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I’m a 26 year old guy looking for his girl. I’m 5’11”, with black hair and hazel eyes. Weight wise I’m between average and chubby (about 230 lbs, but I wear it well). Pictures are available upon request. I’m dominant. I’m not looking for a fuckbuddy/online only/play partner. I’m more interested in a long term, real-life relationship.
That’s the short version. If you’d like the long version, read below. Oh, and if you’re wondering why this is in the BDSM section, we’ll get to that soon. But for now let’s start out with the basics.
A little about me:
I’m a displaced northerner who’s been living in Houston for some time. I’ve got my own place. I work a good job. Like everyone else, I pay my bills, I work hard, and I like to think of myself as a damn nice guy. I’m shy before you get to know me, but once I’m comfortable you might have trouble getting me to shut up. I’m extremely self-reliant and I value that.
I have two sides. In public/at work, I’m quiet, reserved, and have been told I can blend-in with any décor. I suppose that’s a nice way the people I work with have of saying I can be boring. However, when I’m on my time I can be completely surprising, funny, and energetic. My sense of humor ranges from random, to sarcastic, to corny. I’m a fairly logical type who likes to think things out and who can’t stand not being able to plan for something. While I keep a pretty neat apartment (I live alone) I have one of those desks that is constantly disorganized. I’m also the type who hates being late but can easily lose track of time if he’s having fun. While I don’t make friends easy, once I do, I’m above all things loyal. My friends often come to me for advice or to just listen as I seem to have the type of personality that encourages both of those things.
My likes:
Music: (Some of the stuff I’ve been listening to lately)
Led Zepplin, The cramps, Joe Cocker, Old Metallica, NIN, Nina Simone, Charlie Parker, Arcade Fire, The Clash, Bob Dylan, Muddy Waters, Otis Redding, Flogging Molly, RHCP, Sublime, Audioslave, Tool, Greenday, Motorhead, Miles Davis, The Who, Jethro Tull.
Movies: My favs change depending on what day you ask me, but I’ll still watch The Shinning and Casino just about any day of the week. Throw in a few classics like Sunset Boulevard and Once Upon A Time In The West, and round it out with a few modern flicks like Heat and The Lord of The Rings trilogy and I’m set. I’ll admit my comedy favs are pretty limited but Office Space gets repeated viewing (I don’t know if that’s good or bad).
Television: Battlestar Galactica, The Simpsons, Southpark, just about anything on the History Channel, and adult swim on the cartoon network.
Books: Since I love reading more than just about anything else, this list has potential to get out of hand so I’ll keep it short. The western classics from Shakespeare to Dickens, and even older stuff like you had to read back in Highschool (anyone remember the Illiad?) and more modern stuff like Haunted (by Palahniuk) and House of Leaves. Anything by Stephen King. Short fiction (George Saunders has to be my favorite in that category) of any type, and even historical nonfiction like The Somme and American Urban History. Because I’m a dork at heart, Anything by Tufte (Visual Explanations) also makes the list
I also love to write, backpacking, and a good stiff drink. I’m a computer junky and while I’m an adult, I love geeking out with a good computer game.
I have a cat and I'm a nonsmoker.
So now the part that puts this profile in the BDSM section (I told you we’d get to it).
Sexually, I’m very dominant. I preface this with the word sexually because for me, the relationship outside the bedroom/scene is often more egalitarian in nature. Said simply, while I expect to, and enjoy controlling a woman sexually, I don’t expect/want a puppet for most of the day to day things. So, if you’re looking for someone to micro manage your life, sorry, I’m not your man.
While we’re on the subject, I should also admit that I’ve only had one previous relationship with a dom/sub dynamic so yes, I’m somewhat new at this. While I am new, I do know what I want…
Specifically, my interests are primarily in bondage, discipline, and even humiliation and some sadism. I know, those are pretty broad categories, but basically I can handle just about anything that doesn’t involve scat or serious blood letting. Ultimately however, I’d like to go a bit beyond those main subjects. While the physical aspects of BDSM are in themselves a treat, the emotional and mental aspects are of even more interest to me.
I like the idea of stripping a submissive down emotionally. Exposing her feelings/emotions and carefully exploring them. For instance having a submissive confess some little thing that she may have done recently that disappointed her. I then step in and through punishment/discipline correct not only the thinking that led to the action that disappointed her, but perhaps change her thinking on the issue itself. So now the question becomes…
I could probably write a short book about what I like and what BDSM is to me.
Who I’m looking for:
She should be between 20 and 28 ideally, though in age I do have some room for leeway. She should be confident in herself with a good attitude and good self-esteem. Intelligence is always appreciated as is the ability to hold a good conversation. Obviously, she should be submissive, and recognizing that I’m still learning about BDSM, perhaps she should be new to it as well so we can learn together.
This is the part that will sound shallow and cruel no matter how I phrase it. I’ll say it anyway.
Please have a job, a life, and interests! Do you go to school/night classes? Excellent! Do you feel passionate about X (X=band/author/work/something besides reality TV)? Even better! I’m not looking for someone who likes all the same things I do (that would be boring) but all I ask is that you not be looking for a sugar daddy or living with your parents and making no attempt at setting up a life for yourself.
Physically, I only ask that you not be morbidly obese.
Mentally, please don’t be psycho (just putting it out there).
You can be as weird as you want.
Well. That’s it. Now I dare you to write me. If you liked it, if you hated it, if you felt it was too long…really. Just write and prove that this isn’t going into the great internet void without a hope!
That’s the short version. If you’d like the long version, read below. Oh, and if you’re wondering why this is in the BDSM section, we’ll get to that soon. But for now let’s start out with the basics.
A little about me:
I’m a displaced northerner who’s been living in Houston for some time. I’ve got my own place. I work a good job. Like everyone else, I pay my bills, I work hard, and I like to think of myself as a damn nice guy. I’m shy before you get to know me, but once I’m comfortable you might have trouble getting me to shut up. I’m extremely self-reliant and I value that.
I have two sides. In public/at work, I’m quiet, reserved, and have been told I can blend-in with any décor. I suppose that’s a nice way the people I work with have of saying I can be boring. However, when I’m on my time I can be completely surprising, funny, and energetic. My sense of humor ranges from random, to sarcastic, to corny. I’m a fairly logical type who likes to think things out and who can’t stand not being able to plan for something. While I keep a pretty neat apartment (I live alone) I have one of those desks that is constantly disorganized. I’m also the type who hates being late but can easily lose track of time if he’s having fun. While I don’t make friends easy, once I do, I’m above all things loyal. My friends often come to me for advice or to just listen as I seem to have the type of personality that encourages both of those things.
My likes:
Music: (Some of the stuff I’ve been listening to lately)
Led Zepplin, The cramps, Joe Cocker, Old Metallica, NIN, Nina Simone, Charlie Parker, Arcade Fire, The Clash, Bob Dylan, Muddy Waters, Otis Redding, Flogging Molly, RHCP, Sublime, Audioslave, Tool, Greenday, Motorhead, Miles Davis, The Who, Jethro Tull.
Movies: My favs change depending on what day you ask me, but I’ll still watch The Shinning and Casino just about any day of the week. Throw in a few classics like Sunset Boulevard and Once Upon A Time In The West, and round it out with a few modern flicks like Heat and The Lord of The Rings trilogy and I’m set. I’ll admit my comedy favs are pretty limited but Office Space gets repeated viewing (I don’t know if that’s good or bad).
Television: Battlestar Galactica, The Simpsons, Southpark, just about anything on the History Channel, and adult swim on the cartoon network.
Books: Since I love reading more than just about anything else, this list has potential to get out of hand so I’ll keep it short. The western classics from Shakespeare to Dickens, and even older stuff like you had to read back in Highschool (anyone remember the Illiad?) and more modern stuff like Haunted (by Palahniuk) and House of Leaves. Anything by Stephen King. Short fiction (George Saunders has to be my favorite in that category) of any type, and even historical nonfiction like The Somme and American Urban History. Because I’m a dork at heart, Anything by Tufte (Visual Explanations) also makes the list
I also love to write, backpacking, and a good stiff drink. I’m a computer junky and while I’m an adult, I love geeking out with a good computer game.
I have a cat and I'm a nonsmoker.
So now the part that puts this profile in the BDSM section (I told you we’d get to it).
Sexually, I’m very dominant. I preface this with the word sexually because for me, the relationship outside the bedroom/scene is often more egalitarian in nature. Said simply, while I expect to, and enjoy controlling a woman sexually, I don’t expect/want a puppet for most of the day to day things. So, if you’re looking for someone to micro manage your life, sorry, I’m not your man.
While we’re on the subject, I should also admit that I’ve only had one previous relationship with a dom/sub dynamic so yes, I’m somewhat new at this. While I am new, I do know what I want…
Specifically, my interests are primarily in bondage, discipline, and even humiliation and some sadism. I know, those are pretty broad categories, but basically I can handle just about anything that doesn’t involve scat or serious blood letting. Ultimately however, I’d like to go a bit beyond those main subjects. While the physical aspects of BDSM are in themselves a treat, the emotional and mental aspects are of even more interest to me.
I like the idea of stripping a submissive down emotionally. Exposing her feelings/emotions and carefully exploring them. For instance having a submissive confess some little thing that she may have done recently that disappointed her. I then step in and through punishment/discipline correct not only the thinking that led to the action that disappointed her, but perhaps change her thinking on the issue itself. So now the question becomes…
I could probably write a short book about what I like and what BDSM is to me.
Who I’m looking for:
She should be between 20 and 28 ideally, though in age I do have some room for leeway. She should be confident in herself with a good attitude and good self-esteem. Intelligence is always appreciated as is the ability to hold a good conversation. Obviously, she should be submissive, and recognizing that I’m still learning about BDSM, perhaps she should be new to it as well so we can learn together.
This is the part that will sound shallow and cruel no matter how I phrase it. I’ll say it anyway.
Please have a job, a life, and interests! Do you go to school/night classes? Excellent! Do you feel passionate about X (X=band/author/work/something besides reality TV)? Even better! I’m not looking for someone who likes all the same things I do (that would be boring) but all I ask is that you not be looking for a sugar daddy or living with your parents and making no attempt at setting up a life for yourself.
Physically, I only ask that you not be morbidly obese.
Mentally, please don’t be psycho (just putting it out there).
You can be as weird as you want.
Well. That’s it. Now I dare you to write me. If you liked it, if you hated it, if you felt it was too long…really. Just write and prove that this isn’t going into the great internet void without a hope!
I would have found it difficult to bring it up myself, I have in the past & a lot of men I have met have felt really threatened by me knowing what I want.
