Edging/orgasm control - what is your experience and tips?

[FG666]

Only recently I have started having orgasms with sex. For my partner is very important that I have it but she doesn't really seem to understand that only have one or two, while she has multiple.
Likely related to it, I would like to introduce edging to her as a way of allowing her more control of my orgasms. I feel it may also allow me to have a more intense experience.
I also find exciting the idea of orgasming under someone's command. It's perhaps something too advanced for someone like me who has just started even having orgasms but appealing nonetheless.

What is your experience with both things? Any ideas to start with?

 

[MissMayhem69]

I have a fair amount of experience in this area. I particularly enjoy controlling the timing and circumstances of my partners orgasms.

My advice is to start small. Three days with three instances of edging (stroking yourself until you are very close to orgasming) and then letting your partner make you orgasm in the way she most enjoys. Your orgasm should be tied to her pleasure just as much as hers. I enjoy watching my partners edge but I've known people that don't want to watch but want to know when it's complete or who enjoy setting tasks while edging (i.e. stroke your cock for three minutes while you repeat a phrase, watch a particular porn clip, look at a certain photo, or fantasize about a scenario).

If the three days does well, extend it for a week. After each time, discuss with your partner how she feels and how you felt. You should also not ignore her orgasms. She shouldn't have to wait just because you are. I enjoyed my partner edging while licking my pussy or watching me masturbate to completion while he can't.

The longest my partner went through this edging/orgasm cycle was 40 days. At the end of 40 days, he came in three huge loads and said the experience was transcendent.

It's a lot of work but if you and your partner are good at communicating and both have the same goal, this could be excellent fun for you both. Let us know if you try it.

 

[Wonderer67]

Only recently I have started having orgasms with sex. For my partner is very important that I have it but she doesn't really seem to understand that only have one or two, while she has multiple.
Likely related to it, I would like to introduce edging to her as a way of allowing her more control of my orgasms. I feel it may also allow me to have a more intense experience.
I also find exciting the idea of orgasming under someone's command. It's perhaps something too advanced for someone like me who has just started even having orgasms but appealing nonetheless.

What is your experience with both things? Any ideas to start with?

My wife is controlling my orgasm. On 26 days. It is maddening - mostly in a good way. My wife uses it to keeping me controlled, the attention on her and because it gets her off a bit to control my biological, physical and physiological urges.

We’ve been at it for several years, so agree with the other poster, start with short timings and see how it works.

The releases are, in fact, life changing! I’m hoping for a release soon…

 

[Jcam1980s]

I'd like to try the long term side of it. The longest ive done is 2 weeks, but wife only participated in 1 day each of those weeks. I never came. But i have a VERY high drive so every day i edged for a couple of hours at least. On the night i finally did cum she lubed my cock and stroked me for a couple of hours, her hand was soaked in pre cum. When i eventually came it was like nothing ive experienced. We stopped counting after 6 ropes of very thick cum over her feet/pussy. I've never felt spent like it. I was exhausted then she carried on stroking me. My sensitivity was off the charts but she wouldn't stop. When i came again the pain/pleasure was perfect

 

[Wonderer67]

I'd like to try the long term side of it. The longest ive done is 2 weeks, but wife only participated in 1 day each of those weeks. I never came. But i have a VERY high drive so every day i edged for a couple of hours at least. On the night i finally did cum she lubed my cock and stroked me for a couple of hours, her hand was soaked in pre cum. When i eventually came it was like nothing ive experienced. We stopped counting after 6 ropes of very thick cum over her feet/pussy. I've never felt spent like it. I was exhausted then she carried on stroking me. My sensitivity was off the charts but she wouldn't stop. When i came again the pain/pleasure was perfect

Hell yes! This is spot on.

My wife did release me over the weekend (29 days wo cumming) She had me use a prostate massager and she masturbated me for two hours. It was fucking maddening, how many dry prostate orgasms I had.

After the two hour alarm went off, she was ready to let me go. She gave me a wet prostate orgasm and just gently tipped me over the edge w my massager still in me. Not a ton, but cum just oozed out. Maddening! Frustrating!

But I was still hard as hell, so she kept on jerking me off. It didn’t hurt (like no post orgasm torture) and she edged me for another 10 minutes. She brought me off with her hand and then took it off as I was just cumming. I must’ve shot 8-9 strong ropes with my cock flapping and moving involuntary.
I’m into orgasm control and I support this message!

 

[MissMandy86]

When doing this with a guy online .. I always start small and increase the times gradually

My favorite part is to have them stop after the time has expired and write an email to me of everything they were thinking of... and then they can start again and finish .. if they are allowed to finish

I just love being out with friends or maybe with a guy and that email comes in .. it makes me feel incredible

That email also gives me a lot of good info in which way to take things .. that allows me to tighten the screws on him

Sometimes I like to assign small times during the day .. like 5 mins in the bathroom at work ..then the hour long at night

I tell them to go really slow and stop and take breaks as needed

If they keep up with the assignments the relationship keeps growing

 

[Wonderer67]

When doing this with a guy online .. I always start small and increase the times gradually

My favorite part is to have them stop after the time has expired and write an email to me of everything they were thinking of... and then they can start again and finish .. if they are allowed to finish

I just love being out with friends or maybe with a guy and that email comes in .. it makes me feel incredible

That email also gives me a lot of good info in which way to take things .. that allows me to tighten the screws on him

Sometimes I like to assign small times during the day .. like 5 mins in the bathroom at work ..then the hour long at night

I tell them to go really slow and stop and take breaks as needed

If they keep up with the assignments the relationship keeps growing

Jesus. I think I’m in love.

 

[Woolmohair]

I like to listen to erotic hypnosis videos through headphones while I chat or look at porn. It gets me pretty hot. There are enough varieties of erotic hypnosis topics that I can sort of regulate arousal follow along with some JOI, but stop before the order to cum, keep going. While I typically cum at least once a day, (Well, sometimes maybe other day, depending on life.) usually spending 15-20 minutes doin' the do, a couple few times a week, I like to spend a couple of hours on the above method. Crazy! KA-RAAAAZY! The final result is far more intense that the typical "Squick-Squick-Squick- SPLOOT!" Mmm.

 

[Krigirl1233]

B O R I N G. Why control an orgasm?

 

[TarnishedPenny]

B O R I N G. Why control an orgasm?

I guess one analogy might be food. If you are hungry and have a hamburger, you feel good. Hamburgers are great, IMO. Truly. I like hamburgers. But eventually some people want to try something a bit more complex - gourmet food, call it. To those who develop a taste for it (and not everybody does, that's OK, too), it can be more enjoyable than a quarter-pound patty, cheese, bacon and lettuce in a bun. Not that most people want lobster every night, mind.

Edging is one form of gourmet sex. For one thing, delaying an orgasm a couple of times makes it more powerful when it happens. As a long-term benefit, edging is one way for a man to learn how to last longer and that's often a very good thing for couples.

Controlling, denial and such are a step further, but they're all intended to make the final result extraordinary.

 

[Krigirl1233]

I guess one analogy might be food. If you are hungry and have a hamburger, you feel good. Hamburgers are great, IMO. Truly. I like hamburgers. But eventually some people want to try something a bit more complex - gourmet food, call it. To those who develop a taste for it (and not everybody does, that's OK, too), it can be more enjoyable than a quarter-pound patty, cheese, bacon and lettuce in a bun. Not that most people want lobster every night, mind.

Edging is one form of gourmet sex. For one thing, delaying an orgasm a couple of times makes it more powerful when it happens. As a long-term benefit, edging is one way for a man to learn how to last longer and that's often a very good thing for couples.

Controlling, denial and such are a step further, but they're all intended to make the final result extraordinary.

I understand where you are coming from and I envy you that you have found pleasure… it’s just not for me. Best of luck to you

 

[InUorOnU]

When doing this with a guy online .. I always start small and increase the times gradually

My favorite part is to have them stop after the time has expired and write an email to me of everything they were thinking of... and then they can start again and finish .. if they are allowed to finish

I just love being out with friends or maybe with a guy and that email comes in .. it makes me feel incredible

That email also gives me a lot of good info in which way to take things .. that allows me to tighten the screws on him

Sometimes I like to assign small times during the day .. like 5 mins in the bathroom at work ..then the hour long at night

I tell them to go really slow and stop and take breaks as needed

If they keep up with the assignments the relationship keeps growing

That’s very hot. Not something many women are into making guys do.
Similar to forced/denied orgasm that I have made female subs online do.

 

[masterslave00]

When doing this with a guy online .. I always start small and increase the times gradually

My favorite part is to have them stop after the time has expired and write an email to me of everything they were thinking of... and then they can start again and finish .. if they are allowed to finish

I just love being out with friends or maybe with a guy and that email comes in .. it makes me feel incredible

That email also gives me a lot of good info in which way to take things .. that allows me to tighten the screws on him

Sometimes I like to assign small times during the day .. like 5 mins in the bathroom at work ..then the hour long at night

I tell them to go really slow and stop and take breaks as needed

If they keep up with the assignments the relationship keeps growing

OMG, this would be a dream cum true for me!

 

[InUorOnU]

This is more of an accidental edging technique I’ve found myself doing, but is probably the longest form of edging it do…at least while actually touching.
I cam from time to time on a random partner cam chat site. And because as with most situations the vast majority of other cammers are men also, it can take a long time to find a female online, let alone a suitable one. So I go online/cam with my fleshlight in hand (and my dick in fleshlight) and start the long process of ‘skipping’ guy after guy looking for the right female partner to get off with.
This process very rapidly eats up an hour or so before long, and can easily lead to 3 to 4 hours of stroking..slowing…stopping…starting…repeating while on the search for the right cam partner to enjoy the result.

 

[SubJ_]

I use the videos where there is a timer to tell you how fast or slow you have to stroke.

Now I know that these videos are usually for men, but when there is a timer, I play with the clit in the same manner, on the counts of the beat in the video as I have no scenarios or significant other to communicate with and most of the times, it works fine.

 

[InUorOnU]

I use the videos where there is a timer to tell you how fast or slow you have to stroke.

Now I know that these videos are usually for men, but when there is a timer, I play with the clit in the same manner, on the counts of the beat in the video as I have no scenarios or significant other to communicate with and most of the times, it works fine.

The old red light green light videos..before squid games borrowed the term haha.
It’s one thing I hoped to find on this site as audio, but the JOI audio here is lacking in the instruction part of JOI.
So do you watch the porn intended for guys because it’s a woman instructing, or is it because of the lack of porn content produced with women in mind generally?

 

[SubJ_]

The old red light green light videos..before squid games borrowed the term haha.
It’s one thing I hoped to find on this site as audio, but the JOI audio here is lacking in the instruction part of JOI.
So do you watch the porn intended for guys because it’s a woman instructing, or is it because of the lack of porn content produced with women in mind generally?

the latter actually, i tried looking for content for females but there was none, so, had to go ahead with what was available.

 

[InUorOnU]

the latter actually, i tried looking for content for females but there was none, so, had to go ahead with what was available.

Makes sense. There is a niche there in the marketplace be filled.
Mass producing rather than just one on one.

 

[Fire_starter01]

When doing this with a guy online .. I always start small and increase the times gradually

My favorite part is to have them stop after the time has expired and write an email to me of everything they were thinking of... and then they can start again and finish .. if they are allowed to finish

I just love being out with friends or maybe with a guy and that email comes in .. it makes me feel incredible

That email also gives me a lot of good info in which way to take things .. that allows me to tighten the screws on him

Sometimes I like to assign small times during the day .. like 5 mins in the bathroom at work ..then the hour long at night

I tell them to go really slow and stop and take breaks as needed

If they keep up with the assignments the relationship keeps growing

I’m usually more dominant in a relationship and have experience of edging/orgasm denial with subs but there is something about this that intrigues me and makes me want to be on the receiving end..

 

[Ironfan]

Due to working away from home on a regular basis, I've been edging myself for a while as It leads to more fun the first time I get back.

Recently been getting the OH to do it whilst at home. When we sex, she'll alternate riding me and edging me with hands/mouth. Makes the orgasm much more intense.

We trying no nut November this year, will see how that goes.

Also the thought of a lady having control of my orgasms/edging whilst I'm working away appeals to me. Telling me whether I can edge, how long for or how many times and if I can cum or not is a huge turn on.

 

[MissMandy86]

I’m usually more dominant in a relationship and have experience of edging/orgasm denial with subs but there is something about this that intrigues me and makes me want to be on the receiving end..

It's a very submissive thing ..
So your a Dom but you could be broken with edging/orgasm control ??

 

[emme8]

I’m usually more dominant in a relationship and have experience of edging/orgasm denial with subs but there is something about this that intrigues me and makes me want to be on the receiving end..

Enjoy switching things up. If nothing else an episode on the receiving end of edging will make you a better dom.

 

[Fire_starter01]

It's a very submissive thing ..
So your a Dom but you could be broken with edging/orgasm control ??

Never defined myself as a Dom just that I’m usually more dominant.. I’m a switch, it depends on the person I’m with/talking to but with the right person edging/orgasm control is something I’d be interested in experiencing.

 

[staciedix]

I have a fair amount of experience in this area. I particularly enjoy controlling the timing and circumstances of my partners orgasms.

My advice is to start small. Three days with three instances of edging (stroking yourself until you are very close to orgasming) and then letting your partner make you orgasm in the way she most enjoys. Your orgasm should be tied to her pleasure just as much as hers. I enjoy watching my partners edge but I've known people that don't want to watch but want to know when it's complete or who enjoy setting tasks while edging (i.e. stroke your cock for three minutes while you repeat a phrase, watch a particular porn clip, look at a certain photo, or fantasize about a scenario).

If the three days does well, extend it for a week. After each time, discuss with your partner how she feels and how you felt. You should also not ignore her orgasms. She shouldn't have to wait just because you are. I enjoyed my partner edging while licking my pussy or watching me masturbate to completion while he can't.

The longest my partner went through this edging/orgasm cycle was 40 days. At the end of 40 days, he came in three huge loads and said the experience was transcendent.

It's a lot of work but if you and your partner are good at communicating and both have the same goal, this could be excellent fun for you both. Let us know if you try it.

Ahh the sweet agony

 

[sweettalk4u]

Ahh the sweet agony

The types of edging are endless as is the discipline attached to each session