Dreaming frustration

[alexgriffin74]

Had the most vivid yet frustrating dream this morning and I need to vent about it.

I was talking to a friend who recommended a "house of ill-repute" that may or may not located nearby.

I went down there, not really innocently but also kinda hopeful? I've never been to one before and was more curious than anything. I didn't know what I was going to do as I'm married and faithful but...it has been years since the last time. (No anger, it isn't her fault. Medical issues are the cause.)

I go in and see no one until I bump into the manager(?). Oddly enough he and I share the same first name. But he's very chill and can definitely see that I'm new to the experience of buying sexual services. He explains how it works (though I never found out a price on anything) and as we've talking the women who work there start to filter out of various rooms and come and sit down with us.

All of them are attractive, of course. Not supermodel level and not ugly. Just...normal level attractive. Very realistic I guess? Everyone is relaxed (except me) and chatting. A couple are smoking bur whatever. And all are dressed in black lingerie or short dresses.

It strikes me as an extremely comfortable situation.

One of the women sits next to me and presses her side into mine. (IRL I was feeling my sleeping position which was translating into the dream) She was very nice, enticingly forward and thoroughly sexy. All for a very obviously nervous man.

Why nervous? Because I'm sitting there and the only two things I can think are. "You're married! WTF are you doing?" and "It has been 4 YEARS. And it is just sex." Just over and over and over.

And, as I'm about to make a decision on whether to go with this attractive, willing woman...I wake up.

Why the fuck can't I get laid even in my own fucking dreams!?!?!?!?

To anyone who read this far, thank you for sticking it out. Have you ever had similar experiences? How did you deal with it?

 

[Britva415]

I've never had a wet dream.

It's not because of an obstacle like this, though. My dreams just move on from the sexy scene before getting all the way there, in that weird way dreams do. Just shifting into something different for no reason.

There are ways to induce dream content (if you wanted to try to revisit the house again in a future dream) and ways to cultivate lucidity in dreams (if you wanted to be able to consciously push away the conflicted thoughts and tell yourself "this isn't real life, I'm not married in this-here dream" or "it's a dream, there's no fidelity to worry about.")

 

[gundyash99]

Man, I totally get the frustration! Dreams have this weird way of taking us right to the edge of something, then yanking us out of it just when it’s about to get interesting. It’s almost like your brain is trolling you! As for dealing with it, I think a lot of people have had those kinds of dreams, where the desire conflicts with reality. Maybe your mind is just trying to process all those emotions and thoughts that build up over time. If you’re into dream control, trying out lucid dreaming could be a fun way to explore those dream scenarios without the frustrating wake-up. Have you ever tried to induce lucid dreams? That way you could tell yourself, ‘Hey, it’s just a dream, let’s roll with it!’

 

[alexgriffin74]

Long ago I tried to lucid dream but I was young and didn't try very hard for very long. I guess I need to try again...

 

[Iwillgo]

That's the cool thing about dreams, you get to do the impossible and sometimes enjoy it. I have had surreal dreams of sucking my own cock many times.

The other night I dreamt the tip of my tongue was like a high speed vibrator and I gave my wife incredibly awesome oral orgasms.

I'm very oral... even in my dream state.

 

[ZfrkS62]

I've never had a wet dream.

It's not because of an obstacle like this, though. My dreams just move on from the sexy scene before getting all the way there, in that weird way dreams do. Just shifting into something different for no reason.

There are ways to induce dream content (if you wanted to try to revisit the house again in a future dream) and ways to cultivate lucidity in dreams (if you wanted to be able to consciously push away the conflicted thoughts and tell yourself "this isn't real life, I'm not married in this-here dream" or "it's a dream, there's no fidelity to worry about.")

I've only ever had one, and it was because i didn't jerk off for a month before my ldr girlfriend (now wife) came to visit. 30 days was a day too long apparently, and i flooded the sheets while dreaming of taking her from behind.

 

[NylonRain]

If I’m lucky enough to dream about sex, most times it doesn’t come to a conclusion as has been mentioned. Frustratingly, more than that are the ones that have promise but I’m feeling anxious or can’t go through with whatever’s going on because other people are around (in the dream that is).

But I have at least had a few good ones, and at least two that landed up being wet dreams. I try to get my mind in the right place going to sleep, but it doesn’t seem to sway my dreams really.