Does anyone take online dating seriously?

[AchtungNight]

I live in Austin, Texas. I'm an eligible thirty year old guy with plenty of free time, money, and interests. Yet I am alone. I have been all my life. I've had relationships, but they've never gone anywhere. This disappoints me. It has been especially true of my online dating experiences. I've signed up with a couple sites in my time. The first gave me but one prospect, and she apparently decided she wasn't that into me because we had one date and that was it. I was on the site for over a year. The second site I just got on recently, and I get the impression that people are just there on a lark, exploring kinks and swinging. Not really into the kind of relationship I want. Of course, I'm still unsure exactly what that is. I think I'll be leaving the site in question soon.

On Lit, I have made many friends in the past three years. This is a good thing. I treasure my comrades here. If some compatible woman out there wants more from me than mere online friendship, that would be great too. With this post, I invite such women to drop me a PM and chat. They can get to know me through my post history and stories. I can't think of a better case to describe myself than the one my writings make. I also hope anyone I do get together with via the Internet would like who I am online, so why hide it?

If this goes nowhere, that's fine too. One gets used to being alone- even when one doesn't want to be.

 

[kittykatbc]

I am not looking to date. But I am here to tell you that plently of people meet on on-line dating. I met my partner on Plenty of Fish. I think that you have to go on a lot of dates and you will meet some interesting people; maybe some you never want to see again! LOL

I don't think that it much different than meeting people in a bar or where ever people meet this days. Write an add that honestly reflects who you are and what you want.

My husband to be and I found each other under intimate encouters. I found that most were looking sex but at least there were honest about it and they were the most fun to hang out with. Our first date lasted three dates and we are getting married in Sept.

Hang in there, it can and will happen.

 

[AchtungNight]

Thanks for the encouragement. We'll see where this leads.

To everyone else, there is an XXXblackbook profile with more information about me at this link:

http://www.xxxblackbook.com/?s=viewprofile&p_id=21656242

Enjoy.

 

[njgirl0863]

Please do not take this the wrong way, but maybe you are trying to hard? Also just like they say about women; good girls always fall for the bad boy... maybe just maybe you are in a pattern of picking the wrong type of woman for yourself.

As corny as it sounds; make a list... things that are a must in a woman ("A" list) things that you would significant but you could live with if you had to ("B" list) and those things you dream of but may never find ("C" list). Also make a list of qualities and traits that you definitely can not accept (for example; cigarette smoking, poor hygiene, or other things that you find objectionable).

Remember nobody is perfect, and sometimes we have to look inward before we look outward. Can you be honest and look at yourself to see if there is anything about yourself that others may find unacceptable or objectionable?

Just an outside point of view, hope this may help you a little bit... and as someone else mentioned, more likely than not.. you will not find the right person after dating one or two people; it may take dozens.

Good luck!

 

[AchtungNight]

Thanks for the advice. Two points to clarify:

1. I'm not contacting the wrong people. They're failing to contact me, or maintain our contact after the initial messages. I know what I want in a woman, it's not finding bad girls that's the problem here.

2. No offense, but I hate the expression "trying too hard". I've heard it all my life, and I still don't know what it means. If you don't try, you won't get anything. And different people require different efforts of trying. I don't think it's for any of us to say what's trying too hard and what isn't.

I put out my hook, with bait, same as I always do. So far it hasn't worked 100%. [shrugs] Oh well, maybe soon I will get something. I hope so. We'll see.

 

[AchtungNight]

Today I found out some people do take online dating seriously. Seriously enough to charge people several thousand dollars to be a member of their matchmaking service which features online profiles, videos, social events, background checks, the whole nine yards. I was impressed with them, and they with me, but I couldn't afford their services. Hope I can still find someone on my own.

 

[fiery_tongue]

Hi there,

The lady above mentioned plenty of fish and she's getting married.. hmmm pof is a free service!
I lack one element ... money and stability but I want to share something with you. I get at least one response a day from 18-23yo ladies and I am 47
I'm talking to girls all over the country and I've lost more than one opportunity simply because I couldn't strike while the iron was hot. It's tough filtering irls in that age range for emotional maturity.. that's my first criteria, but if you are looking in your age range you shouldn't have to worry about that.

Anyway enough blather. If you want help writing your profile or anything I'd be glad to help.. I've never played cupid before lol. Just put yourself out there and make the first move and keep making moves as long as they are interested. I assure you that you can find a fine lady that meets your needs and desires in a very short time.
www.plentyoffish.com

one word to the wise.. many 'good girls' have their profiles set to reject messagews from anyone who has messaged another for 'intimate encounter' so you might weigh your options before messaging a lady in that section.

Good luck and let me know if I can do anything to help.

 

[AchtungNight]

Thanks. I shall investigate this site and perhaps create a profile when I have time. Free is always good.

 

[princesssexci]

Not really looking either, but I think it depends on the girls frame of mind. Last year, I would have said no, online dating is a joke..due to my own experiences and the way I've treated guys, mostly because I'm an enormous flirt. Now, it's totally different because I have met a guy that is uber awesome here on lit. So in light of all that, I say don't give up.

 

[seflamaster]

YES YES YES!
As a bondage master I have trained a few online only. Used them online to do as I said.

 

[AchtungNight]

Ok, boosting this after many years. I haven’t changed that much, to be honest. I’m just back on the market.

I got married after meeting a wonderful woman on Yahoo Personals, it lasted almost ten years, then came divorce. Not going into all the reasons for that here. I have tried several different sites now that I’m ready to date again. No luck, or they all seem like money sinks with no prospects. That includes Plenty of Fish, unfortunately. Still trying Hinge right now, but that may be a scam too.

Oh well, I am not giving up. I’ll flirt with random strangers if I must, till I find someone willing to flirt back.

 

[AchtungNight]

A Lech must at times practice Thread Necromancy. It's a primary power.

 

[Escierto]

So the online dating DID work for you. After all you met someone that you married. If it worked once, it can work again.

 

[positiveflirt]

A friend of mine married someone he met on Tinder, and if he can do that anything is possible
Good luck!

 

[sensual69male]

I like online dating because it's very convenient and satisfying. I come home from work, take a shower, have dinner, relax and message my friend.. we masturbate together and it's what i like

 

[RachelWalsh]

Especially if it bleeds into the real world, it can become very real very quick.

 

[curvyjae]

Ok, boosting this after many years. I haven’t changed that much, to be honest. I’m just back on the market.

I got married after meeting a wonderful woman on Yahoo Personals, it lasted almost ten years, then came divorce. Not going into all the reasons for that here. I have tried several different sites now that I’m ready to date again. No luck, or they all seem like money sinks with no prospects. That includes Plenty of Fish, unfortunately. Still trying Hinge right now, but that may be a scam too.

Oh well, I am not giving up. I’ll flirt with random strangers if I must, till I find someone willing to flirt back.

I feel the pain you feel, although I’m in a rural area which makes it even harder to find anything online or real. All the dating apps are horrific and people are just

 

[AchtungNight]

So the online dating DID work for you. After all you met someone that you married. If it worked once, it can work again.

Yeah, I know, but I am still currently in the throes of loneliness.

Like CurvyJae, I am also in a rural area, although it is becoming more suburban. Dating Apps remain useless for me. I have put out various profiles, all thus far have only resulted in ignorance and rejection. They also seem full of demands for money I do not want to spend and possibly honeytrap chatbots or trolls seeking to make me spend more money on the apps instead of helping me find what I came for. If I can find a site without all this, that can actually help me, I would welcome it. Tinder is a site I have already tried, I am quickly losing faith in Hinge. I have also rejected Bumble, AFF, PoF, and others. Yahoo Personals and Craigslist Personals, which gave me success in the past, are defunct now. As for Lit, well, I've found friends there and a few readers for my writing. That makes it my favorite adult site on the Web. So here I return when I am feeling down.

 

[curvyjae]

Yeah, I know, but I am still currently in the throes of loneliness.

Like CurvyJae, I am also in a rural area, although it is becoming more suburban. Dating Apps remain useless for me. I have put out various profiles, all thus far have only resulted in ignorance and rejection. They also seem full of demands for money I do not want to spend and possibly honeytrap chatbots or trolls seeking to make me spend more money on the apps instead of helping me find what I came for. If I can find a site without all this, that can actually help me, I would welcome it. Tinder is a site I have already tried, I am quickly losing faith in Hinge. I have also rejected Bumble, AFF, PoF, and others. Yahoo Personals and Craigslist Personals, which gave me success in the past, are defunct now. As for Lit, well, I've found friends there and a few readers for my writing. That makes it my favorite adult site on the Web. So here I return when I am feeling down.

There aren’t words for how much I miss Craigslist personals.