Erotic pictures

[nomdeplume]

Throughout my married life, I have taken some erotic pictures of my wife and I. Obviously all are very compromising. My wife has a cousin, an attractive one, and I'm sure she has seen the pictures. Should I confront her about sneaking aroung looking at out stuff? I mean these pictures weren't just lying around. Should I try and use this to my advantage? Or should I just forget about it?

 

[MissVictoria]

When you take erotic pictures of yourself, you accept the risks that come along with taking them.

Is your wife's cousin sneaking around specificly for pictures? If so, why?

If not, my advice is to confront her about snooping, not the pictures directly. It is a sensative matter.

 

[alltherage]

Violations of privacy are wrong. Confront her. The pictures existence does put you at risk for someone seeing them. That does not diminish your right to have them be private.

 

[SilverVeil]

This is a toughy for me.

I dislike confrontation with family. But that is my hangup.

You could hint around to the cousin about it. Are you seeking to sound the cousin out for participation with you and your wife maybe ?

My future mother in law lives with us and I told her that we would move our bedroom furniture around ourselves due to things of personal nature we own, I came home and she was finishing up putting our bed together for us. Silly me ... our box of toys complete with the anal plug, and double prong dildo was stored under our bed and did not have a lid. ( We lived alone before she moved in )

I explained that the reason we had wanted to do the bed ourselves was that we enjoy a very healthy sex life but did not think she needed to know just how VERY healthy it was.

Now I have no intention of having sex with my future mother in law, and I KNOW she saw the toys.

So other than the reference I talked about above, I have not mentioned it to her. And neither has she.

Once you bring it up, you open a new can of worms. If the cousin is embarassed about it, or not forthcoming with an admission, you are placed in the position of doubting the cousins honesty in the future. May be a bad thing.

To avoid future snooping, I would suggest getting a lock box.

 

[lovetoread]

My question is this,how did she know about the pics? Has your wife shared them with her?

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

I would think about why the pictures were taken in the first place (and why do you mention her cousin is attractive). Mementos? For myself, I wouldn't care who saw/knew (of course I have sex with my wife ...lol). I would be flattered that someone wanted to watch/peek and it would turn me on. If I took pics of something like that (and I should because it's getting harder to remember what it's like ...lol) I wouldn't have them for just me.

As a matter of law (and I'm not a lawyer) you have a reasonable expectation of privacy so that much has been compromised. But what effect does her finding the pics have on you? On your wife? Is the cousin treating you differently? What do you want to accomplish by confronting her? Do you feel she's snooping through our things to find other stuff, and not trust her any more?

I would just let her know you know, air it out and laugh about it.

Tough call.

 

[Dynamite]

Buy a safe and put them in there. Case closed.