Does She Feel His Molten Lava?

[dr_mabeuse]

A question for the women: what do you feel when a man ejaculates inside you?
It's another cliche in porn that the woman always feels the man's molten lava &c. &c., and I'd like to know if that's true or even possible. I've had different women give me different descriptions. Some say they can feel the man throb, some say no.

---dr.M.

 

[Whispersecret]

Maybe other women are more sensitive than I am, but I don't feel anything. What tells me my husband is coming are sounds, the rictus of his entire body, or sometimes the extra slickness, which robs me of some of the friction.

 

[flawed_ethics]

This question deserves to be bumped up until answered. I think it's a great question.

It's often read in erotic literature* that women feel the man's white-hot jizz spilling (splashing, pulsing, firing, oozing, erupting, etc...) into them. Anal sex too. But do women (or those who take it up the ass) feel that ejaculation within them? Is it strong, pronounced, noticible, weak or non-existent?

As I may actually finish a story before the year's end, I'd like to know as well. Not that I don't think it spruces up a story. But overusing it might turn certain readers off who scoff at the idea. (Hey, not to hi-jack the thread, but if you think it's over/underused in stories as well, fill us in!)

* (or at least those I read - can't speak much of my tastes)

 

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

Twitching and throbbing yes, sometimes. Actual ejaculation, no.
Wicked

 

[Ms.M]

Molten lava...no i think that might be fatal

The rest of my answer will be a big fat, depends on the circumstances. If he come's guickly i will feel a throbbing or twitching, if it lasts a long time, i am to slick and don't feel anything, as for the ejaculations, no. I can tell when he is coming more by his body reactions than acutually feeling his sperm.

 

[Diane Marie]

Most of the time I do know when a man is about to come, that being more by the actions of his body then any feeling in my vagina. Like Ms.M, I also have a lack of feeling immediately after he ejaculates. For most men that is about it, end game. For the few that can continue the feeling increases again after a short time.

Maybe there are some women who feel a man ejaculate, but I seriously doubt, any feel it the way so many men write about the experience.

As far as the oozing, flawed_ethics, I feel it oozing down the crack of my ass, not the most comfortable feeling, especially after he’s softened.

 

[Pookie]

"I feel his cock jerking deep inside my body, filling me with his thick hot sperm. "

That is a quote from one of my stories. I can feel the throbbing and jerking if he is having a rather intense orgasm. I don't actually feel his cum ejaculating in me though. I just know from the jerking/throbbing feeling of his cock that he is filling me with his cum. Normally I already know he is cumming because of other physical things he does and also his verbal reaction.

 

[TheEarl]

If a woman says she can feel your cum, then she's just being nice. She may be able to feel you cum, but she won't be able to feel your semen, simply because women don't have nerves there. If they did, then childbirth would be too painful and women would die of shock.

The Earl

 

[dr_mabeuse]

This is kind of as I thought. Another porno myth.

Earl, I appreciate the anatomical viewpoint, but when it comes to sex, medical science is the last place I would go for answers. If you'll remember, it wasn't that long ago that doctors 'knew' that the woman didn't feel any pleasure during sex, that the female orgasm was a myth, and that masturbation caused mental disease.
Ands isn't the mouth of the vagina supplied with a lot of nerves?

Anyhow, it is such a nice myth, and provides such a dramatic finish to a sex scene, that I doubt I will abandon it in my writing.

But you know, it makes me think that if this isn't true, then there is no dramatic finish to a woman's experince of sex. Is it true then that if a woman doesn't orgasm, then she's at the same state of arousal when the man finishes as she was when they started? No wonder after-sex cuddling is such a big thing!

---dr.M.

 

[TheEarl]

Dr M: Lol, I think you can trust me on this one though. There are a lot of nerves at the mouth of the vagina, but none go more than 3 inches in. This is why a man with a 3 inch penis can give a woman as much pleasure as a man with the same technique and a 9 inch penis.

Its an anatomical thing, rather than a doctor's theorising thing. If there were nerves there then it would literally be impossible to survive pregnancy.

Thinking about what you say with after-sex cuddling, I know lots of women who prefer prolonged foreplay after sex, rather than before.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

vagina speaks

Dr M: Lol, I think you can trust me on this one though. There are a lot of nerves at the mouth of the vagina, but none go more than 3 inches in. This is why a man with a 3 inch penis can give a woman as much pleasure as a man with the same technique and a 9 inch penis.

Its an anatomical thing, rather than a doctor's theorising thing. If there were nerves there then it would literally be impossible to survive pregnancy.

Thinking about what you say with after-sex cuddling, I know lots of women who prefer prolonged foreplay after sex, rather than before.

The Earl

Earl,
The next time you have a pap smear, let me know if you "feel anything".

There are a WHOLE LOT of nerves in the cervix... some women like to be "bumped", others, not so much.

The myth about women not having nerves above the first three inches was invented my a man who didn't want to feel guilty about her not coming or the pain of childbirth.

This being said, I echo the sentiments of my sisters. The moments before ejaculation I can feel him swell up larger... that's really good... and that's about all that's different.

I don't think any "feeling" goes on because the pressure of ejaculation isn't significant in comparison to the bumping and pushing of the penis. The only way I can conceive (ha) of a "feeling" happening is if the cum was significantly colder or hotter than the internal tissues. The testes do a good job of moderating temperature, so I don't think this is ever likely to happen.

I am really annoyed when I read of women "feeling his seed filling her", or any other variation. Women writers are just as guilty. I understand the satisfaction of "knowing that his seed is fillng her".

Regarding the post male orgasm feelings... Aren't women supposed to cum first before intercourse? That way whether she makes it back over the peak again isn't as critical? If I never made it over the peak it isn't snuggling I'd be after.... There's more than one way to skin a cat...

b

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Re: vagina speaks

Regarding the post male orgasm feelings... Aren't women supposed to cum first before intercourse? That way whether she makes it back over the peak again isn't as critical? If I never made it over the peak it isn't snuggling I'd be after.... There's more than one way to skin a cat...

b

Damn! Thank you Bridget!

I've learned more about women's experience of sex in 2 months on this board than I think I have in the all my previous wonderings.

I was curious about this because I was thinking: nature rewards men for planting their seed by giving them the big O. Wouldn't it have made natural sense then that women should be rewarded when they "accept" it? But I guess nature works in mysterious ways.

On the other hand I have been with a number of women who got this wonderful sexy & satisfied smile when I came. I thought it had something to do with their feeling it. Now I've got to face the fact that they were probably smiling because they knew that at last I'd be getting off of them.

---dr.M.

 

[Whispersecret]

Dr. M, actually my sexy, satisfied smile afterward is more because I like being able to please my man. Sort of like, "Yeah, WS, that was good work. You made him happy."

 

[deliciously_naughty]

I don't actually feel him cum. I can tell because of the way the rest of his body is reacting, but I don't actually feel cum explode, rush, etc into my body.

However Earl...I've got to tell you. A man with a 4 inch penis does NOT give me as much pleasure as a man with an inch penis. I can tell how big the cock inside me is and how filled my pussy is. I definitely have nerves further in than 3 inches...and like Bridget said...YOU have a pap smear done sometime and try repeating that. I like being filled and a man with a small dick just doesn't fill me enough for my liking. Sorry.

 

[Ms.M]

Vagina size

Since this post has taken a new direction, I thought a little experiment might be in order. Remember this was for scientific research only and nothing else

I have never measured my vagina before, but i think i have a reasonably good idea of its size from dealing with menstrual products and sex. So out of curiousity I decided to do a little poking around to see if i could figure it out.

My conclusions and this is me, who knows about anyone else...in its unstretched state it is about the length of my finger, this kind of surprised me, i thought it was longer than that.

other things i discovered is that my vagina seems to be deeper at the back of my cervix than the front.

I am sure this is not a scientific measurement, and i know i can push further into my vagina, and i can fit every penis i have come across so far....so i know it can stretch from the length of my finger to at least around 8 inches..how far it can stretch is probably irrelevent since its been very accomodating so far.


The width is hard to describe, its very elastic..it closes shut when not held open, how wide it can stretch i am not sure but i would guess the length of my hand. My pussy feels stretched when it is opened wider than two fingers or so.

So I am wondering if the difference of opinion on nerves and such is more a result of the vagina being a very stretchy thing and changes size from when it is at rest and when it is occupied


Ms M.

 

[Diane Marie]

Re: vagina speaks

Earl,
The next time you have a pap smear, let me know if you "feel anything".

There are a WHOLE LOT of nerves in the cervix... some women like to be "bumped", others, not so much.

The myth about women not having nerves above the first three inches was invented my a man who didn't want to feel guilty about her not coming or the pain of childbirth.

This being said, I echo the sentiments of my sisters. The moments before ejaculation I can feel him swell up larger... that's really good... and that's about all that's different.

I don't think any "feeling" goes on because the pressure of ejaculation isn't significant in comparison to the bumping and pushing of the penis. The only way I can conceive (ha) of a "feeling" happening is if the cum was significantly colder or hotter than the internal tissues. The testes do a good job of moderating temperature, so I don't think this is ever likely to happen.

I am really annoyed when I read of women "feeling his seed filling her", or any other variation. Women writers are just as guilty. I understand the satisfaction of "knowing that his seed is fillng her".

Regarding the post male orgasm feelings... Aren't women supposed to cum first before intercourse? That way whether she makes it back over the peak again isn't as critical? If I never made it over the peak it isn't snuggling I'd be after.... There's more than one way to skin a cat...

b

Diane Marie stands up and cheers. So very well said!

 

[TheEarl]

You realise of course that I have no idea what a pap smear is.

I stand corrected. I thought that (from surgery and research) that women didn't actually have nerves further than 3 inches in. Obviously not.

The Earl

 

[Lili]

Originally posted by TheEarl
But you know, it makes me think that if this isn't true, then there is no dramatic finish to a woman's experince of sex. Is it true then that if a woman doesn't orgasm, then she's at the same state of arousal when the man finishes as she was when they started? No wonder after-sex cuddling is such a big thing!
...
You realise of course that I have no idea what a pap smear is.

I stand corrected. I thought that (from surgery and research) that women didn't actually have nerves further than 3 inches in. Obviously not.

The Earl

Hi Earl,
No, I can't feel when a man ejaculates inside of me. Like the other ladies have said, I know that he has because of the other physiological changes in his body (breathing, movement etc.), but not by any internal feeling.

In response to the first part I quoted above ("there is no dramatic finish to a woman's experince of sex") um, isn't her orgasm the dramatic finish? And as someone else said, if she hasn't come before you, you damn well better make sure she comes afterward, or you're right, she will still be "at the same state of arousal when the man finishes as she was when they started".

As for a pap smear, it is a necessary, yet painful, test most women endure at least annually in which their vagina is forced open with a metal instrument, and cells are scraped from the mouth of the cervix with a wooden stick. I find it horribly painful and gross, but I figure it's better than dying of cancer.

Lili

(crossing her legs at the mere thought of it!)

 

[soulnovicaine]

angles and trajectory

Id imagine the reason that most women dont feel the actual "gushing or spalshing, etc." of the ejaculation is simply because of angles.

Logically if the head was pressed firmly against the roof or walls of the vagina, you can't help but to feel something, a pressure, if nothing else.

now... when a man is cumming, chances are that angle is either going to be physiologically impossible, or just that he is too engrossed in either pleasuring her or himself to worry about it. Stroking up and down the length of the vagina seems to be signifiantly more pleasureable for both than jabbing the walls, hehe...

so next time if you (male of female) rilly want to experiment to find out, just before he cums, press his head against a wall and have at it..

.joey.

 

[Quasimodem]

... so next time if you (male of female) rilly want to experiment to find out, just before he cums, press his head against a wall and have at it...joey.

Ever make love in a short bed?

Ended up, we both banged our heads against the wall, really hard!

Before we were through, it had definitely made an impression on both of us.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

You realise of course that I have no idea what a pap smear is.

I stand corrected. I thought that (from surgery and research) that women didn't actually have nerves further than 3 inches in. Obviously not.

The Earl

I've heard something like this before, except it was that the first FOUR inches were much more sensitive. It might have been designed to make smaller men feel more confident, however. It was said repeatedly on Loveline (Dr. Drew) that a man over four inches shouldn't worry about size for this reason.
Naturally, most men, including myself, concern ourselves anyway.

Originally posted by deliciously_naughty
A man with a 4 inch penis does NOT give me as much pleasure as a man with an inch penis. I can tell how big the cock inside me is and how filled my pussy is...I like being filled and a man with a small dick just doesn't fill me enough for my liking. Sorry.

And speaking as someone with such insecurities, you could have shown a little sensitivity here. We're well aware that bigger will always be better, but no one is perfect, and frankly, no one deserves perfect in another.
Consider your own imperfections before you put down others for thiers...

 

[soulnovicaine]

: titters : @ quasi...


.joey.

 

[wildsweetone]

that would be one way of getting a Servery Quasi.... the ol' hole in the wall trick takes on an entire new meaning. is that the origin for the headache reason i wonder...?

as for why we can't feel men's sperm as it leaves the penis to land inside our vagina... i would have a guess at it being more to do with the heat of the sperm.

if the sperm is at body temp, then when it touches the vagina there is no noticable difference as the two things are the same temperature. make sense?

 

[Quasimodem]

... It was said repeatedly on Loveline (Dr. Drew) that a man over four inches shouldn't worry about size for this reason....

Of course, THEY were discussing WIDTH!

A man should NEVER abandon his insecurities about his dickage. It is part of what being a man is all about, like farting and spitting.

 

[Madame Manga]

And speaking as someone with such insecurities, you could have shown a little sensitivity here. We're well aware that bigger will always be better, but no one is perfect, and frankly, no one deserves perfect in another.
Consider your own imperfections before you put down others for thiers...

And how was that a putdown? No one was aiming it at you in particular. Here, let's put it in mathematical terms.

If a vagina is size X and a penis is size Y, the amount of detectable tissue stretching might be expressed as:

S=XY

Therefore, a penis size (Y+1) gives a greater value for S, and a penis size (Y-1) does the opposite.

I know, the universe is cruel. ;-) But a man has much more equipment available to him than the sum of what he keeps in his shorts. Here is another equation:

fO=(XYCaMiF) to the power of B

fO--female orgasm
Ca--clitoral awareness
M--mouth
iF--index finger
B--brain

fO is always less than infinity, by the way, so "perfect" is not an attainable result. Use your head, as the formula says...

MM