemwhateyem]

Gotta go for a while but am really interested to hear your thoughts on this.

 

[omahaman2]

The operative word in your question is relationship! The word online is just stating where the relationship started and most of the relating takes place. One of the other posters said it right,the person online with you and yourself are both
individuals. In a relationship where you are physically close, you dont treat everyone you are involved with the same way. The same thing with online relationships,each person is different,so treat them different.
By the way, GOOD LUCK, with your relationship. My relationship started here and is going on four and a half years.Soon, she will be my wife.

 

[cuzeyemwhateyem]

The operative word in your question is relationship! The word online is just stating where the relationship started and most of the relating takes place. One of the other posters said it right,the person online with you and yourself are both
individuals. In a relationship where you are physically close, you dont treat everyone you are involved with the same way. The same thing with online relationships,each person is different,so treat them different.
By the way, GOOD LUCK, with your relationship. My relationship started here and is going on four and a half years.Soon, she will be my wife.

Thanks for your input..its appreciated.... i think its very important to realise that there are real people involved in this and to treat them with the same courtesy that you would in a face to face situation. And thanks for the well wishes

 

[cuzeyemwhateyem]

BUMP THIS BUGGA

I'll give this a bit of a BUMP myself. I am actually suprised at the lack of response to this. I see many people that have "paired up" here in Lit and would love to have their input. Another question to ponder... if your online partner comes from another country do you talk about getting together IRL? I guess this is probably covered in more detail in "when things move beyond Lit" thread. Hope all you Litsters have a great day

 

[cymbline]

With any relationship you have to respect one another. As stated above just ask for photos. If they say no, don’t pressure them. I believe Trust plays a major role in on-line relationships. You don’t really know what is going on the end of the PC. Be honest and up front of your expectations. Set up boundaries. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do, go with your gut. And most of all have fun. You just might find love or a really good friend. Or Both.

 

[BlackWolf65]

With any relationship you have to respect one another. As stated above just ask for photos. If they say no, don’t pressure them. I believe Trust plays a major role in on-line relationships. You don’t really know what is going on the end of the PC. Be honest and up front of your expectations. Set up boundaries. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do, go with your gut. And most of all have fun. You just might find love or a really good friend. Or Both.

Stumbled onto this thread. I have found both here. I have found many good, good friends, as well as my very best friend and the love of my life, Dragonflie. You're right on target with your words. We've been honest and up front with each other from the beginning, we set our boundaries, we stated our expectations. And we have come away with so much more than we bargained for in the beginning.

We exchanged PMs first, then IMs, and then photos, and then moved to phone conversations. I finally went to meet her. And when I left, I knew already that I felt a great deal for her. The moment that I looked in her eyes, face-to-face, I fell completely in love with her. I am fond of saying that I found not my soulmate, but my *soul* when I found her.

This board has the potential to foster some very meaningful relationships. If you need an example of the kind of friendship you can find here - not in terms of finding a lover, but in terms of finding real friends, click on the link in my sig for my "Whine" thread. Read it from the beginning. The friends that both DF and I have found here are the most amazing people I have ever known.

 

[celticlass]

BUMP THIS BUGGA

I'll give this a bit of a BUMP myself. I am actually suprised at the lack of response to this. I see many people that have "paired up" here in Lit and would love to have their input.

Sometimes weekends are slow here. Things should pick up as the week begins and people are bored at work.

I am fairly certain that r/l meets between people of different nationalities hasn't been covered in the "When Things Move Beyond Literotica" thread.

Another question to ponder... if your online partner comes from another country do you talk about getting together IRL? I guess this is probably covered in more detail in "when things move beyond Lit" thread. Hope all you Litsters have a great day

Umm, would it be too blatant and bold of me to answer this, YES!!!

 

[quickcarl31b40]

OK, here's my two cents worth.

An online relationship is the same as a r/l relationship. There is another living breathing human being on the other end of that modem and you need to understand their emotions and limitations. While there is the element of the unknown in a cyber relationship (i.e. is this person across the country or across the street?), you need to be honest with your partner. Without honesty, there is no true relationship....just a pack of lies in which you are trying to deceive another for your benifit.

<stepping off my soap box>