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Greetings. I’m an author writing a story that involves a BDSM couple and I’m in need of some help. Let me assure you, first off, that I know that all relationships are different no matter what the lifestyle, and that realistically, the answer to my question is: “It depends on the couple, on the kind of people involved.” Nevertheless, I’ve a hypothetical question about a hypothetical and, obviously, fictitious situation and I’d like your gut reaction on how you think it’d go. I’ve made the answers a poll (you can pick more than one answer) to better see what the majority think.
The hypothetical couple: They are in a 24/7, Dom/sub relationship. I’m going to venture to say that the sexes don’t matter, though if you disagree and feel it would make a significant difference, please let me know. So our relationship could be a male Dom and sub, or a Dominatrix and sub, two men in that relationship or two women. The important thing is that the relationship is realistic (not an erotic fantasy of some ultra-rich Dom and their sex slave), and it isn’t a part-time thing. They are always Dom/sub. There’s never any switching of roles or question about who is in charge; they have their own private rituals and rules that they stick to. They’ve been together about a year and have had their ups, downs, disagreements, etc, but all-in-all, they’re an excellent fit for each other and a happy couple.
They hypothetical situation: The two are out in public as a “regular” couple (not at a BDSM venue). The Dom gets into an altercation with someone, either a complete stranger or a casual acquaintance. It’s a verbal fight that starts to escalate into something ugly. Objective observers of this altercation will attest, after the fact, that the Dom was in the wrong and that someone who knew the Dom could and should have interfered, dialing the situation down before it got out of hand.
The question: What would the sub’s position be in such a situation? As you’ll see from the poll above, I’d like to know two things: Would the sub recognize that their Dom was in the wrong? And whether they recognized that or not, would they do anything? From a sub’s point of view, would they feel it their place to support their Dom, right or wrong? Or would they feel it their place to “protect” their Dom from making a bad mistake, even if it goes against the grain of the relationship?
I’m honestly stumped about how my story should go and any thoughts or insights would be very, very much appreciated. Again, I know that the answer really depends on the personalities of the couple involved, but I’m looking for a consensus on what you feel would be most likely given your personal knowledge and lifestyle experiences.
Thank you so much for your help!
The hypothetical couple: They are in a 24/7, Dom/sub relationship. I’m going to venture to say that the sexes don’t matter, though if you disagree and feel it would make a significant difference, please let me know. So our relationship could be a male Dom and sub, or a Dominatrix and sub, two men in that relationship or two women. The important thing is that the relationship is realistic (not an erotic fantasy of some ultra-rich Dom and their sex slave), and it isn’t a part-time thing. They are always Dom/sub. There’s never any switching of roles or question about who is in charge; they have their own private rituals and rules that they stick to. They’ve been together about a year and have had their ups, downs, disagreements, etc, but all-in-all, they’re an excellent fit for each other and a happy couple.
They hypothetical situation: The two are out in public as a “regular” couple (not at a BDSM venue). The Dom gets into an altercation with someone, either a complete stranger or a casual acquaintance. It’s a verbal fight that starts to escalate into something ugly. Objective observers of this altercation will attest, after the fact, that the Dom was in the wrong and that someone who knew the Dom could and should have interfered, dialing the situation down before it got out of hand.
The question: What would the sub’s position be in such a situation? As you’ll see from the poll above, I’d like to know two things: Would the sub recognize that their Dom was in the wrong? And whether they recognized that or not, would they do anything? From a sub’s point of view, would they feel it their place to support their Dom, right or wrong? Or would they feel it their place to “protect” their Dom from making a bad mistake, even if it goes against the grain of the relationship?
I’m honestly stumped about how my story should go and any thoughts or insights would be very, very much appreciated. Again, I know that the answer really depends on the personalities of the couple involved, but I’m looking for a consensus on what you feel would be most likely given your personal knowledge and lifestyle experiences.
Thank you so much for your help!
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Apologies for the length. I feared that if I simplified it, it would sound frivolous and offensive. So I kinda went overboard in the other direction.
Though, like Cutie said, it's likely a moot point because B.'s not the kind of person to go around starting trouble "just because." We both avoid conflict at most any cost, so it's hard to even imagine being in that situation. If it happened somehow, though, I'd do my best to interfere, and I know that if I ever found myself in something similar, he'd do the same for me.
