Dreams induced by outside sources?

[DVS]

First, I should say that this isn't totally about BDSM, but it might have BDSM implications. There is a possible connection to BDSM at the bottom of this message, but if you go straight to that part, you won't understand why it might be connected. So stick with me and read the whole post.

OK, now that we're all back up to the top of the message, I want to start off by saying I hope you'll give me a break here, because I'm one that doesn't remember his dreams...almost ever. I don't mind that, because the rare times when I do remember my dreams, I often find myself confusing the dream with reality and I don't like that.

I can be talking to someone, remember a dream I had that maybe pads my side of the conversation then half way into my explanation, I remember it was a dream and stop short of finishing, trying to find a way out of it without the other person thinking I'm a complete idiot. Of course, saying "oh, never mind, that was a dream I had" just won't do it.

Anyway, with that in mind, I just thought I'd see if others have similar situations that I do with their dreams. I'll assume that most people remember their dreams so this might be more common than I think it is, but I'm still going to ask.

I can't sleep with total silence. To me, total silence is the loudest sound around. I need either a fan, major traffic outside my window or sometimes, I'll leave the TV on. When I leave the TV on, I find that my mind will sometimes use what's on TV as fuel for a dream.

A case in point: I just woke up a short time ago, so I still remember this dream. I was a member of a group going from city to city, doing infomercials about that bed you can change the firmness of the mattress. I was kind of a grunt, but I met whoever the target or guest was, because I moved the beds into their bedroom or hotel room.

in this particular dream, a guy I think I knew from my past (no connection) and I were the grunts and we were taking a bed up a hotel freight elevator to the celebrity guest's room. The celebrity guest was a race car driver and he was in the elevator with us, to show us the way.

I don't remember the driver's name, but the strange part of all of this is that the human mind will take things like this and create a dream where you are a part of the whole process. This wasn't like I was in the commercial. Nothing that was on the TV was in the dream. I was the guy that went to work before the commercial and so my mind had to create that.

What's even stranger to me is that when I woke up, the driver wasn't in the commercial with the bed, but in another infomercial for a sleeping tablet. Seeing these infomercials before, I'm sure the bed infomercial was the one just before the one about sleeping tablets and my mind just combined them.

I just thought that was strange and intriguing. I was curious if others have similar dreams. Not just connected to the TV, but maybe a conversation they happened to hear, while in REM sleep and your mind took that and created something.

Again, I hope you that always remember your dreams won't think less of me, by making such a big deal over this. And I'm not that interested in if you dream in color or black and white, although if you want to mention it, that's fine. In my dreams, I couldn't tell you if I see things in color or in black and white. I'm not that "in tune" with them, I guess. I'm just interested in the subject matter, and if something you happened to hear from an outside source at the time you were sleeping, developed into a dream.

With yet that in mind, I was also wondering if it would be possible to induce a submissive experience by showing a BDSM related movie on the TV while someone is sleeping. And would a submissive maybe take the Dom role, or a Dom take the submissive role in a dream? You know, your subconscious knows you better than you think!

Sorry this is so long and thanks for your time.

 

[Shaetiano]

Yes and no. My dreams are messy. I am like you, I can't sleep in total silence I have to hear something. So with that being said I will tell more. Depending on what music I put on will trigger an emotion, I love music so certain groups, songs, and so forth have their own meaning. I usually go to bed listening to Classic Country (Folk) cause that's all my parents listened to and would allow us kids to listen to. So, when I have that on I am dreaming about things from my childhood. Different things set off different triggers. So in all I try to keep it light just so I can sleep when I do sleep.
Another example would be, if I am on the verging of crashing and the radio station plays something sad, related to death of a loved one. Nightmares, from that point on until I wake up.
Though it's different for everyone.

 

[rosco rathbone]

http://www.lucidity.com/novadreamer.html

 

[DVS]

Yes and no. My dreams are messy. I am like you, I can't sleep in total silence I have to hear something. So with that being said I will tell more. Depending on what music I put on will trigger an emotion, I love music so certain groups, songs, and so forth have their own meaning. I usually go to bed listening to Classic Country (Folk) cause that's all my parents listened to and would allow us kids to listen to. So, when I have that on I am dreaming about things from my childhood. Different things set off different triggers. So in all I try to keep it light just so I can sleep when I do sleep.
Another example would be, if I am on the verging of crashing and the radio station plays something sad, related to death of a loved one. Nightmares, from that point on until I wake up.
Though it's different for everyone.

See, I knew it couldn't be just me. A part of me thought I might be encroaching on something, when the more logical side of me knew it had to be more common.

 

[DVS]

http://www.lucidity.com/novadreamer.html

Ooooh, that sounds interesting. Not for me, but maybe some form of sexual inducing?

 

[FloggingMolly]

I get it rarely, but I prefer to sleep in silence. My dreams are full colour and I can touch/taste/smell too.

http://www.lucidity.com/novadreamer.html

I can do this, have been able to for about a decade. My 'trigger' to realise it's a dream is where I dream about old and foreign coins, especially coming out of slot machines. More often than not, when I see it, I can then gain full control of the dream, and can experience pretty much everything with full senses. It's like going on a very safe rampage and being a god

 

[DVS]

I get it rarely, but I prefer to sleep in silence. My dreams are full colour and I can touch/taste/smell too.




I can do this, have been able to for about a decade. My 'trigger' to realise it's a dream is where I dream about old and foreign coins, especially coming out of slot machines. More often than not, when I see it, I can then gain full control of the dream, and can experience pretty much everything with full senses. It's like going on a very safe rampage and being a god

Cool, and with all five senses? Wow.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Cool, and with all five senses? Wow.

I know! If I want to see people naked, boom, clothes all gone. Wanna rob a bank, sure, why not. Fancy a massive gang bang where you call all the shots with consequences? Woot

It sucks waking up on those days.

 

[CarnageSIS]

I cannot sleep in total silence either, though I have never had it influence my dreams that I can recall. Though I barely remember whatever dreams I have. On rare occasions I have dreamed mundane situations then had them occur in real life.

Once though after having talked with someone I met online on the phone two or three times I ended up dreaming one of their memories. It wasn't something they had told me about or could have been easily extrapolated from what they had told me. Completely made no sense to me when I dreamed it and I told him about it, "I had the weirdest dream about you..." at which point he told me the story of what I dreamed. Both cool and freaky at the same time, but haven't done it again.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm influenced in my dreams by the things I experience during the day. The other day I mentioned my husband's middle brother to my husband. I don't remember why but that night I had a nightmare in which he played a pivotal role. I cussed him out heartbroken over what he'd done. I contemplated killing him and then I began to consciously, while still asleep change the dream. Strange stuff.

If I read a book, it triggers certain dreams. The dreams may be directly about the book or about what the book triggered in my subconscious.

Movies and TV shows can do the same.

At night while getting ready to sleep I sometimes say that I want to know the answer to X. Sometimes that directs my dreams.

More often, I just reassure my child self that I'll take care of her and always be there. (I've had fewer baby, kids and animals being given to my care since I've done this).

Sometimes I just tell my cat how good she is and hug her tighter.

I've never slept in complete silence. I'm not sure it exists in the world I live in.

FF

 

[KoPilot]

I need mostly silence to go to sleep unless I'm absolutely exhausted. I have an irritatingly good sense of hearing, and so I'm hardwired to listen to everything; especially the things that I can't quite hear, like muffled dialogue.

As far as dreams go, I've had some that are related to things that are going on around me as I sleep, and many more that aren't related to anything. Most of my dreams are extremely cinematic, complete with the 3rd and 2nd person perspectives instead of 1st. (I also have to admit that the lighting and cinematography are fantastic ;P)

I think I've only ever lucid dreamed two or three times, though I have this odd ability to stay "conscious" as I fall asleep and can detect when I've hit REM. Though I don't think I can take control of the dream, I am able to "consciously" wake myself up, similar to walking out of the theater if I don't like the movie.

What's the connection I hear about between lucid dreaming and being able to read/legible words appearing, though?

 

[DVS]

I know! If I want to see people naked, boom, clothes all gone. Wanna rob a bank, sure, why not. Fancy a massive gang bang where you call all the shots with consequences? Woot

It sucks waking up on those days.

God, I wouldn't be so desperate for a girlfriend submissive, if I could dream like that. I'm envious.

 

[DVS]

I'm beginning to see that I'm in the minority with dreams and to a point, controlling them. I guess I can see why some people will say they need to sleep on it, when making a decision and when people don't like to watch horror movies just before bedtime.

I'm not bothered or influenced by any of that, but I think there are some times when I can eat a certain food that helps with more vivid dreams. But that doesn't happen often enough for me to know if it does and what food it would be. I'm just happy that I wake up every time I go to sleep.

I know I still dream, because we all dream. It's just a few of us are deficient in vitamin B6, which allows someone to remember dreams. From what I've read here, there are a few of you on this forum who have an over abundance of B6, as well as a fulfilling dream life. Keep the stories coming in. I find this all quite fascinating.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Many things influence my dreams, and sometimes nothing. When I am going through a good dreaming period, I liken it to going to the movies....always full colour, great storylines most times, and has the power to take me completly out of the moment in time in which I am living. The thing that interests me about my dreams is that when I am going through one of these periods (and sometimes at other times), I can resume the dream from where it left off if I wake before it is finished. I really should begin writing them down as some would make great stories.

Catalina

 

[Shaetiano]

Though now I am somewhat interested again, and can probably have a better conversation on this here with people that just seem to understand.
As far as controlling the dream, yeah I can't do that. But some people I know are like yes you can just think about something else. It's the nightmares, and a certain one that feels like its on a repeating cycle over and over and over.
I suppose, if it didn't happen in my real life perhaps it wouldn't be as bad. I don't know. But the struggle for me, is how? I mean I don't go to bed thinking about it, and sometimes my triggers work and sometimes they don't. So, yeah. I don't know.

 

[graceanne]

I've had issues with confusing dreams with reality. When K was in Iraq I dreamed he died of food poisoning and had been awake for an hour (and really upset) before I realized it was a dream. (Thank God it was the middle of the night and I didn't call my MIL like I considered.)

Another time, I dreamed my cousin was in a car accident and died. It was the next day before I realized that she was just fine.

This doesn't happen too often, because normally my dreams are so unlikely that it's not hard to tell that they're not reality. (Like when the vampires killed my infant sister and told me to feed her bat milk.)

I can't sleep without noise, either. This comes in handy; when we lose electricity the lack of noise will wake me up. I normally have a fan going, but I used to listen to the radio, before me and K got married. I've had routine issues with taking what's on the radio or tv and putting it in my dream, but I have issues with that with people who are awake and talking (like one time I was dreaming i was at the mall and suddenly my mom yelled - in the dream and in real life - for our cat to stop clawing the furniture). I've also had some awesome dreams centered around music. One of my all time favorite dreams was centered around 'the night the lights went out in georgia' sung by reba mcentire.

 

[FurryFury]

Gracie,

I've had problems as a child and adolescence with separating reality and dreams at times, as well.

*hug*

FF

 

[cathrynb]

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[graceanne]

I'm beginning to see that I'm in the minority with dreams and to a point, controlling them. I guess I can see why some people will say they need to sleep on it, when making a decision and when people don't like to watch horror movies just before bedtime.[/quote[

I can't watch horror movies at any time during the day if I want to sleep. LotR had us sleeping with several night lights for several weeks. Don't get me started on that Will Smith movie where he's the last surviving human.

I can control my dreams, or I was able to as a child, but that's boring. I only do that with nightmares, because my subconscious is way more interesting if I let it have free reign.

Gracie,

I've had problems as a child and adolescence with separating reality and dreams at times, as well.

*hug*

FF

*hugs* I hate those dreams. Especially when they've got me in tears, and I realize that I didn't need to be that sad. It's like being pranked in a bad way.

 

[DVS]

I've had issues with confusing dreams with reality. When K was in Iraq I dreamed he died of food poisoning and had been awake for an hour (and really upset) before I realized it was a dream. (Thank God it was the middle of the night and I didn't call my MIL like I considered.)

Another time, I dreamed my cousin was in a car accident and died. It was the next day before I realized that she was just fine.

This doesn't happen too often, because normally my dreams are so unlikely that it's not hard to tell that they're not reality. (Like when the vampires killed my infant sister and told me to feed her bat milk.)

I can't sleep without noise, either. This comes in handy; when we lose electricity the lack of noise will wake me up. I normally have a fan going, but I used to listen to the radio, before me and K got married. I've had routine issues with taking what's on the radio or tv and putting it in my dream, but I have issues with that with people who are awake and talking (like one time I was dreaming i was at the mall and suddenly my mom yelled - in the dream and in real life - for our cat to stop clawing the furniture). I've also had some awesome dreams centered around music. One of my all time favorite dreams was centered around 'the night the lights went out in georgia' sung by reba mcentire.

Because I don't normally remember my dreams, I have times when I'll wake up and assume what I just dreamed is real. I've dreamed that I was in strange situations where I shot someone, or did something else where I was on the run from police, then I wake up. That sickening feeling you get when you've done something, and you feel guilty or at least know that you've done something wrong and not going to get away with it...then, after a while you realize you dreamed all of that and that bad feeling is washed away by relief and a weary smile.

I hate feeling like that, when I'm not normally like that. I do feel better when I realize it was just a dream, but I also don't like that I felt so bad for a period of time, just because of a dream. That's why I'm relieved, but also a bit weary, because of how I'd confused my dream with reality.

Many times, I've woken up after falling asleep, and it's dusk or dawn, but I don't know which. Sometimes, it's pitch dark and I go running around the house looking for a clock that shows AM and PM. I'm afraid that I slept too long, and didn't hear my alarm. I've actually looked at a clock, thought I was late and was in the process of calling to tell work I'd be late. I got all of the way through dialing the phone number before I finally hung up, realizing it was my day off.

Sleep is a very nice and inviting feeling, but sometimes it's the waking up that sucks.



Reba? Cool!

 

[YourCaptor]

For me the state in between wake and dream is the weirdest. I see so much weird shit. Like giant crab like spiders running along my walls, open doors that are actually closed, random sexual favors, and sometimes depth perception goes all wack.

 

[Ravenwind]

I personally don't enjoy dreaming, except for the rare occasions when I dream either fully lucidly, or I'm lucid enough to control myself (as opposed to having no free will, and am simply playing a part) as those are the only times I don't have nightmares... since I dream both in "full color" and "wrong color" (that is, things are still fully colored, but are not what they should be, like walls that are white in reality are blue, skin is green, wood is red, etc), and have access to all 5 senses (all my waking senses but sight can affect my dreams... I make sure sight doesn't by sleeping with a mask during my more restless nights, but I usually forget the earplugs), so it makes my nightmares much more frightening.

So, since my Husband can't sleep with the TV off, if I go to sleep with it on, and if I manage to remember my dream, it's always something absurd like a Shamwow is trying to kill me with a Slapchop on Viagra or something stupid like that... God forbid someone cooks while I'm asleep, otherwise I'll dream the house is on fire or something. ...then to make it worse, I talk in my sleep, so I always feel horribly guilty after a nightmare involving the family, especially if I catch myself saying it out loud.

Thankfully, I don't remember my dreams most of the time. If I did, I'm pretty sure I'd have gone mad by now.

 

[graceanne]

For me the state in between wake and dream is the weirdest. I see so much weird shit. Like giant crab like spiders running along my walls, open doors that are actually closed, random sexual favors, and sometimes depth perception goes all wack.

The time between wake and dream is purportedly the most intuitive, because both your conscious and subconscious are active and working together. My grandma always told me to pay the closest attention to 'in between' dreams. For instance spiders, in dreams, represent temptation. Unfortunately, they're the hardest for me to remember. Mostly I hear piano music in my in between state.

 

[graceanne]

Reba? Cool!

It was. Really cool. I only remember bits and parts of the dream (it happened a long time ago), but in my dream I was the sister, and I and my children were on the run from the law. It was a really fun dream.