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Pink_Milkmaid
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Congrats to you on both confronting your medical issues and to resolving to continue a healthy sex life. I think the key is to make it part of your foreplay. Not "oh wait a second while I do this..." Let her put it on you, kissing and making out while it works (I've never seen one so I don't really know if it's feasible, but I would think some kissing and one handed touches would be good.) Lots and lots of foreplay is alway a good thing, and with time, this can just be another part of foreplay for you and your lady. Good luck!
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If it were me, i'd change my approach and outlook.
I'd find a lady who is infimate, one who likes kissing, holding, and loves to be pleasured, but is not hung up on needing a penis made of steel.
And i'd get my pleasure from pleasing her, and the intimacy that two can give each other in all the other ways.
If i was a lady who had lost both my breasts to cancer, i wouldn't go looking for a partner who is hung up on double D's.
I'd find a partner to match my circumstances.
And there's one out there for you.
And there's much more to sex than a big stiff rod.
Just my opinion
I'd find a lady who is infimate, one who likes kissing, holding, and loves to be pleasured, but is not hung up on needing a penis made of steel.
And i'd get my pleasure from pleasing her, and the intimacy that two can give each other in all the other ways.
If i was a lady who had lost both my breasts to cancer, i wouldn't go looking for a partner who is hung up on double D's.
I'd find a partner to match my circumstances.
And there's one out there for you.
And there's much more to sex than a big stiff rod.
Just my opinion
BareBackRider2
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Great responses already.
Are you into being dominated at all also?
Because being "forced" mechanically to get hard just for the pleasure of your mistress could be an angle you could play with from time to time.
Are you into being dominated at all also?
Because being "forced" mechanically to get hard just for the pleasure of your mistress could be an angle you could play with from time to time.
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Again, I must agree that there are already great responses on this subject. This subject is something that I would like to see more men participating in. I don't think there is a man alive who has experienced the symptoms of ED and not felt frustrated, and alone; There is far too little communication on just HOW MANY men face this problem, either temporary or permanently at some stage of their lives.
Unfortunately, ego prevents the open and honest discussion between male counterparts. (Unfortunate, because who better to ask than someone who has experienced first-hand and dealt with the issue.) And, just so you men know, we women are far less bothered by ED than you realize or than you yourself are.
So, instead of asking us how you can make it "better" for us, how about you tell US how we can improve YOUR experience? Worrying about your partner's responses, while considerate, is only going to complicate the entire matter. Anxiety is a major contributing factor to less enjoyment for both parties. My advice? Relax and make it a fun, spontaneous adventure!
Unfortunately, ego prevents the open and honest discussion between male counterparts. (Unfortunate, because who better to ask than someone who has experienced first-hand and dealt with the issue.) And, just so you men know, we women are far less bothered by ED than you realize or than you yourself are.
So, instead of asking us how you can make it "better" for us, how about you tell US how we can improve YOUR experience? Worrying about your partner's responses, while considerate, is only going to complicate the entire matter. Anxiety is a major contributing factor to less enjoyment for both parties. My advice? Relax and make it a fun, spontaneous adventure!
Sounds like you may need to start another thread. CaptJames asked for feedback from women.
I also have problems with E.D myself. I also tried testosterone shots but they didn't help me either. I tried Viagra and Cialis, which helps a little, but even when I get hard I cum in less than a minute. I have since tried to spend more time on pleasing a woman with my tongue and fingers.
This has affected my confidence and I wonder if a woman could love a man who wasn't a good lover. I cant help it, its just the way I'm made. I believe I will have to be in a cuckold relationship, which fortunately is a fantasy of mine anyway, as long as I felt that the woman still really cared for me and wasn't cruel about it. I think sharing my g/f with another man would also take the of pressure off me to satisfy her sexually.
This has affected my confidence and I wonder if a woman could love a man who wasn't a good lover. I cant help it, its just the way I'm made. I believe I will have to be in a cuckold relationship, which fortunately is a fantasy of mine anyway, as long as I felt that the woman still really cared for me and wasn't cruel about it. I think sharing my g/f with another man would also take the of pressure off me to satisfy her sexually.
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I have E.D. I use a vacuum pump and attendant cock ring. This is the model I use:
https://66.media.tumblr.com/7613682736b4d8ccc7c31a1360e74967/tumblr_ocqhd9FZm91verwzuo1_400.jpg
You can find it at Amazon Prime. I got mine from another site as it was a little cheaper:
https://www.adwdiabetes.com//product...evice_1235.htm
I am not diabetic, but they had a better price. Also get a couple of extra silicone rings, they do wear out. Also: only use a water based lube with it; the silicone based lubes will deteriorate the silicone ring.
The device is made so that you pull the cock ring down over the conical section onto the tube. Later, with the tube around your cock and against the body, you twist the exterior sleeve and the ring pops off around the base of the penis. May be difficult to visualize, you will see how it works it you get one. By the way, I go for the smaller sizes of rings; currently a #4 clamps me pretty well. If the ring is too big, it doesn't clamp tightly enough and the blood leaks back into the body. I have the electric model.
Here is a demonstration video to give you a better idea.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYpHty0p1Cw
With the pump, I can stay hard for about 45 minutes. Then the cock ring needs to come off for a while to restore circulation. The good thing is that you can use it to re-pump again after about 20 minutes. So, if your lady wants a 'rematch', you can be ready for her.
Hope this info helps some other senior guy!
I have E.D. I use a vacuum pump and attendant cock ring. This is the model I use:
https://66.media.tumblr.com/7613682736b4d8ccc7c31a1360e74967/tumblr_ocqhd9FZm91verwzuo1_400.jpg
You can find it at Amazon Prime. I got mine from another site as it was a little cheaper:
https://www.adwdiabetes.com//product...evice_1235.htm
I am not diabetic, but they had a better price. Also get a couple of extra silicone rings, they do wear out. Also: only use a water based lube with it; the silicone based lubes will deteriorate the silicone ring.
The device is made so that you pull the cock ring down over the conical section onto the tube. Later, with the tube around your cock and against the body, you twist the exterior sleeve and the ring pops off around the base of the penis. May be difficult to visualize, you will see how it works it you get one. By the way, I go for the smaller sizes of rings; currently a #4 clamps me pretty well. If the ring is too big, it doesn't clamp tightly enough and the blood leaks back into the body. I have the electric model.
Here is a demonstration video to give you a better idea.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYpHty0p1Cw
With the pump, I can stay hard for about 45 minutes. Then the cock ring needs to come off for a while to restore circulation. The good thing is that you can use it to re-pump again after about 20 minutes. So, if your lady wants a 'rematch', you can be ready for her.
Hope this info helps some other senior guy!
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