Domination and Bondage Games (Ideas Wanted)

[sweetnpetite]

Ok, I asked about this on the TALK board and got a chilly reception.

I am not a full time BDSMer, and my question is not about that. But I am interested in BDSM type 'games' or 'scenes' that a girl could do with a husband or boyfriend that do not involve pain or humiliation, nor do they involve any Slave/Mistress type things either. Some service could be involved, but nothing that requires the man to adress the woman as "Mistress" We tried to play Mistress a long time ago and it just wasnt worth it, but I would like to try to play 'top' a little, and I think he might be more open to it if it didn't involve humiliation or pain as he has no interest in these.

Now I know that is the fun part for many, but what about the other stuff? I am also interested for reasons of a story as well. I like the idea of a sexually dominant woman, but I'm just not turned on by a guy being called 'worm and maggott' and stuff like that.

It doesn't have to be total domination or anything like that, just playful kinkyness, female sexual agression. Can anyone help me, please??? I just want a few ideas. Are there ways that a guy can sub or bottom without being emasculating? Please say that there are!!!!

Thanks.

 

[Krinaia]

I think there are. I once had a friend with whom I was interested in dating. This was before I discovered myself. He is turned on by sexually aggressive women in a way. He's disinterested completely in pain or humiliation but he likes to do as asked. He enjoys giving pleasure. He loves eating women out and having them tell him how they like it. Personally I think if the woman isn't tied up or down then she has a lot of control emotionally and physically when a man is going down on her ... especially if she knows how to take control of the situation. I'm not sure this helps but here's hoping....

 

[Chicklet]

bondage bondage bondage bondage bondage...

There's a lot to be said about some good ol' fashioned bondage, you know.

Tie 'im up, dearie. That could be fun. Bondage and pleasure! YUM! There doesn't need to be any role-playing involved, just some restraint, which I find particularly exciting, and then go from there! A world of possibilities, eh?

Chicklet

 

[RawHumor]

Chickie's got a good point. I generally consider myself a dom, but I DO really enjoy being tied up and teased... and eventually, pleasured.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I just got an idea from reading this, to coax a reluctant man to try bondage.

You know how guys will do anything for a blowjob....

Only this time, he doens't get to guide the action. That in itself should make an interesting story.

 

[randy1]

I vote for bondage, simple handcuffs are part of vanilla play nowadays.

If you want to feel more "dom" or in control, simply bargain.

Simply enter a sexual session dressed in something alluring but not readily accessible (a teddy comes to mind).

Coyly say, "You want me? Then you have to do as I say." Make it really cool, longlasting foreplay like you've never had before.

Have him caress you where you want, as you want. Have him massage you. Have him lick your entire body. Perhaps don't even let him undress, to inhibit his stimulation a bit.

If he overcomes your control, and you allow it, let him take you after you've teased and frustrated him a bit--that'll be fun too!

If you start with a goal however, you'll be able to accomplish more of what you want rather than giving in too easily.

Most of all, have fun!

randy

PS: Sometimes people use 'virtual bondage', where the sub is instructed to not move parts of their body as if they are tied up, if they move, they're penalized accordingly. You could do something similar--he has to do X for you, then you'll suck him a bit (up to you how much/long). Then he has to do Y for you, then you'll suck him... If he fails, you won't suck him. Similarly, if you are riding on top of him, make him do what you want or don't let him come (simply plunk your full weight down to minimize stimulation). No pain, no humilitation, no korny labels, just pure and simple control--the essence of BDSM if you will.

 

[MissTaken]

Blindfold!

In addition to what I suggested on teh Talk forum, when blindfolding him or anyone, use that opportunity to play with them a bit with sounds.

Snap a belt.
Make the ice in your glass tinkle.
Fuss around in a drawer or something and to really make it interesting, sharpen a knife!

Even the normal sounds of you walking around the room readying yourself and him would be cause for heightened awareness.

Have some fun with it.



BTW, I like your post randy and everyone.

Thanks!

 

[scooterbum]

I just got an idea from reading this, to coax a reluctant man to try bondage.

You know how guys will do anything for a blowjob....

Only this time, he doens't get to guide the action. That in itself should make an interesting story.

Jeez, I thought I cleand that shi* off my bike after I went through the farm

 

[MissTaken]

Jeez, I thought I cleand that shi* off my bike after I went through the farm

Awww come on, I know there isn't anything you wouldn't do for a bit of oral sex from me!

 

[Netzach]

I like all these suggestions. Blowjob control is an awesome bedroom domination game, it's not just 101, it can be a lot of fun, provided you like giving blowjobs. Because it's about what you like, and extracting that in the sexiest possible way.

Titles, are, in my opinion, overrated, as necessary to effective control and domination as a pair of thigh boots. If you like them, great (I love thigh boots too) just understand that a very normal woman using her given name and wearing sweatpants can be doing as good a job of it.

Sensation play can be fun. If he's getting cocky, I'd make the sounds scarier, as Miss Taken suggested. I find that a corkscrew makes a fantastic sensation toy. Have the bottom blindfolded, trace the point of it alllllll over them....make them guess what it is (they will almost always say "it's a knife" first--say no) THEN show them after a while. It's always a surprise and it demonstrates how safe, benign, and innocent you really are, how can they think you are so monstrous? (heh)

I'd find out if there are any huge knife phobias before going here, obviously.

 

[Wizard]

I have to come back and post to this............Intresting thread