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I really find it interesting, and somewhat frustrating, that women who are dominant don’t really chat with submissive women. Maybe I’m doing something wrong.
 
this is likely going to be an unpopular opinion but oh well....
Are you initiating first contact or are you waiting for the Domme to contact you?
Unlike male dom/female sub interactions, female Dommes don't normally peruse new pretty young women's profiles and initiate contact demanding your servitude from the first message. Quite the opposite in fact.
Also, it's not enough to just be female and call yourself a sub to attract a Domme's attention. A Domme is, shall we say, more selective and harder to impress. Maybe you need to initiate respectful contact and explain what you can offer?
 
BellaBestia said:
this is likely going to be an unpopular opinion but oh well....
Are you initiating first contact or are you waiting for the Domme to contact you?
Unlike male dom/female sub interactions, female Dommes don't normally peruse new pretty young women's profiles and initiate contact demanding your servitude from the first message. Quite the opposite in fact.
Also, it's not enough to just be female and call yourself a sub to attract a Domme's attention. A Domme is, shall we say, more selective and harder to impress. Maybe you need to initiate respectful contact and explain what you can offer?
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No, I initiate and it’s just to chat, not meeting or roleplay.
 
Submissivepat said:
I really find it interesting, and somewhat frustrating, that women who are dominant don’t really chat with submissive women. Maybe I’m doing something wrong.
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I'm new to Lit and new to the lifestyle, the only PMs I get are from guys even though I know that I've posted that I have no interest in sex with guys.
 
Submissivepat said:
I really find it interesting, and somewhat frustrating, that women who are dominant don’t really chat with submissive women. Maybe I’m doing something wrong.
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Not only with submissive women but submissive men too. I am starting to conclude that Domme's are not a real thing.
 
And I notice Dominant women don't chat with men unless they are expecting tribute.
 
Most DOmme women are probably straight, but they see a market with male subs so they usually demand money. Sometimes even from sub women. A lot of them are acting Domme to be paid, on average there are very few of them compared to femsubs.
 
There’s a huge vast difference between lifestyle dommes and professional dommes. A lifestyle domme is doing it for the relationship the companionship and date I even say the love. It takes a very long time to develop and nurture.
A professional domme even semi professional is doing fit for the money and doesn’t care about her own needs and desires only the clients.
Understand what you want when you say you want a domme.
 
My opinion on this, if you are seeking a relationship with a dominant woman, that takes a bit of time, and you have to be open and honest up front. And absolutely expect rejection when you open up. Put it all out there for her to consider. Tell her you really like her, but these are my needs. Expect rejection, no matter how bad it may hurt.

That rejection will immediately tell you that she is not the one. Even if you get along great in every other part of the relationship

In the end your sexual needs will not be met, and quite possibly neither will hers.

Do not allow her to engage in these activities if she isn't 100 percent on board with them. In the end that may harbor some resentment.

Move on gracefully, if she changes her mind great, let her come and seek you out .

Just my honest opinion.
 
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Priceless
 
SPARTAN047 said:
Most DOmme women are probably straight, but they see a market with male subs so they usually demand money. Sometimes even from sub women. A lot of them are acting Domme to be paid, on average there are very few of them compared to femsubs.
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I disagree. At least from my experience Domme women do not demand money unless they are pro. I prefer non pros but have known a few pros that were very good.
 
Boat1 said:
Mine will chat and respond to courteous, intelligent comments, but won't humor people looking for a cheap thrill. She accepts money from noone.
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I had a Domme friend, one of the best! Circumstances were such that we had to meet in a hotel. She would not let me pay for the room but I did bring flowers and chocolates and..............oh yes, toys!
 
BellaBestia said:
There’s a huge vast difference between lifestyle dommes and professional dommes. A lifestyle domme is doing it for the relationship the companionship and date I even say the love. It takes a very long time to develop and nurture.
A professional domme even semi professional is doing fit for the money and doesn’t care about her own needs and desires only the clients.
Understand what you want when you say you want a domme.
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I did have a relationship with a "part time pro Domme" She always made sure I met her desires. I was told by a couple that visited her she was a switch. She broke his heart on purpose.
 
Boat1 said:
Ouch
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They went to her to help his wife learn how to be a domme as a couple and he fell in love with her. The wife got her to refuse to see them for months and he would tell me how heart broken he was. The wife arranged a reunion. She had him tied up in bed blind folded and the domme came in the room and jumped on him. He knew who it was!
 
I should hope not. I'd pick someone younger and hotter, but I'm not paying to clean anyone's house. I'm okay with being instructed.
 
SPARTAN047 said:
I should hope not. I'd pick someone younger and hotter, but I'm not paying to clean anyone's house. I'm okay with being instructed.
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If it is there kink and they get off doing it good for them. I didn't get paid but for the great job I should have! Oh! Yeah! She let me give her a massage. She is the one that had me on my knees in the shopping center parking lot kissing her heels.
 
subdudeme13 said:
If it is there kink and they get off doing it good for them. I didn't get paid but for the great job I should have! Oh! Yeah! She let me give her a massage. She is the one that had me on my knees in the shopping center parking lot kissing her heels.
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🤷 Whatever works for them. I'm talking about actually paying someone since I've discussed findom and finsub with so many people, I really believe it's dangerous and extremely selfish to use someone for their money like that especially when there's no limit on how much a Domme can extract. These guys should be trained to not give in to absurd demands.

If that's bad, remember that it's considered jerk behaviour to use someone, especially women for their bodies and walk away. If using anyone, especially men for, their resources isn't equally repugnant, you're a hypocrite.

(I'm not on anyone's side since men have tried to use me for my money too and I have none. I just hate double standards.)
 
I have read about some horror stories. The one that comes to mind is the stripper that completely bankrupted a guy who had a family. He committed suicide and I think there was some legal action but I do not recall. There certainly are extremes.
 
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