Does anyother mommys have this problem?

[Wet_Lady]

k ... I have two children.


My hubby won't go down on me He said he feel's "weird" after seeing me give birth.

Does anyone else have this problem? I want him to go "downtown" so bad but he won't do it.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

well, i dont have children but i'm facing a similar problem. my boy knows how much i want him to go down on me, but he wont do it cuz of a past bad experience with giving oral.

the only thing i can think to do anymore that's even remotely encouraged him is that i dont give either. i gave a few times (our bit of foreplay is really different from what everyone else considers foreplay) and he says he really enjoys getting a blow job from me (he even said i'm the only one to have ever gotten him to cum from a bj). anyways, he's warmed up to the idea a lot since i quit giving, and i backed off on wanting sex so much too.

i mention it from time to time, but i dont beg, and i dont try to force him either. i think its just something that will take some time to get to.

 

[lissalynn]

This is why I won't let my husband stand below my waist when I finally deliver. There is no way in hell I'm giving that up!
I don't really know myself, but from what i've read is that now that part of your body has a purpose other than pleasure. It's not fun anymore, sort of. Good luck and I hope you find a solution!

 

[FdiskIt]

My wife has had 2 kids. I have no problem with going down on her. I have seen the kids come out at time of delivery. Everything is still the same after that. It must be a mental image that they need to get over. If he is still willing to have sex he should still be willing to go down on you. I also believe if one is willing to receive oral one should be willing to give it. Just my opinion though

 

[LordByron777]

Opposite Problem...

Hey I feel for you, just the opposite way. I LOVE going down on my wife and ask her to let me almost daily, but she won't. In 5 years of marriagae she's only let me twice. She said she enjoyed it each time but it was "too intense". I thought women were crazy for this, and I really want to... any suggestions?

 

[Ezzie]

My ex husband wouldn't go down on me no matter what and this was even before I gave birth. He claimed he was "afraid" of it. But, he sure wasn't afraid of me sticking my mouth around his dick and sucking.

 

[Cyberhound]

opposite problem as well

I also love going down on woman, but my wife doesn't want me to go down on her as well

 

[Rooster]

Has not stopped me a bit

 

[Laineforfun]

I am very sorry for you Wet_Lady that would really be hard. Thank goodness that has not been a problem for me. I have had 2 children and even lost one child and he still goes downtown on me, maybe even more now because I am more comfortable with myself. I hope you find a solution to your problem very soon. My heart goes out to you.

Laine

 

[surfboy]

Hey Wet Lady, Don't give up. Your not the only one to experience this. I can't believe I'm saying this, but I think you may be right in not going down on him and holding back. Please hear me out. Guys are easy. They always want what they can't have. By holding out, he will want to go down on you. When he does and finds out how great it is. it will reinforce that it's good to go down on you. Just make sure that it is an enjoyable experience for him. and if he should stop for some reason, tell him it's ok and start again in a bit. ( I just realized that sounds like the recipe for anal. anyway it's still valid.) Good luck to you. My wife has a friend that wont let her husband go down on her 'cause she don't like it. go figure.

 

[DreamingAngel]

I Agree that it's more a "mental" problem than a "physical" problem, you have no clue what's going through his mind when you ask him to go down on you, the images that he keeps seeing. Once he does it again and finds that everything is "normal" he'll be fine, getting him to do it is the hard part.

I also think, if you don't go down on him then he will eventually go down on you, how long that takes is beyond me, but it will happen one day.

As for those men who's wives don't like you going down on them, have you ever wondered what's going through her mind? I love my Significant other going down on me, but I don't let it happen that often for fear of smelling. I shower before we have sex most times, but I'm scared that one time or another I may smell, and by smell I mean sweaty, not my actual pussy smelling. It bothers me so much that I don't let him travel south very often.

Good luck to all that have problems, here's to hoping they work themselves out.

 

[liloleme]

Going South....

I actually heard a caller call in about this on Love Line last night.

It was a 21 year old guy who refused to go down on his girlfriend even though she would give him bj's all day long.

They pretty much told him, "You must give if you want to receive."

Anyway, about the comment of your woman not wanting you to go down on here. I'm one of those woman.

My man loves heading south, but I'm really hesitant to let him unless I'm really really horny.

The reason? Just like one of the posters said, it's too intense for me.

My boyfriend used to get really upset by it, getting insulted.

But it has nothing to do with him. My clit is just way too sensitive to handle a tongue lashing.

 

[Wet_Lady]

Thank You everyone ...

I am not going to force him to go down on me but I would really likle him to


I might hold out on giving him BJ's (but not tonight cause it's his birthday :lol and see how far that get's me.