Email Love Affair??

[curvyjae]

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[wolfcub99]

To answer your first question: is it possible not to live dual lives? (or triple loves or quadruple lives?) I would ask back: can the standard issue reality really be enough for anyone?

I don't think so.

Everyone has a secret garden, a locked box with all kinds of stuff in it that no one else gets to see or hear, or if they do it's under very special conditions. Perhaps techno logic would be the very best of those special conditions.

I'm an English guy living in Paris, career bachelor (sorry if that's a turn off which it may well be), into writing prose and poetry, looking to dig wells to my underground streams.

I like movies, DVDs, walking, blues guitar, reading History and Psychology.

I’m sure a bbw will have many replies to such an intriguing proposition, but here’s one for consideration.

wolfcub99

 

[papadoc19]

I think it is possible...but it is up to the people involved to determine how much, if any, crossover there is and to set/maintain any boundaries.

You sound like a very intriguing woman...feel free to pm me anytime...

 

[nonfictional]

Most definitely possible. Had a happy separate relationship online for many years. It was fulfilling in many ways, although we never met. Eventually both of us got too busy with our real lives and things just petered out.

 

[dchockeyman]

It's definitely possible--I've had a few meaningful relationships develop from Lit that both of us thoroughly enjoyed. It takes some effort and coordination, but it's much like real life--there has to be an emotional, mental and sexual fit on both sides to make it work.

PM me if you want to talk--I'm always open!

 

[agentaddy]

Hey.. Saw your post. INteresting thought about dual life. But hey, I'm going to let you and me find that answer instead of giving you one.

Most guys there have given you their views. I'm here instead to see if you'd like to try that. I am not here to change anyones status either. Just a busy man with his busy work who doesn't have time for anything else. So maybe something like this could keep me a bit sane.

I am male, 25, graduate, working at a very big investment bank into Human Capital management. I basically recruit people..

Thats a bit of me. If you think we could get into that freiendship thing you were talkking about, then reply back!

Heres hoping to hear from you.. Cheerss!!

 

[Leerae]

have sent a pm. Hope you will respond. Thanks

 

[Wilfulove]

DO you think it is possible to live dual lives? One in real life and one via email and other techno-logic means?

I am a married bbw mother with kids at home. I am an English teacher/intern (got my own classroom, but have not graduated yet).

I love reading, writing, listening to music, road trips, daydreaming about traveling to England, Ireland or Italy, watching tv shows like Downton Abbey, 2 broke girls and things like that. Love fishing, crocheting, and drawing whentime permits.

looking for a friend that can maintain a long term friendship, and if the chemistry is right, then we will just go with the flow with anything it develops into. Not looking to change anyones marital status as mine is not changing anytime soon , but would love a long term friend. Look forward to meeting.

Absolutely it is. But like real life love, online ones are just as hard to find and you have to kiss a lot of frogs! Chemistry right off the bat, happens rarely.
I used to daydream about my online lover visiting me here in Ireland, in fact it was my favourite fantasy. Would the reality measure up to the fanatsy?

It was kind of like book vs film. Would it translate so well?

Anyway, yes it is entirely possible and I wish you well in your search.

 

[dreamykitten2]

It's very possible!!!!!

I found it right here on Lit! It's wonderful and exciting! And dual lives is possible although u need to be careful and of course Real life takes precedence! It's what works for u! And how u are able to live with what you are doing. I've been doing it for 2 years now. It takes finagling and knowing when to do what and when. But it's so worth it! I'd never give it up for anything I'm having a blast and living my life to the fullest! Pm me if you want to know more!

 

[pfflyerhot]

This thread is right up my alley today. That's all, for now... Thanks.

 

[curvyjae]

thanks

thanks guys and gals. Love being among like minded people.

 

[sht4brains]

I I think I like this thread. I have had the same questions. Maybe I'll gain some insight?

 

[HSigurdsson]

DO you think it is possible to live dual lives? One in real life and one via email and other techno-logic means?...looking for a friend that can maintain a long term friendship, and if the chemistry is right, then we will just go with the flow with anything it develops into. Not looking to change anyones marital status as mine is not changing anytime soon , but would love a long term friend. Look forward to meeting.

Answer? YES. You have to always remember [from both sides of the relationship] that real life comes first. I have some very rewarding on-line "techno-logic" friendships that engage unfulfilled fantasies and the missing erotic portions of day-to-day life.

 

[Sensual_Curves]

oh oh! me too! me too!

I also would like to gain some insight on this subject and perhaps get to know some of you who have had these relationships? If interested in getting to know me, please send me a PM. Sorry CurvyJae, didn't mean to highjack your thread but it's a really good thread and hope you can find your answers.

 

[E_Dantes]

It seems to me that this would be a safe place to start a friendship and see what happens, although, like myself, been so out of touch with describing who and what I am, it becomes a challenge to always remain honest and accountable. Very easy to encounter some resistance and instead "appear" to be something else.

Guess at my age, I'm still learning.....oh well....Id est quod est.

 

[Jewdles]

Yes it can happen, and does. I'm no exception, and would love for it to come along again.

One small thing I'd add - I see the term 'real life' used a lot, and I think we always need to keep in mind this is real life, just one facet of it. I like to think of offline and online, as opposed to online and real life. In my opinion that's how people can be hurt when we think it's not really real. It sure is.



J

 

[wench43]

It seems to me that this would be a safe place to start a friendship and see what happens, although, like myself, been so out of touch with describing who and what I am, it becomes a challenge to always remain honest and accountable. Very easy to encounter some resistance and instead "appear" to be something else.

Guess at my age, I'm still learning.....oh well....Id est quod est.

First off to Curvyjae, great thread. I believe in being totally honest when I start chatting with a man that I have met here. Why lie about who and what I am. As a BBW, if things would ever progress to the meeting stage, I want to know up front that the person I am meeting is meeting the real me, not a made up lie.

I have met some wonderful men on this site. Only made it to meeting one. It didn't go well. He couldn't run from me fast enough, and I was honest. Oh well.

 

[TheMarksman]

First off to Curvyjae, great thread. I believe in being totally honest when I start chatting with a man that I have met here. Why lie about who and what I am. As a BBW, if things would ever progress to the meeting stage, I want to know up front that the person I am meeting is meeting the real me, not a made up lie.

I have met some wonderful men on this site. Only made it to meeting one. It didn't go well. He couldn't run from me fast enough, and I was honest. Oh well.

Wench I totally agree with you - although I suspect many wouldn't. I feel life is too short to have to spend ages creating and maintaining a false persona.

I think Mark Twain said: If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.


M

 

[pfflyerhot]

One small thing I'd add - I see the term 'real life' used a lot, and I think we always need to keep in mind this is real life, just one facet of it. I like to think of offline and online, as opposed to online and real life. In my opinion that's how people can be hurt when we think it's not really real. It sure is. J

I, too, consider my online connections as real... just because we've not connected "in person" doesn't mean I'm not showing my real self... quite the opposite, actually. I realize, too, not everyone here thinks this way, and that I take a personal risk by behaving genuinely with other Litsters.

 

[UhlBWett]

Qudos!

I, too, consider my online connections as real... just because we've not connected "in person" doesn't mean I'm not showing my real self... quite the opposite, actually. I realize, too, not everyone here thinks this way, and that I take a personal risk by behaving genuinely with other Litsters.

I admire you for your honesty...........

 

[hardon4u2]

i have chatted with and actually met some incredible people on here...i think the true people whoare on here eventually rise to the top....as far as honesty goes if you have to lie...your not the kind of person i want to know....just my 2 cents

 

[dgowre]

DO you think it is possible to live dual lives? One in real life and one via email and other techno-logic means?

I am a married bbw mother with kids at home. I am an English teacher/intern (got my own classroom, but have not graduated yet).

I love reading, writing, listening to music, road trips, daydreaming about traveling to England, Ireland or Italy, watching tv shows like Downton Abbey, 2 broke girls and things like that. Love fishing, crocheting, and drawing whentime permits.

looking for a friend that can maintain a long term friendship, and if the chemistry is right, then we will just go with the flow with anything it develops into. Not looking to change anyones marital status as mine is not changing anytime soon , but would love a long term friend. Look forward to meeting.

Yes, it is possible, in fact I've done it, several years ago. It can be terribly exciting but requires extreme caution. Would I try it again? Yes, I think I would, for the sheer excitement.

 

[Seasidegal]

It is possible! I found it, but it is fraught with all the same pitfalls as real life. Ours did crossover and that was winderful too...

 

[dgowre]

Does anyone remember the website 'Eons'? Unfortunately it closed, but It was a wonderful place to develop relationships, friendships, to indulge in a lot of good, old-fashioned eroticism with people one met. I haven't used Literotica long, but it seems to me that it could work out to be very similar. I certainly hope so.

 

[GoldStarBiker]

Yes

It is possible. It's human nature to be attracted to other ppl. Married or not nature is nature. 33 mwm here