erotic motivations (general discussion thread)

[sunandshadow]

Threesome stories are a thing which structurally, has puzzled me for a while. Because ethically I would prefer to see something where each of the characters loves/is attracted to both others in a specific and unique way. Which, if you think about it, means that for 3 people you need 6 specific and unique reasons for wanting to have sex with someone. So I started wandering how many different ways of wanting someone there really are. I started making a list - I know it's horribly incomplete, but I figured I'd share what I wrote and maybe the people here will add motivations they have used in their own stories.


Pure vs. Dirty
- A person who thinks of themself as dirty and the other as pure wants to sully the other

- A person who thinks of themself as reparably dirty and the other as pure wants that person to cleanse them

- A person who thinks of themself as irreparably dirty and the other as pure wants to protect the other from getting dirty

- A person who thinks of themself as pure and the other as dirty wants to sully themself


Injured vs. Whole
- A person who thinks of themself as injured jealously wants to damage others who seem to be whole

- A person who thinks of themself as reparably injured wants an infalible/invulnerable nurturing figure to protect and heal them

- A person who thinks of themself as irreparably wounded wants to protect innocent others from being similarly wounded

- A person who thinks of the other as wounded wants to heal the other


Individual vs. the World
- A person motivated by reverse psychology who wants to thumb their nose at convention delights in doing things which could be considered 'unnatural'. (This does not really apply to homosexuality, but more to things like incest, bod mod, bestiality, attraction to any sort of 'freak'...)

- A person who thinks of themself as smarter than others and wants to prove it wants to have a naughty secret which no one can figure out. (This includes a drug habit, a pregnancy, wearing no underwear or unusual underwear, wearing a plug or vibrator, self-watersports and raunch, wearing a disguise...)

- An idealist who hates practical restrictions wants to see others living out fantasies. (This kind of person may encourage consenting others to pursue unsafe sex, homosexuality, crossdressing, bod mod, incest, drug use, getting pregnant, etc., or may try to manipulate/trick others without their knowledge or consent into doing these things, possibly via persuasion, deception, blackmail, kidnapping, physical force, hypnotism, intoxication, magic. This sort of person might also create an elaborate romantic scenario such as one involving secret admirer letters or a script and paid actors.)

- A person who thinks of themself as superior to others and resents advantages others have over them enjoys seeing others humiliated, objectified, and sometimes injured or killed.

- A person who feels isolated or widely disliked will tend to lust for the first person who is nice to them. Depending on whether the person is aggressive or submissive, this can result in either forceful possessiveness, silent protectiveness/attentiveness, or clingy begging. In both cases the person doubts the other's sincerity and may fear revealing their own feelings and possibly spy on the other and listen to gossip about them.


(Um I hope nothing here offended anybody - these are sweeping generalizations and I'm not trying to say I can psychoanalyze anyone just by knowing what they fantasize about, lol. I'm just trying to figure out subconscious forces which might drive my characters.) So... anything to add?

 

[Fantasies_only]

Addiction and instant gratification

• One who falls in deep depression because of addiction, and must get a sexual high from an encounter with a stranger, only to fall into a deep depression again.
• One who cannot find a mate, and seeks sexual attention.
• One who has poor self esteem that must be cured by sexual euphoria (usually with close friends and family).

 

[Fantasies_only]

Hypersexuality (AKA Don Juan Syndrome or Nymphomania)

Hypersexuality (see above examples) comes from a prepubescent sexual trauma.
This does not have to occur physically, verbal sexuality will also trigger it (usually dormant until adulthood or middle aged).
Let's say you are a girl who's father always makes sexual comments, hits on you, and verbally makes passes towards you, and your mom either doesn't know what's going on or doesn't wish to know, so she lets this continue.
Even if her father is taken away, she still has that trauma, and might act out in later years.

Usually she will take a friendly relationship, and build elaborate sexual scenarios in her head which she wants to follow through on, and consensually will.
She also has romantic fantasies she mistakes as a real relationship.
If she is put into a position of power (like a teacher), she will abuse the position for a sexual dominance thrill during the encounter, but treat him as an equal on a personal level.

This can take place with anyone, from a married man to a teenage girl, or even a hot 38 year old teacher to her 14 year old student (see Debra Lafave).

Individual vs. the World
- A person motivated by reverse psychology who wants to thumb their nose at convention delights in doing things which could be considered 'unnatural'. (This does not really apply to homosexuality, but more to things like incest, bod mod, bestiality, attraction to any sort of 'freak'...)

- A person who thinks of themself as smarter than others and wants to prove it wants to have a naughty secret which no one can figure out. (This includes a drug habit, a pregnancy, wearing no underwear or unusual underwear, wearing a plug or vibrator, self-watersports and raunch, wearing a disguise...)

- An idealist who hates practical restrictions wants to see others living out fantasies. (This kind of person may encourage consenting others to pursue unsafe sex, homosexuality, crossdressing, bod mod, incest, drug use, getting pregnant, etc., or may try to manipulate/trick others without their knowledge or consent into doing these things, possibly via persuasion, deception, blackmail, kidnapping, physical force, hypnotism, intoxication, magic. This sort of person might also create an elaborate romantic scenario such as one involving secret admirer letters or a script and paid actors.)

- A person who thinks of themself as superior to others and resents advantages others have over them enjoys seeing others humiliated, objectified, and sometimes injured or killed.

- A person who feels isolated or widely disliked will tend to lust for the first person who is nice to them. Depending on whether the person is aggressive or submissive, this can result in either forceful possessiveness, silent protectiveness/attentiveness, or clingy begging. In both cases the person doubts the other's sincerity and may fear revealing their own feelings and possibly spy on the other and listen to gossip about them.

These are generally hypersexual situations from a bigger disorder.