Does good sex make you feel more giving to your partner?

[VeryBadGirl]

The other night my man and I had great sex - among other things, I had him on his knees and was just all up his backside getting things very wet and juicy. Then I flipped him over, impaled myself and rode for a while (which was GREAT). Then I settled in for the grand finale - sucked him like a vacuum til he was almost crying, then shot his cum all over my tits.

BUT ON TO THE POINT OF THE THREAD - afterward, he held me so close, told me we should go out for breakfast in the morning, that he would install my new video card ASAP, that he would take the kids to school, that a new leather jacket wasn't an unreasonable request after all, and who says that you can't go to the beach twice in a month.



I never feel this way - I am happy and I might feel and act extra nice toward him, but I don't feel like doing anything (tangible) for him because of good sex.

Is it a guy thing? Does anybody else get like this?

 

[Guest]

You are a very bad girl.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I dont know about you, or anyone else for that matter. I find that I am more giving sexually after having good sex and I remember it the next time. If it was good, then I should be rather pleased as well as he should. In which case (since my guess is he's done most of the work cuz I get bored easily from dong the same thing repeatedly), I give him a bit extra the next time. And if that means initiating the whole night and spend it paying attention to him or just doing something out of the ordinary (i.e. handcuffs) for me.

I think the answer to your question will change from person to person though since no two people have the exact same preferences.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

W&S - see, that's my point. I'm like you - reciprocate in a like manner, either sexually or just affectionately. I just don't feel like running out and buying him something.

 

[Angelofsex]

I have to agreed with you. If I recieved good sex, I would want to do the same for my partner. You have to be happy and warm inside to give it in return, and give it good too.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I've found that some people are that way. They find that giving (or getting) material things is what would make them feel better. And those people also dont usually realize how much that isnt true for everyone.

My friend, for example, told me last night she would rather be out clothes shopping than doing anything else. That makes her happy. So if that's what she wants to do, then great for her. I would rather stay in with someone and watch a movie all cuddled up close and everything. I prefer being physically close to someone sometimes. That's what makes me happy.

The same goes for guys. Yours just may be looking for a way to tell you that you've made him really happy and those are the things he's thinking of because he knows you want them, even though you dont have to have them to be happy. He may decide later on to reciprocate with sex but that thought may have been hiding from him while he said all the other things. I have a feeling if I had an experience like you did with him, I'd say just about anything too.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

The same goes for guys. Yours just may be looking for a way to tell you that you've made him really happy and those are the things he's thinking of because he knows you want them, even though you dont have to have them to be happy. He may decide later on to reciprocate with sex but that thought may have been hiding from him while he said all the other things. I have a feeling if I had an experience like you did with him, I'd say just about anything too.

YOU ARE RIGHT! We've discussed this before - I like presents, he likes extra-niceness. So I guess we're doing the right thing!

(now, where's my new leather?)

 

[bknight2602]

I agree you tend to do more things if you really enjoyed yourself.

It is a sign of gratitude and wanting to please, wanting more form the relationship.

 

[lilrosie lips]

It wouldn't make me necessarily more giving of presents (I do have a budget), but it does make me more affectionate, loving, horny and ready to give back in kind. And if it's REALLY REALLY REALLY good I might even be tempted to cook a special dinner(big emphazies on the might).

 

[binkley]

What will he say when it wears off?

 

[cutie pie]

Great sex is great sex and deserves an extra "Thank You" afterwards. I don't know that getting it is going to make me go out of my way to do "nice" things for my partner. Hopefully, I'm already doing that and giving him special attention. Nor do I expect special treatment from him.

Part of my logic here, however, comes from my relationship with my ex-spouse - there came a time that whenever I wanted to make a major purchase for myself (which wasn't often and wasn't unreasonable) I found that I had to trade sexual favors in order to get him to fork over the money. It was cute the first time it happened. When I noticed a trend. . .well, we're not married anymore so you get the picture.

 

[takingchances42]

I would reverse it, and say that being giving in a relationship is what leads to better sex. And that the best kinds of giving aren't about material things at all...

 

[VeryBadGirl]

I agree with all of you. One should not EXPECT anything.

Let me rephrase my question:

Have you ever had a sexual experience that put you in a (maybe uncharacteristic) deliriously generous mood? The kind of mood that makes you want to send flowers or jewelry. Even if that mood passes.

THAT'S the mood my man was in - it was fleeting, believe me. I skipped breakfast as usual, it was his turn to take the kids anyway, we did not go to the beach, he put in my new video card about 4 days later, and I ain't got no new coat.

Have you ever fallen in love because of a great sexual experience? Or thought you had? (After the age of 18 )

 

[juicylips]

I would reverse it, and say that being giving in a relationship is what leads to better sex. And that the best kinds of giving aren't about material things at all...

From the title of the thread I thought that was the point.

I don't feel like giving of material things. If he is fucktastic in bed, then I want to give him everything I can right back...in a fuckalicious manner. It makes me want to please and pleasure.

JL