Edgeplay: For the love of God, why?

[Mansa Musa]

I recently witnessed my very first session of razorplay. In a night which contained lots of MMFF, MFM, FMF, FFM, FMMF, BM/WF (cuckold), WM/BF (antebellum plantation), whipping, paddling, caning and spanking action, my sole memory of that night is the image of a relatively attractive young woman allowing her boyfriend to gently sawinto her skin with a straight razor until she began to bleed. I don't understand the appeal, and my memories of that night are all tainted by the sight of her blood against the steel. Please, explain the appeal of this type of play.

 

[Netzach]

You don't understand how blood intimacy sacrifice and all that jazz are compatible?

I'm assuming she didn't need sutures or anything. And it's fine that it's not your cuppa tea, it's not one of my main ones either, but I definitely see an appeal.

 

[Lady_Nadine]

I don't understand either, but if it floats someone's boat kudos for them. I don't mean that scarcastically either. There are things I would like that someone else wouldn't too. It just looks and sounds too painful that I don't think I could get pleasure. I can't give blood, let alone be cut.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... the image of a relatively attractive young woman allowing her boyfriend to gently sawinto her skin with a straight razor until she began to bleed. I don't understand the appeal, and my memories of that night are all tainted by the sight of her blood against the steel. Please, explain the appeal of this type of play.

OMG that is so effing HAWT!

You don't get it? What's not to get? A person willing to submit their body to the desires and designs of their partner? The supression of their instinct to fight, or flee? Their surrender to the pain? The sharing of energy and the shedding of blood?

It's freaking power exchange at it's finest, at least in my book of kinks.

It's like a thoroughly straight person looking at gay relationships or vice versa... going "I just don't get it." when trying to fathom what makes "those people" tick. You either understand the attraction, or you don't. I can't explain WHY blood play gets me hot, I just know it does.

Sorry I can't be of more help.

 

[serijules]

mmmmm, blood.

 

[myinnerslut]

mmmmm, blood.

i think thats the shortest post ive ever seen you make.



to the OP, its just one option of many in BDSM that you can choose to either like or not.

hell, its just one option of EDGEPLAY that you can choose to like or not. youve still got fire, breathe, scars, etc etc.

 

[graceanne]

Why?

Cause it's fun?

 

[Adakgirl]

oh, I thought edge play was masturbating, or a partner playing with you just to the edge of orgasm, but not allowing you to go over. Just dancing on the edge of release, keeping you there for long periods of time. Then letting yourself come down, then back up and edge....repeat, repeat.
I have been instructed to play like that, to keep myself sexually excited and aroused on and off throughout the day. No orgasm allowed for days on end. That is what I thought edge play was.

Using razor blades to slice and cut was called blood play.
I get so confused sometimes.

 

[IsabellaKing]

oh, I thought edge play was masturbating, or a partner playing with you just to the edge of orgasm, but not allowing you to go over. Just dancing on the edge of release, keeping you there for long periods of time. Then letting yourself come down, then back up and edge....repeat, repeat.
I have been instructed to play like that, to keep myself sexually excited and aroused on and off throughout the day. No orgasm allowed for days on end. That is what I thought edge play was.

Using razor blades to slice and cut was called blood play.
I get so confused sometimes.

Now, this sort of edge play I can handle

Not blood though - not for me.

 

[ZenDragoness]

It's freaking power exchange at it's finest!

OMG that is so effing HAWT!

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It's freaking power exchange at it's finest, at least in my book of kinks.

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Exactly. I was fascinated by blood as long as i can renember. Not in the vampirism direction. But the ability to break somebodys skin or let my skin be broken by somebody else is one of the highest highs i know.

I even marked some of my non sm sexual partners in the height of passion with scratches so deep, that the results could be seen years later. I was very young and it really happened under the influence of lust. But looking back, i marked them, quite simple, as mine.

I never used a knife or a razor, only my nails, but i have Michael let use a knife on me.

 

[EmpressFi]

oh, I thought edge play was masturbating, or a partner playing with you just to the edge of orgasm, but not allowing you to go over. Just dancing on the edge of release, keeping you there for long periods of time. Then letting yourself come down, then back up and edge....repeat, repeat.
I have been instructed to play like that, to keep myself sexually excited and aroused on and off throughout the day. No orgasm allowed for days on end. That is what I thought edge play was.

Using razor blades to slice and cut was called blood play.
I get so confused sometimes.

it's my understanding is that Edge play is play that takes you to the edge of safety.. bleeding, fire, breath play, etc...

 

[sexycaz22]

/hijack/ saw your signture, Fi, and I fully agree with the quote from Serijules - a really prefect one! I love that quote! /end of hijack/

 

[EmpressFi]

/hijack/ saw your signture, Fi, and I fully agree with the quote from Serijules - a really prefect one! I love that quote! /end of hijack/

/hijack/ Thanks. It's something I'm really struggling with, forgetting that Master thinks I'm a good submissive, a good slave and that that's all that should matter when wondering if I'm good enough. /endhijack/

 

[Etoile]

Because some people get off on it. Duh.

 

[ownedsubgal]

Because some people get off on it. Duh.

best answer ever! lol

 

[intothewoods]

oh, I thought edge play was masturbating, or a partner playing with you just to the edge of orgasm, but not allowing you to go over. Just dancing on the edge of release, keeping you there for long periods of time. Then letting yourself come down, then back up and edge....repeat, repeat.
I have been instructed to play like that, to keep myself sexually excited and aroused on and off throughout the day. No orgasm allowed for days on end. That is what I thought edge play was.

Using razor blades to slice and cut was called blood play.
I get so confused sometimes.

That's orgasm denial. Edge play is just what Fi said - playing at the edge of safety.

 

[serijules]

i think thats the shortest post ive ever seen you make.

I tried to post "heh" once, but it was too short.


Seri <--- very subdued lately

 

[myinnerslut]

I tried to post "heh" once, but it was too short.


Seri <--- very subdued lately

i hope everything is allright. im not used to you being subdued.

 

[serijules]

i hope everything is allright. im not used to you being subdued.

*hijack*

Yeah I'm alright, just so many changes going on in my life I'm really overwhelmed with it all. I think you are friended in my journal right? I write in there a lot. I tend to withdraw from public places when life overwhelms me even though I need support and encouragement, I am no able for some reason to go look for it.

 

[graceanne]

Because some people get off on it. Duh.

LOL..

 

[snowbyte]

I've heard of edgeplay as orgasm denial before, but it was primarily in a gay context.

Edgeplay, as in pushing the edge/envelope in terms of safety etc... seems to be the more popular usage these days.

Anyone know the proper etymology for the term?

 

[Etoile]

I have always interpreted it as "playing on the edge" - maybe that's just me. And as with everything else, a couple defines for themselves what "the edge" means. Some possibilities include "the edge of safety" or "the edge of hard/soft limits" - or, I suppose, it could be "the edge of orgasm" (though I'm not familiar with that definition myself.)

 

[unpredictablebijou]

Not that there's really any point to trying to "explain the appeal" of a particular kink, since I think questions like that ('Good lord, why would anyone do _____') imply a preconceived judgment that is going to get in the way of any real understanding... but just in case there's potential for learning here, I'll weigh in.

I come from outside. Not really into it myself but I had a partner for whom that was a primary focus. For him, it had to do with trust and focus. That is, he liked being in a place where his trust in me, in my skills and my affection, needed to be absolutely complete.

He's also a person who has trouble shutting his brain off completely under most circumstances. Apparently, when there's an amazingly sharp blade pressed against the small of your back, or drawing curvy lines of indeterminate depth in your shoulder blades, it's much easier to be completely focused and undistracted. For him, that's a very powerful altered state.

Because he was so into it, I went and learned about it, and these days I'm into it too but mostly on the levels of aesthetics and power. Generally I'm not seriously 'getting off' on it myself, but I'm pleased on those two levels: I'm thinking, lookit this gorgeous design I get to make on this beautiful blank canvas, and look how absolutely complete his trust is in me.

Those two ideas have a lot of power for me in and of themselves, so I've come to really enjoy it on those occasions when I get to 'sign my name' on him. Mostly, I really really like the effect it has on him, and that's pretty much the bottom line anyway.

bijou

 

[TeachMeSir]

For him, it had to do with trust and focus. That is, he liked being in a place where his trust in me, in my skills and my affection, needed to be absolutely complete.

He's also a person who has trouble shutting his brain off completely under most circumstances. Apparently, when there's an amazingly sharp blade pressed against the small of your back, or drawing curvy lines of indeterminate depth in your shoulder blades, it's much easier to be completely focused and undistracted. For him, that's a very powerful altered state.


bijou

I know exactly where he's coming from. I don't think my brain ever turns off. Even last time I was close to being switched off I was thinking "Oh, I'm going to have to wash the sheets tomorrow, do I have any laundry detergent left?". My brain is a machine that never stops.

And as for the trust issue ... There are massochists for the sake of pain, and those that hate physical pain, with most, IMHO somewhere in between. But for most, one of the biggest things is the feeling that whoever is pushing you to the edge of you limits is worthy of your trust. After that it's down to personal taste as far as what actions are going to really get each other going, on a mental & physical level.

I think anyway? But hey, who really knows?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Of course there is always the fear factor....there are plenty of discussions around pain and SM, but few which explore fear and how powerful it can be in a positive sense for all involved. IME it can sometimes leave the pain switch way behind in terms of turn on and/or devotional factors.

Catalina