Dominant Urges Aroused

[woodword]

Anyone care to share a tale of discovering your dominant side? I had been more of a fun and romantic and even passive lover until a certain new lover inspired something more dominant in me. She loved it, and I have ever since enjoyed exploring both sides.

 

[woodword]

One bump and I'll let this one go, but it sure seemed like a fun idea to me. Any takers?

 

[Earthly1]

One bump and I'll let this one go, but it sure seemed like a fun idea to me. Any takers?

There are tons of people on here into this subject, they just won't have seen the thread yet. Be patient and they should come.

 

[liqueur]

I am almost invariably submissive, sexually.

Things that could bring out dominance in me:

• A much younger guy, with an androgynous or effeminate physique.
• A much younger gamine-like woman who wants to be dominated.

However, here as in all things, I love paradoxes So what would turn me on far more would be someone in one of these categories who presented at first as submissive, but then turned the tables on me. I guess that makes me about 98% submissive. So maybe I don't belong on this thread.

 

[CandiCame]

I'm a sub, so I can't help you, but I'll be lurking on this thread... You know, for uh... Science.

 

[AfterDusk]

My dominant side has always been hidden like a sleeping lioness, intentionally. In person I can come off as shy or uninterested, I’ve been told that my affect makes me unapproachable. Regardless, I was raised to be kind, accepting and understanding but I speak my mind when necessary, I don’t take shit and as a whole despite being humble I’m probably considered “strong and independent” as cliche as that sounds.

With a partner I’ve always wanted to be dominated—I’ve wanted a man who could be capable of taming me. I can be cheeky, quick witted and onery. It seemed like if I could find a man worthy of my submission then he would be the one, right? I mean, isn’t that what all the fairytales tell us women, that someday a Prince Charming will swoop in and save us? Women are held up to a double standard—a man can be aggressive but a woman is a slut, a man can be confident but a woman is a bitch, a man’s place is in control and a woman’s place is on her knees.

Fuck that.

It has taken me a long, long time to come to this realization. There isn’t a man who can earn my submission because I’m not a submissive. I am sick of trying to conform to society’s standards because it is impossible. I am me: a real woman, a creature to be worshipped, a dominant with expectations. While this rebirth is frightening, I feel like a cicada crawling up from the murk of slumber getting ready to spread my wings and sing my song out into the night. I feel like I am finally living.

 

[Mutau]

Multi-faceted

As human beings we evolve over time. We may commence our journey through life in one manner and shape shift as we mature. The situations we encounter have an impact on us: whether actual or subliminal.

Even as we are in a relationship our nature can be shifting. One day I may wish to be dominant and demanding: another I may be caring and giving. One never has to be one thing at all times! Different partners may bring out our various personas.

Being a sensualist, I revel in my body and mind being able to react to my surroundings. The search for adventures, passion, and lust, requires an open mind, a trusting spirit, and an excellent bullshit detector.

Bring on the bodies. Let us communicate, enjoy each other, then take leave, and recommence. .

 

[liqueur]

. . . Women are held up to a double standard—a man can be aggressive but a woman is a slut, a man can be confident but a woman is a bitch, a man’s place is in control and a woman’s place is on her knees.

Fuck that.

It has taken me a long, long time to come to this realization. There isn’t a man who can earn my submission because I’m not a submissive. I am sick of trying to conform to society’s standards because it is impossible. I am me: a real woman, a creature to be worshipped, a dominant with expectations.. . .

This is precisely why I have a difficult time with the idea of women as submissives, and tend to sneer at men as dominants. In one part of my mind, I understand that kinks are not intellectual decisions, and that everyone has a right to their own kinks, whether they appeal to me or not

But some other part of my brain kicks back and says "Women have always been expected to be submissive; men have always been dominant. If you're just enacting or even exaggerating the norms of society as a whole, how is that kinky?" Kink is about sexuality and sexual behaviors that are transgressive. Transgression makes them taboo; taboo makes them sexy. Status quo is just.... status quo.

But I know, I know. Kinks are not controlled by the intellect.

 

[bi11ionaire]

My dominant side has always been hidden like a sleeping lioness, intentionally. In person I can come off as shy or uninterested, I’ve been told that my affect makes me unapproachable. Regardless, I was raised to be kind, accepting and understanding but I speak my mind when necessary, I don’t take shit and as a whole despite being humble I’m probably considered “strong and independent” as cliche as that sounds.

With a partner I’ve always wanted to be dominated—I’ve wanted a man who could be capable of taming me. I can be cheeky, quick witted and onery. It seemed like if I could find a man worthy of my submission then he would be the one, right? I mean, isn’t that what all the fairytales tell us women, that someday a Prince Charming will swoop in and save us? Women are held up to a double standard—a man can be aggressive but a woman is a slut, a man can be confident but a woman is a bitch, a man’s place is in control and a woman’s place is on her knees.

Fuck that.

It has taken me a long, long time to come to this realization. There isn’t a man who can earn my submission because I’m not a submissive. I am sick of trying to conform to society’s standards because it is impossible. I am me: a real woman, a creature to be worshipped, a dominant with expectations. While this rebirth is frightening, I feel like a cicada crawling up from the murk of slumber getting ready to spread my wings and sing my song out into the night. I feel like I am finally living.

I wish more women were open to express their assertive / dominant side the way you've done with yours. It is delightful to read and to experience.

 

[woodword]

I'm inviting new posts to this thread. Who has seen themselves or a partner become more sexually dominant, and what do you think inspired it?