Donor Dad, Number 66

[amicus]

Donor Dad, Number 66




While pecking away at my latest smut story, tanks well filled with my favorite libation late last night, I caught the tail end of a news item, not sure which channel, I surf during commercials usually.

Several, four, five or six look-alike children were being interviewed. They did not know each other, all had different mothers, but apparently the same father.

Donor 66. Somehow those children managed to independently trace their paternity to an artificial insemination clinic.

They seemed ambivalent when asked why they wanted to discover their father; they said they didn’t want money, or help in any way, but just felt they wanted to know.

Single parent families through divorce are numerous, we all know that, but it struck me that there might be large numbers of single parent families from other motivations.

I have not begun to search the internet for possible estimates of numbers, because as yet, I can’t decide what to search for.

I suppose you can turn this into a Lesbian bashing session if you want, I could care less. But, to see those several kids, all healthy, attractive and obviously genetically related in appearance, set me to thinking.

My only question at this point is about how many of these Donor 66 and all the other ‘donors’ progeny are out there seeking a paternal lineage.

Perhaps someone has some input.


Amicus…

 

[Liar]

Kind of reminds me of how so many adopted kids, at some point in their lives, feel the need to seek out their biological roots. Not for any other reason than to look them in the eye once and say hello.

 

[cantdog]

I can't believe it's just saying hello.

"There's something you need from your father
Some kinda hand on your shoulder
or something
if you know what I mean

And if you don't find it, you look for it
in everybody
and every thing..."

Larry John McNally wrote that. It's a song lyric. But like a lot of poetry, it reveals a facet of the truth.

 

[amicus]

I can't believe it's just saying hello.

"There's something you need from your father
Some kinda hand on your shoulder
or something
if you know what I mean

And if you don't find it, you look for it
in everybody
and every thing..."

Larry John McNally wrote that. It's a song lyric. But like a lot of poetry, it reveals a facet of the truth.

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"In everybody and every thing..." yes, poetry and a facet of truth.

I think I have said this before, but I coached little league baseball many years ago and one year had a team of 13 boys, twelve and thirteen years of age, only one of whom had a 'dad' at home.

They needed that, 'hand on the shoulder', that masculine concern that is so different than the feminine.

I used to think what a tragedy we are creating by our social choices, then I recalled wartime in Europe, where most of the men, especially in Germany, went off to war and never came back.

Perhaps fatherless children is not such a new or unusual circumstance?

amicus...

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Perhaps fatherless children is not such a new or unusual circumstance?

no, not new or unusual... but the lack of the masculine presence is different in our culture... something that is sorely lacking... we have lost any rites of passage or forms of initiation we once had (for both the masculine and the feminine). It is no wonder that we are looking for that hand on our shoulder... and off in another direction, it's sad that the minute a child looks for it and someone seeks to give it, CPS is looking over their shoulder with disapproving eyes *sigh* it's one crazy mixed up world we live in...

 

[amicus]

Yes, a 'crazy mixed up world..."

Perhaps that is why I gravitate to the Author's forum although it is sometimes less than satisfying, at least a few here attempt to comprehend the conditions we find ourselves in and discuss it.

I fear there are few answers for individuals here who perhaps need that 'hand on the shoulder', but I am optimistic that if we look at and discuss what we each see and feel, perhaps, eventually, an understanding will emerge.

In my single years, after a divorce, I met many divorced women with children. After a while the pain of getting to know both the women and the children was too much...they needed so much...that I had already given and could not really give again.

Even being a grandparent, in similar situations, a fatherless family, it is hard to know how much to give, dad and grand dad are different places to be.

Some one here has a sig line, 'questions? I got lots of those....answers...ahh...there's the rub..." a paraphrase for sure...that's not the way it goes but the best my addled mind can do at this moment.

amicus...

 

[Selena_Kitt]

I fear there are few answers for individuals here who perhaps need that 'hand on the shoulder', but I am optimistic that if we look at and discuss what we each see and feel, perhaps, eventually, an understanding will emerge.

I fear there are few answers anywhere... although I wish there were... but if there are answers to be had, they must lie in connection and, however ethereal, that is something we do have here...

now... you being an optimist... now there's a delightful discovery that I wouldn't have expected to encounter, ya old codger <grin> <nudge>

 

[amicus]

I fear there are few answers anywhere... although I wish there were... but if there are answers to be had, they must lie in connection and, however ethereal, that is something we do have here...

now... you being an optimist... now there's a delightful discovery that I wouldn't have expected to encounter, ya old codger <grin> <nudge>

Hey! No tongues, kid!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Part of it is that we have taught men that they only need to take care of a kid or claim him or her IF they marry the mom. If not, they are home free. Fatherhood needs to be recognized as basic, not dependent on whether you marry the girl. Acceptance of your child is your duty as a man, provided that YOU know that it is your child. If you have reason to doubt, settle that doubt ASAP. If you don't want kids, do what I plan to do in 2 years (unless I change my mind about it)- get a vasectomy.