Does your SO support/understand your interest in Srp/rp.?

[Alana_]

I know this has probably been done before, but I can't find it if so..So bare with me. Moderators feel free to merge if there is already a thread in the library. Thank you.



I for one am blessed that my husband doesn't mind..

While he was a bit threatened in the first few months and liked to visit via my account on my first site from time to time and read, he's not visited the site in a long time..He also knows about Lit, and is comfortable, so long as I'm careful with whom I chose to talk to offsite.
I suppose the fact he knows I've no issue if he does want to visit helps, and that nothings hidden from him.
I don't think he understands how much I love writing, esp erotica, but he doesn't complain, and when I write a story, * been a while now* he often reads it for me before I'd post.
Thankfully also, he , like me, doesn't differentiate between roleplaying and writing , once it stays on the public forum. I treat my roleplaying posts with as much attention and thought as I would devote to any story in the making.

Does your SO support, or know, about your writing on Lit?

 

[Ryo242]

I have no SO, but if I were to somehow gain one I would more than likely wean myself off of Lit. Unless they were interested as well, and then I'd stick around.

Personally I think that writing any form of story with someone else is about the same as writing by yourself. Sexual or non, it's just a game to me. I know some people might take heavy offense to that, but I'm not them and I don't think of things too seriously. Some things are more like a game than others, and writing is just how well you can play the scenario and scenes, make the characters believable and alive, and how well you get the ideas across.

If I couldn't get my SO to understand this, than they probably wouldn't be all that compatible with me, ne?

 

[Alana_]

Thank you Ryo..Excellent reply, and I totally get it. My views on the fun in rp would be like yours..It's fun, entertaining, and if I happen to make a friend out of it, and I do mean a friend, not a ' friend' I have to hide, then wonderful.


Thank you for answering so soon Ryo.

 

[Jewelskye]

Neither of my men mind that I am into srp. RP is what brought me together with one, and the other rps with me from time to time, online and in the bedroom. Both of them are very supportive of my hobbies, even this one, because they know it's a way for me to vent or escape when the stress gets to be too much. They also realize that no matter how much I enjoy rping... they're the ones in my bed at the end of the day. I'm an incredibly lucky girl to have them both.

 

[Ryo242]

Thank you Ryo..Excellent reply, and I totally get it. My views on the fun in rp would be like yours..It's fun, entertaining, and if I happen to make a friend out of it, and I do mean a friend, not a ' friend' I have to hide, then wonderful.


Thank you for answering so soon Ryo.

I appreciate your understanding, and knowing that you seek a friend instead of a "friend" is very insightful and helpful for most people to know.

I am more of the type that seeks "a special someone" over regular friends, but will accept people as they come.

I also apologize for my putting you off earlier. I did have prior engagements and I do like to stick with them.

 

[Alana_]

I appreciate your understanding, and knowing that you seek a friend instead of a "friend" is very insightful and helpful for most people to know.

I am more of the type that seeks "a special someone" over regular friends, but will accept people as they come.

I also apologize for my putting you off earlier. I did have prior engagements and I do like to stick with them.

Oh Ryo, dont worry. It takes a lot more than something like that to offend me..You did have the manners to post and explain, so please dont worry.Thank you though. It's very kind of you.

 

[Alana_]

Neither of my men mind that I am into srp. RP is what brought me together with one, and the other rps with me from time to time, online and in the bedroom. Both of them are very supportive of my hobbies, even this one, because they know it's a way for me to vent or escape when the stress gets to be too much. They also realize that no matter how much I enjoy rping... they're the ones in my bed at the end of the day. I'm an incredibly lucky girl to have them both.

I would imagine they are pretty lucky to have you with them.!

I always love a little insight into the names of the people I see visiting.

So thank you for sharing your thoughts.

 

[Light Ice]

My girlfriend is a young, possessive, capable, beautiful, and fiery young woman whom likes very little the thought of sharing my attention or affection. But I am fortunate in that she does not find Lit any competition. She reads my threads, likes some of my cowriters, and openly expresses whether a thread turns her on at any given moment. It's the best outcome from the whole thing.

This is mostly because of the person she is. Somewhat because of the person I am.

We've an honest relationship, one that's become central to the way I live my life. She knows that I have a voracious sexual appetite and an equally voracious one for fiction and literature. It's a natural marriage of the two for me to play here. But what is most important, I think, is that she is a confident and capable woman who understands that she has everything to offer a man. She doesn't allow herself to feel threatened by faceless strangers and erotic literature.

She supports me in my writing here. And in the adult romance novel I've started writing in my spare time. So, really, I'm very fortunate all around.

But a bit of it is my approach and the way I am with her. We both understand that cheating is something you cannot stop, whether you'd care to or not. Men and women cheat for various reasons, none of them ever say 'it's because my spouse let me get away with it" when they are caught. People do what they care to do. Neither of us drive ourselves crazy worrying about it.

I do my part, though, to make sure she doesn't feel neglected. I invite her into the stories, she has an open invite to write with me if she ever cares to. (And we have written erotic things together before). I share them with her. And away from Lit, entirely, I make sure she feels paid attention to, loved, and her needs are met. We've a very healthy relationship because we both put forward this kind of effort and attention into our relationship.

 

[BrazenFellow]

I have a similar woman to Light Ice; she is aware I write for LitErotica and SRP on LitErotica's forums. She is not threatened and the only caveat is that I copy down my RPs or writings and give them to her to read for her own enjoyment: she particularly enjoyed two of my past SRPs. It's not so much a caveat as just something she'd prefer I do so she doesn't have to do it herself, really. I sometimes treat her with things written specifically for her, and we have written things for each other in the past and frequently SRP via IM programs (fancy way of saying cybersex, really). Despite her open invitation to join me here she hasn't involved herself so far.

There have been times I've moderated myself on Lit with the thought: "Is this something I'm willing to explain to her at the end of the day if she should ask me about it?"

 

[Rayne_Clowd]

My husband actually found literotic for me to roleplay on, after he noticed my roleplay on other sites had a more romantic edge or seductive nature to them then the other writers I use to play with. He enjoys reading my stories and sees lit as an outlet for my creativity and sexual fantasies. He quite regularly browses the boards and has a read, and then we work off stimulation together *grins*

I am also open with anyone I get close to on lit, they know of my husband and my daughter and know I am not here seeking "the one." it is also written in my profile for anyone who chooses to look there. I think honesty is the key ......I am open and honest with my husband he has his own account so browses when ever he sees fit, although he usually only wants to know when things have gotten juicy and he goes and reads that then cave mans me off to the bedroom. (okay not quite cave mans but its still a funny image)