Dreams

[chris9]

I had a rather confusing dream last night that I have to get off my mind.

I was domming a good friend, giving him a blowjob (which even though story tells is not very dommly, I was in total control of and it was really hot), holding his hands behind his back, some pretty small stuff, actually.

What bothers me about it is:
1) I can't remember any dream with a known person other than S (bf of 6 years) that had a sexual plot. If I have sexual dreams that's either with strangers or with S or with both. And it happens only rarely.
2) Imagining being in charge in a sexual situation now that I'm awake is hard, to say the least. I don't know what to do, and I don't get even slightly turned on by this imagination. Yes, I know I'm more on the bottom side of it, so I know why I have a hard time thinking up the opposite. But this only adds to my confusion, because in my dream, it was what I wanted to do.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm sure there is some message there for those into dream interpretation. Perhaps it is to do with the relationship you have with this friend, the way they treat or respond to you (perhaps in a particular situation at the moment), your need to reassert yourself in the boundaries of the friendship...maybe it is something about them you wish to develop in yourself, thus you giving the blowjob to drink in that which you see as a redeeming quality for your own use. Maybe it is infatuation in a subconscious way.

OK, just checked my references here and the attraction thing can represent a subconscious desire to be closer to and form some type of union with that person. Semen is seen as representing masculinity and physical maturity. Phallic symbols such as a cock can signify everything creative, penetrative, and masculine. Ejaculation or emission can suggest the dreamers attitude to sex and sexuality and can be a way of dealing through dreams with a conflict arising from sexual desire for someone else. Intercourse itself indicates a need to communicate with someone on a very intimate level...if during the dream intercourse is interrupted, it can indicate the dreamer's unconscious inhibitions. Sucking can indicate an emotional dependency or physical need....can be left over emotional needs from childhood which need fulfilling to make you feel whole or complete..can be a subconscious need to have particular desires met. Hope you find some answers as there is nothing more annoying.

Catalina

 

[chris9]

I actually decided on it more on the lines of 'Dreams are weird, we have a full moon (or almost), it means nothing'.
I'm not sure that's it, because I'm thinking of this dream way too much and it doesn't fade as much as dreams usually do over the day.
I'm spending my thinking time more on the topping thing. I got to the (temporary) conclusion that I might want to try it out, at least in thought.
After I'm done figuring that part out, and if I have the time and the courage, I will have to start thinking about what's going on with this friend.
Anyway, thanks, Catalina, for looking up the meanings. I'm not sure if and what I will do with this, but it's interesting to know.

 

[graceanne]

Normally other people in your dreams represent a part of you. (or so I'm told) In other words, I'd say their's a part of your life that you are gaining control of, and you feel good about gaining control of it.

 

[chris9]

Normally other people in your dreams represent a part of you. (or so I'm told) In other words, I'd say their's a part of your life that you are gaining control of, and you feel good about gaining control of it.

Hey, that sounds good. I'll adopt that meaning without much further thinking (or I might find out that I don't know which part of me I'm gaining control of).

 

[graceanne]

Hey, that sounds good. I'll adopt that meaning without much further thinking (or I might find out that I don't know which part of me I'm gaining control of).

lol Well it could also mean that it's GOING to happen. *shrugs* Or it could mean that you were horny and had a sexy dream. Not all dreams mean something.

 

[Marquis]

Last night I dreamt I was parking my car in some huge indoor parking lot when a bunch of colorfully painted luxury cars pulled up. They parked close to me and all these pimps wearing outlandish pimp outfits got out. They started walking torwards the back of the parking lot without saying anything, and I started to follow them. I had no idea, but at the back of the parking lot there was this huge club or something, and all the pimps went in, but me and other non-pimps were left outside. Still, a party started to ensue outside. Eventually there was a fight. This short, stout white woman in a suit started walking towards the door calmly and observe the fight. I figured she was FBI or something, but she just walked past the fight into the thickening crowd. Someone yelled out that everyone had to move and the crowd parted for her. It turned out it was Madeline Albright! They turned up the music and some pimps came out to dance with Madeline Albright until I woke up.

 

[graceanne]

Last night I dreamt I was parking my car in some huge indoor parking lot when a bunch of colorfully painted luxury cars pulled up. They parked close to me and all these pimps wearing outlandish pimp outfits got out. They started walking torwards the back of the parking lot without saying anything, and I started to follow them. I had no idea, but at the back of the parking lot there was this huge club or something, and all the pimps went in, but me and other non-pimps were left outside. Still, a party started to ensue outside. Eventually there was a fight. This short, stout white woman in a suit started walking towards the door calmly and observe the fight. I figured she was FBI or something, but she just walked past the fight into the thickening crowd. Someone yelled out that everyone had to move and the crowd parted for her. It turned out it was Madeline Albright! They turned up the music and some pimps came out to dance with Madeline Albright until I woke up.

You are working to hard and need to get out more.

 

[chris9]

lol Well it could also mean that it's GOING to happen. *shrugs* Or it could mean that you were horny and had a sexy dream. Not all dreams mean something.

Still, dreams are weird (thanks for proving my point, Marquis). It was just a totally untypical dream for me, usually I get out of the world stuff (similar to what Marquis said, only that I would have a skip and suddenly everybody would be dancing in the bathroom or the airplane or something totally unconnected)
It strangely feels sort of like cheating (especially with the thoughts running through my head), even though S doesn't see it that way, didn't even blink an eye when I told him.

 

[graceanne]

I have the weirdest dreams in the world. Once I dreamed that I was having a sleep over. But the people in my dream kept disappering. Eventually I realized that their was a vampire in the bathroom (which - even thought it was in our house - looked like the school bathroom). He was turning everyone into vampires. You could tell they were vampires cause their faces were chalk white. Anyway, I was running around trying to rescue my friends, and find this vampire, when I realized that I hadn't checked my sisters room (she was 10 mo old at the time). I went in and he was holding her, and I was so relieved that she was fine. Then her turned her face to me, and I realized that she was a vampire. So I said "Great, just great. What, exactly, do you feed a vampire baby?" And he said "What you feed any baby - bat milk."

 

[FurryFury]

I had a dream recently that I actually remember. Usually those things drift away like morning clouds. So I can't see them in my head anymore.

In this one I had nipples all up and down my arms and across my chest. Everyone could see them. It was like one of those strange statutes in India with multiple arms but different.

I was at a party or some public gathering. There were some Foo Lion men who reminded me somehow of Sumo. They were getting angry for some reason but they weren't near me.

The other people were being very tolerant and smiling. I was kind of hurt and disappointed that was all they could thing of to do. I mean, hey, nipples here folks!

Then I woke up.

Anyway, you can't be held accountable for your dreams. I've had sex with just about everybody in my dreams even people I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole!

Way back when I'd say no, I'd like to but I can't I'm married. I did that in my dreams! Thank the good Lord I got over that! I musta been very uptight donja think?

Once though I did dream about having sex with a friend that I had never been interested in, only to go spend the next day with him. Damn that was hard! It was a good sex dream, really good!

Fury

 

[chris9]

Anyway, you can't be held accountable for your dreams. I've had sex with just about everybody in my dreams even people I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole!

Way back when I'd say no, I'd like to but I can't I'm married. I did that in my dreams! Thank the good Lord I got over that! I musta been very uptight donja think?

Once though I did dream about having sex with a friend that I had never been interested in, only to go spend the next day with him. Damn that was hard! It was a good sex dream, really good!

Fury

I know I'm not accountable for my dreams. I don't think I would be thinking that much about my dream if I had sex dreams more often, and at least every now and then with other people I know. Fact is that I either don't dream of sex or don't wake up out of those dreams, so I don't remember.

 

[togitc]

I once had a dream about having sex but not seeing who the person was. It was just a flash of images. Kissing here, sucking there, all that good stuff. I remember she was blonde but that is about it.

Doesn't help the situation much but it nice to share. On to the serious stuff.

You said it felt like cheating, why? I don't need to know but it would probably help things for you if you figured it out.