does your writing inspire your sex or does your sex inspire your writing?

[Trinique_Fire]

yeah, you read that right.....sort of.

when you write erotica, do you feel as though you're writing autobiographical accounts without meaning to (or perhaps it IS intentional)? does it weird you out? do you worry that you're revealing too much or not being original enough?

on the other hand, when you're in bed...do you feel like you're plagerizing your own writing or the stories that you read? does your mind go back to that scene your wrote about or read and do you play it out like a part in a movie? does it ever make your sex life feel too plasticized?

feel free to answer as many or as few of the questions as you want....add more if you wish. the idea came to me while i was at work. anyway....discuss.

 

[AchtungNight]

For me, I think the answer is yes and no. I've read a lot on the Net and written a lot too, and it's often inspired my life and vice versa, but it's all been just as affected by my imagination as by reality. All the stories I write are fiction, after all.

That said, if anybody ever does decide to copy some of their action, I think I would be honored if I knew. I've never done it myself that I can remember. But then sex is usually so pleasant a memory for me that I have trouble recalling exact details and have to fill in the blanks with fantasy and speculation...

 

[kendo1]

Nope.

 

[English Lady]

Alot of my written sex is based on my real sex life, as I pull on what i've done sex wise when i'm writing out the act. Obviously things aren't always exactly the same but I do base my sex on my real life frolickings and also the odd cyber sex encounters I've had

 

[oggbashan]

I'm impossibly ancient.

I have a good memory and a better imagination.

Things happen in my stories that have no relationship to anything I would do, have done, or might do.

I write FICTION. Anything is possible but it is NOT autobiographical. Fiction is portraying an imaginary world.

Og

 

[rgraham666]

My writing is a substitute for the sex I don't get in real life.

I need some outlet.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

*bump*

i know, i know....they're awfully personal questions....

 

[neonlyte]

yeah, you read that right.....sort of.

when you write erotica, do you feel as though you're writing autobiographical accounts without meaning to (or perhaps it IS intentional)? does it weird you out? do you worry that you're revealing too much or not being original enough?

on the other hand, when you're in bed...do you feel like you're plagerizing your own writing or the stories that you read? does your mind go back to that scene your wrote about or read and do you play it out like a part in a movie? does it ever make your sex life feel too plasticized?

feel free to answer as many or as few of the questions as you want....add more if you wish. the idea came to me while i was at work. anyway....discuss.

Here is a strange way to start the day but in the absence of the so-called early morning erection, where better to start?

Honestly? Some of my stories, early ones had something to do fantasies, mine naturally. One or two hark back to my teens and early twenties recalling things I did, things I might have done. A couple lament that I'm unlikely (at my age) ever to share the bed of woman barely out of her teens. Most of my writing celebrates the sexual love between a couple - which I suppose is where I'm firmly set - though occassionally one hankers, without any serious intent, for people and experiences I'm not going to enjoy.

Bit of both really. My writing improves my wifes sex life, which in turn improves mine, so I really can't complain. There are certain scenes even in most recent writing that are close to actual events, I have a partner intent on surprising me even after thirty odd years of marriage, a bout of impotency (mine) forced her to be resourceful at overcoming my 'little' problem - now that's devotion - and I really couldn't repay that by straying too far from the reality of our lives.

 

[JRaven]

"No, honey. Do it like this, 'cause that's how Fred in my story does it."
"Fuck Fred."
"I'd like to, but he's only fiction."


There have been occasions where I've requested a particular position to better describe it the next day in a story. So in that sense, a story can inspire what happens in real life.

Otherwise, being the sexual being that I am, when I write about sex I use my experiences to describe it. But, that's not to say that the situation in the story has anything to do with real life. Besides the sex, a story needs a reason to have sex. It's those reasons that are pure fiction. (although sometimes based on real life fantasies)

Jenny

 

[Kain__Thornn]

I sent a couple works to a female friend, she showed them to her boyfriend, they had mad sex. My writing inspires sex, just not for me.

 

[672]

Liquor. Liquor influences my stories.

And midget pr0n.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

No. My stories are fiction. They're about what happens to the characters, not what happens, or has happened, to me. At least, not directly about my experiences, anyway. At the same time, the stories I take seriously, and hence the ones I think of when answering these questions, aren't about sex, even when they do contain it, so my answer can easily be overlooked on those grounds.

Q_C

 

[Recidiva]

I write close to what I know, so I'd feel uncomfortable writing personalites I can't "think with" or positions I haven't even gotten close enough to so I know where stuff should go.

And since I have to feel it so that I think it's sexy, yeah, it does tend to look like...me and my husband over and over. Kinda a lot.

I can't help it, can't come up with much that I think is sexier than he is.

 

[Aurora Black]

I agree with Og & QC.

 

[Liar]

Well, episodes and details form my life and sex life have ended up in my stories. But they are not the main theme, merely details that I have experienced, which makes them easy for me to describe and therefore easy to incorporate in writing. Other details are things I have read, seen on TV or heard people talk about. Yey others are stuff I just make up.

The only thing that really influence my sex is the person I'm with.

So, when it comes down to it, nope, on both accounts.

 

[artisticbiguy]

I don't write autobiography, I write fiction...

that said, however, I do pull from real life for my stories, character personality quirks, events, remarks, etc. Some things are completely made up, others are born from one snippet from real life. The funniest thing is that the things most people think are the furthest "out there" as far as funny or bordering on unrealistic are the snippets I do pull from real life (sexual or otherwise). I think that if authors don't pull from real life, what they observe, what they learn, whom they meet, then their characters and the events surrounding them become two dimensional... not to mention, wooden dialogue.

Like an artist trying to draw an erotic human form... if he hasn't actually seen and studied an erotic human being, he can't do the creation any justice... Authors have the same requirement. To breath life into characters, to make them more real, an author must experience life (no, not specifically the events happening to the characters).

 

[3113]

I don't write autobiography, I write fiction...

Damn. Scratch that request to ABG for old video tapes

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Here is a strange way to start the day but in the absence of the so-called early morning erection, where better to start?

Honestly? Some of my stories, early ones had something to do fantasies, mine naturally. One or two hark back to my teens and early twenties recalling things I did, things I might have done. A couple lament that I'm unlikely (at my age) ever to share the bed of woman barely out of her teens. Most of my writing celebrates the sexual love between a couple - which I suppose is where I'm firmly set - though occassionally one hankers, without any serious intent, for people and experiences I'm not going to enjoy.

Bit of both really. My writing improves my wifes sex life, which in turn improves mine, so I really can't complain. There are certain scenes even in most recent writing that are close to actual events, I have a partner intent on surprising me even after thirty odd years of marriage, a bout of impotency (mine) forced her to be resourceful at overcoming my 'little' problem - now that's devotion - and I really couldn't repay that by straying too far from the reality of our lives.

I just so respect this response... had to be said...

and I feel much the same... "My writing improves my wifes sex life, which in turn improves mine" -- I could have written this, just swap husband for wife He gets a personal reading of almost every story I write... we reserve it for after the kids are in bed and we're almost ready to close everything up for the night... he says he's a lucky man, but I'm really the lucky one...

and most of my stuff is fiction, although sometimes he will recognize himself in something and blush *grin* I love that...

and in some sense, my stories each have a piece of me in them, fiction or not...

 

[3113]

when you write erotica, do you feel as though you're writing autobiographical accounts without meaning to (or perhaps it IS intentional)?

Well, no. Especially if I write up gay erotica. I am so missing out on that score.

Or, for that matter, when I write a story/sex scene from the male's p.o.v.

Thing is, I write for myself, what turns me on to think about, to watch, or yes, to do. But I keep in mind that I'm not writing just for myself. Otherwise, you'd get my favorite things over and over again, rather than some variety in position and action. I don't, for example, make all my characters writers by profession, nor do I make them all like seseme seed bagels or tart lemonade like I do. So why should they all have sex the way I do? I try to fit the sex to the character. What would they like and what serves the story. That, IMHO, is what matters

 

[AchtungNight]

Thing is, I write for myself, what turns me on to think about, to watch, or yes, to do. But I keep in mind that I'm not writing just for myself. Otherwise, you'd get my favorite things over and over again, rather than some variety in position and action. I don't, for example, make all my characters writers by profession, nor do I make them all like seseme seed bagels or tart lemonade like I do. So why should they all have sex the way I do? I try to fit the sex to the character. What would they like and what serves the story. That, IMHO, is what matters

I do this too. 8)

 

[kiwiwolf]

A lot of my past sex life appears in my stories while some of the things I've written about have inspired some wild events.

 

[deathlynx]

For me it is certainly not autobiographical...it would certainly be more appropriate to say that much of my writing contains my fantasies, things I would like to happen or to have happened in my life...Sometimes it's only small parts of a story (or occasionally none at all) but often it's much of the story...

To be honest most of the stories I've written have been for my wife...So many of them have almost an implication of the two of us...

 

[Boota]

I've done pretty much everything I've ever wanted to do as it occurred to me, so I would say every sex scene I've written has been autobiographical to that extent. But since it's fiction the setting or the characters will change.

Sometimes.

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

I write what I've done.

 

[fifty5]

My problem is plots.

The result is that autobiographical details that didn't lead to sex did lead to fantasies, which means plots or scenarios - and so to writing. Every one of my submissions so far fit that 'didn't happen' autobiographical model.

The next one might not. Someone PMed me instead of posting a PC and included a suggestion for a scenario. Wrestling that into something with which I can identify intrigues me...