Dom vs. sub, which do you prefer?

[Bucephalos]

My girlfriend and I like to play rough. She likes it when I tell her what to do and fuck her however I want. She always resists, though, and she's not good about communicating where boundaries are. I've tried to get her to talk about it more, but she just won't.

I actually prefer to be submissive. I would let her do anything; slap, bite, fuck me with a strapon, lick her pussy or ass as much as she wants... When she does play the dom, she just doesn't know what to do. We just revert to boring sex.

I'm interested in hearing about others' situations as well as tips and pointers.

 

[sexymom]

It seems to me, based on what you said, that you are both submissives, so when you "play" as you put it, one of you is always out of their normal role. That sometimes works, though- but it's not easy.

 

[Moxon4]

You may just want to try talking a lot, and talking while having sex, tell her what you wish she would do to you, etc...

 

[phil196662]

My girlfriend and I like to play rough. She likes it when I tell her what to do and fuck her however I want. She always resists, though, and she's not good about communicating where boundaries are. I've tried to get her to talk about it more, but she just won't.

I actually prefer to be submissive. I would let her do anything; slap, bite, fuck me with a strapon, lick her pussy or ass as much as she wants... When she does play the dom, she just doesn't know what to do. We just revert to boring sex.

I'm interested in hearing about others' situations as well as tips and pointers.

Surely she knows what sie wants, she is with you and she should know what pleases her. with you there she has a pair of hands available to hold her and pleasue her.

As for the first thing you speak of, how long have you been togehter? I am sure she has certen noises when she's fine with what is going on and a certen sound when she'at ther limit. If you have been together long enough she probably trusts you completely and wants to explore and reach new highs with her special partner.

PM me if you want or if you have more thoughts you want to share. phil

 

[strict_but_fair]

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[FallenAngel3]

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[sfldaddy]

I can't deal with a dominant partner. She has to be a sub. But I don't abusethe privilege.

 

[phil196662]

I would prefer a Submissive partner that knows herself and what it's going to take to achieve extended pleasure, or at least willing to cross into zones that are foreighn and trust completely. Only to be squirming around like attemping to break free only to be pleading for more!

I tend to get agressive and spontainious when I have someone that want to play hard and go that mile with the biggist unknowns.