Don't Make Me Beg...

[intothewoods]

(cheap ploy to get your attention)

I really need cheering up today. Signed separation papers recently.

What if I never get married again? I know I could meet a nice guy to settle down with...again...but that didn't work out so well the first time. I'm just feeling sorry for myself.

So...Pllllllease? Help me out of this funk! Tell me a joke or something. Anything.

Pictures of hot gay men fucking always welcome, for example.

 

[CutieMouse]

Honest to God... getting divorced was the absolute best thing I ever did. Seriously. It opened up alllllllllll sorts of doors to actually give myself permission to be happy.

Just keep remembering how brave you are to step out into happiness.

 

[intothewoods]

but I don't come alone. I have a kid and a cat. And I'm Jewish and I don't celebrate Christmas. There are a lot of fucking requirements.

Ugh - it will be fine. I'm just feeling pathetic today. Ick. I hate this feeling!

 

[minx1]

*hugs* ITW

Yeah I am right with CM on that one.

I have never looked back since my divorce. I love not being married....at the end of the day I was with the wrong person and I am far happier now than I ever was back then.

The separation/divorce bit sucked big time thats for sure...but after that......wooohooo!

wishing so many happy times

 

[CutieMouse]

but I don't come alone. I have a kid and a cat. And I'm Jewish and I don't celebrate Christmas. There are a lot of fucking requirements.

Ugh - it will be fine. I'm just feeling pathetic today. Ick. I hate this feeling!

Ummm... sweetie? I have five freaking kids in the background who will be in the background in some way shape or form for the next... 15 years. And I have a cat who is the most neurotic prissy egalitarian thing on the planet. And I don't really celebrate Christmas, either. As for requirements? Taller than the Empire State Building.

There is someone for everyone in the world... sometimes it just takes a few trial runs to find the person you're meant for.



Edited to add a funny conversation for you:

him- I had a dream about you last night.
me- Really? What?
him- I don't think I can tell you that.
me- Why?
him- It'll ruin my reputation as an upstanding Christian man.
me- Sweetheart? You're Jewish.
him- Shit. Ummm... If I tell you, you'll figure out I'm not some amazing guy from the planet Krypton, and won't want me anymore...
me- Yeah, instead I'll find out you're not only an irreverent asshole, but have a kinky streak a mile wide and deeper than the darkest ocean. Given that I want that in my life, could you please at least give me an outline of the damned dream, for educational purposes?
him- Baby, have I mentioned yet how much I like you?

 

[Shankara20]

*sigh* "Pictures of hot gay men fucking always welcome, for example." *sigh*

the things I post just to keep you happy....

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(click it slowly)

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so smile already....

 

[intothewoods]

Ummm... sweetie? I have five freaking kids in the background who will be in the background in some way shape or form for the next... 15 years. And I have a cat who is the most neurotic prissy egalitarian thing on the planet. And I don't really celebrate Christmas, either. As for requirements? Taller than the Empire State Building.

There is someone for everyone in the world... sometimes it just takes a few trial runs to find the person you're meant for.



Edited to add a funny conversation for you:

him- I had a dream about you last night.
me- Really? What?
him- I don't think I can tell you that.
me- Why?
him- It'll ruin my reputation as an upstanding Christian man.
me- Sweetheart? You're Jewish.
him- Shit. Ummm... If I tell you, you'll figure out I'm not some amazing guy from the planet Krypton, and won't want me anymore...
me- Yeah, instead I'll find out you're not only an irreverent asshole, but have a kinky streak a mile wide and deeper than the darkest ocean. Given that I want that in my life, could you please at least give me an outline of the damned dream, for educational purposes?
him- Baby, have I mentioned yet how much I like you?

hawt!

but but but...you're not going to move in with the kids, right?

I'm actually just being stupid, and I know it. I mean, said men do exist (and I met one here, *waves hi*), but I'm just whining about having to be alone for a while. I have decided it's the best for me. I'm just afraid!

 

[intothewoods]

so smile already....

 

[intothewoods]

*hugs* ITW

Yeah I am right with CM on that one.

I have never looked back since my divorce. I love not being married....at the end of the day I was with the wrong person and I am far happier now than I ever was back then.

The separation/divorce bit sucked big time thats for sure...but after that......wooohooo!

wishing so many happy times

Thank you, minx. I appreciate it.

 

[minx1]

Ummm... sweetie? I have five freaking kids in the background who will be in the background in some way shape or form for the next... 15 years. And I have a cat who is the most neurotic prissy egalitarian thing on the planet. And I don't really celebrate Christmas, either. As for requirements? Taller than the Empire State Building.

There is someone for everyone in the world... sometimes it just takes a few trial runs to find the person you're meant for.



Edited to add a funny conversation for you:

him- I had a dream about you last night.
me- Really? What?
him- I don't think I can tell you that.
me- Why?
him- It'll ruin my reputation as an upstanding Christian man.
me- Sweetheart? You're Jewish.
him- Shit. Ummm... If I tell you, you'll figure out I'm not some amazing guy from the planet Krypton, and won't want me anymore...
me- Yeah, instead I'll find out you're not only an irreverent asshole, but have a kinky streak a mile wide and deeper than the darkest ocean. Given that I want that in my life, could you please at least give me an outline of the damned dream, for educational purposes?
him- Baby, have I mentioned yet how much I like you and your friend minx and her cat?

Yup see ITW it just gets better!

CM......wonderful!!

 

[satindesire]

but I don't come alone. I have a kid and a cat. And I'm Jewish and I don't celebrate Christmas. There are a lot of fucking requirements.

Ugh - it will be fine. I'm just feeling pathetic today. Ick. I hate this feeling!

You DON'T Celebrate Christmas or you WON'T celebrate Christmas?

Because Christmas is fun!

 

[intothewoods]

You DON'T Celebrate Christmas or you WON'T celebrate Christmas?

Because Christmas is fun!

I don't and I won't.

 

[satindesire]

Pssssh. You're srsly missing out on some great food. And decorating a tree is awesome!

C'mon, everyone in Japan is doing it. Putting up some holly won't kill ya.

 

[intothewoods]

Pssssh. You're srsly missing out on some great food. And decorating a tree is awesome!

C'mon, everyone in Japan is doing it. Putting up some holly won't kill ya.

That's not funny. My grandmother died from a severe allergic reaction to holly. <said with incredibly serious look on her face>

I actually have never understood the attraction of most Christmas food. To me, it seems like a re-run of Thanksgiving. I like Christmas cookies though.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Like most things, divorce is what you make it. And what if you never do get married or live with a man ever again....is that what defines who you are? After my divorce I was left with 2 very young children, a dog and 2 cats, oh and some guinea pigs and also laying hens....and although I was not short of offers throughout the years, I chose to remain single for almost 16 years. They were some of the best years of my life during which I lived, I returned to my education and got a degree, I began a fantastic career, and through my own choice I met the man of my dreams...anything is possible if you just believe and be proactive about making it a reality.

Catalina

 

[CutieMouse]

hawt!

but but but...you're not going to move in with the kids, right?

I'm actually just being stupid, and I know it. I mean, said men do exist (and I met one here, *waves hi*), but I'm just whining about having to be alone for a while. I have decided it's the best for me. I'm just afraid!

No, the kids don't come with me... instead (if he wants me) there is the fabulous and fun financial burden, of flying me from the Dominican Republic to South Carolina once a month, plus hotel, car, entertainment/etc expenses for 6. Every month. For the next 15 years (if we were to be together that long). Plus the expense of flying the kids out for vacations to hang with me once or twice a year (if their father ever agrees to it). Plus the expense of paying my court ordered child support, because I'd not be working outside the home.

See? One child + cat is pie, compared to taking on the complications of me. LOL

It can suck to be alone, but it's smart to take a break and be alone sometimes... and sometimes the scary thing about being alone never really materializes, and you realize you aren't nearly as lonely all by yourself, as you were when you were married...

 

[HoHoBomb]

I don't and I won't.

Good for you

 

[intothewoods]

Like most things, divorce is what you make it. And what if you never do get married or live with a man ever again....is that what defines who you are? After my divorce I was left with 2 very young children, a dog and 2 cats, oh and some guinea pigs and also laying hens....and although I was not short of offers throughout the years, I chose to remain single for almost 16 years. They were some of the best years of my life during which I lived, I returned to my education and got a degree, I began a fantastic career, and through my own choice I met the man of my dreams...anything is possible if you just believe and be proactive about making it a reality.

Catalina

heh heh. I just had to say, I know you get a little testy with the not-so-proactive around here. Now there is one thing I don't have a problem with, lol! I'm all about taking charge. It's the flip side I need to work on, if you know what I mean.

 

[mickyp123]

Like most things, divorce is what you make it. And what if you never do get married or live with a man ever again....is that what defines who you are? After my divorce I was left with 2 very young children, a dog and 2 cats, oh and some guinea pigs and also laying hens....and although I was not short of offers throughout the years, I chose to remain single for almost 16 years. They were some of the best years of my life during which I lived, I returned to my education and got a degree, I began a fantastic career, and through my own choice I met the man of my dreams...anything is possible if you just believe and be proactive about making it a reality.

Catalina

Lol i don't think i have ever known you to speak crap Catalina, you should have a wise owl as an Avatar lol


Your left hand is what your born with and the right is what you make of it, which is what your last line say's

 

[mickyp123]

Honest to God... getting divorced was the absolute best thing I ever did. Seriously. It opened up alllllllllll sorts of doors to actually give myself permission to be happy.

Just keep remembering how brave you are to step out into happiness.

what were your first thoughts when you opened up the letter that said the divorce was complete...........the first ten seconds

 

[mickyp123]

That's not funny. My grandmother died from a severe allergic reaction to holly. <said with incredibly serious look on her face>

I actually have never understood the attraction of most Christmas food. To me, it seems like a re-run of Thanksgiving. I like Christmas cookies though.

Its all about the magic of xmas, the look on children's faces as they gaze skyward to see "santa"....its priceless, and so is christmas lol

 

[intothewoods]

Its all about the magic of xmas, the look on children's faces as they gaze skyward to see "santa"....its priceless, and so is christmas lol

Interesting point.

 

[CutieMouse]

what were your first thoughts when you opened up the letter that said the divorce was complete...........the first ten seconds

"Finally."

It took us forever to get "officially" divorced, because I was the one who decided to leave, and had this silly notion that it would be wrong to not be the one to actually pay for the entire divorce, even though I didn't have two nickles to rub together. So we had an "agreement"... then we redid our agreement (surrounding custody of the kids), and both moved to different states for jobs, and I think about 2 years after I said I was done, he finally convinced me it really would be okay if he covered the costs of the divorce. So I didn't "offically" end up divorced until almost 3 years after I announced I was done (the divorce was final in early January 2007).

 

[intothewoods]

It can suck to be alone, but it's smart to take a break and be alone sometimes... and sometimes the scary thing about being alone never really materializes, and you realize you aren't nearly as lonely all by yourself, as you were when you were married...

Thank you, Cutie. I needed to hear that.

 

[mickyp123]

"Finally."

It took us forever to get "officially" divorced, because I was the one who decided to leave, and had this silly notion that it would be wrong to not be the one to actually pay for the entire divorce, even though I didn't have two nickles to rub together. So we had an "agreement"... then we redid our agreement (surrounding custody of the kids), and both moved to different states for jobs, and I think about 2 years after I said I was done, he finally convinced me it really would be okay if he covered the costs of the divorce. So I didn't "offically" end up divorced until almost 3 years after I announced I was done (the divorce was final in early January 2007).

Thanks for that i suppose every one is different, but a lot of people say that it's a sad feeling, as if its all been written off a kind of "little death"