Does a Lit Person truly care about how credible they appear?

[Mia62]

Reading through all of the responses in jl's thread about how one loses their credibility based upon individual perceptions...do you think that anyone really cares if they are viewed as credible? DCL mentioned that it is virtually impossible to lose credibility here, because no one really cares for long periods of time (I paraphrased, DCL...I hope you don't mind). What do you think? You all spoke up to how others lose their credibility in YOUR eyes...do you care if you are credible in THEIR eyes?

 

[SilvaTungDevil]

Oh my. I'm feeling bloatesque. Must have been something I ate.


Edit: Oops, wrong thread. sorry.

 

[intrigued]

Not really.
It depends on what one is looking for from their experience here. Being as it is difficult to prove very much in this venue, I don't really feel a need to prove anything at all.
You either take it or you leave it.

 

[Mia62]

Being as it is difficult to prove very much in this venue, I don't really feel a need to prove anything at all.
You either take it or you leave it.

But at one point...you, as well as me and others, really DID care, did you not?

 

[Guest]

I liked DCL's post. I know, I said that....

But I think it's split. Good people do care and always will. Others will not, and may view their time here as less than important. Galm summed it up nicely - those people will never realize what a wonderful thing Lit is, and the joys it can bring to them.

 

[Lancecastor]

The whole concept of LitCred is just another CliqueControl mechanism....Americans love discussing, assessing and tearing down people based on their ephemeral whims of what constitutes "popularity".

"It's your thing, do what you wanna do. I can't tell ya, who to sock it to."

 

[JazzManJim]

Of course, most people care.

It's the basic nature of a social creature to care how they are perceived by the others around them. Humans are no different at all.

Whether someone cares here how they are perceived depends on how they vew Lit itself. If they view it as a gathering of (mostly) real people with real thoughts then they'll care. If they view it as less than that then they won't.

Most folks view it as the former. A few view it as the latter. It's those people, by and large, who tend to treat Lit as the sandbox into which they can piss freely without having to account for their actions. And as a bonus, they can find a few people who find their pissing endearing. There's no downside for them there.

The majority treat Lit just as any other community and yes, their reputations matter to them inside that community.

 

[lobito]

obviously not

 

[bknight2602]

I care what others thik about me, unless they are trashing me as some have.

 

[Mia62]

Americans love discussing, assessing and tearing down people based on their ephemeral whims of what constitutes "popularity".

Is it really about popularity though, Lance?? I know that I am not popular...but there are times when I do want to appear credible. That has nothing to do with belonging or popularity in my view...more along the lines of I believe what I am saying at that point is important and I would like to be heard.

 

[Guest]

Love your sig line, JMJ.

 

[Mia62]

obviously not

Can you expand upon that?

 

[intrigued]

But at one point...you, as well as me and others, really DID care, did you not?

Yeah, I did, but it didn't really work out did it?
At this point, I'd like to be seen a certain way (thoughtful, respectful, contributing something from time to time) but I don't know how one does much more than that.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[lobito]

Can you expand upon that?

I think it's clear that some people at Lit don't really care how others see them, as long as they see them.

I'm on heavy drugs right now, I don't know how to explain any more than that.

 

[Mia62]

Yeah, I did, but it didn't really work out did it?
At this point, I'd like to be seen a certain way (thoughtful, respectful, contributing something from time to time) but I don't know how one does much more than that.

I am not sure if it did work out or not...I guess that is in the eye of the beholder...and people hate to put themselves out their to be assessed - good or bad.

For what it's worth...your last pm to me was saved and appreciated...but that doesn't mean that we will ever be friends...do I care? do you care? probably not...but at least we can both coexist in a peaceful manner.

 

[busybody..]

I dont!

Not that I intentionally want to annoy or hurt people......

But I note that most ATTACT me without reading/understanding what I write.......

Thus, I say FUCK IT!

 

[JazzManJim]

Is it really about popularity though, Lance?? I know that I am not popular...but there are times when I do want to appear credible. That has nothing to do with belonging or popularity in my view...more along the lines of I believe what I am saying at that point is important and I would like to be heard.

There's a distinct difference between being popular and being credible. It's possible to be unpopular, but quite credible. It's the difference between people liking you and people believing you.

In my own observation, Mia, you have it just the opposite. Quite a few people genuinely seem to like you - far more than you give yourself credit for. You may be one of the more liked people I've ever seen here at Lit. But you're not widely believed.

 

[Lancecastor]

Is it really about popularity though, Lance?? I know that I am not popular...but there are times when I do want to appear credible. That has nothing to do with belonging or popularity in my view...more along the lines of I believe what I am saying at that point is important and I would like to be heard.

Hanns and Killer Muffin could say the same words in different threads on the same topic and I guarantee you there would be sharply different reactions.

Popularity.

CliqueApproved.

Makes all the difference.

 

[Mia62]

You may be one of the more liked people I've ever seen here at Lit. But you're not widely believed.

See now that is just plain sad....or odd...I can't quite figure out which.

The truth, I guess, is a tricky subject. One lives a lie and doesn't get believed...then one starts living the truth and still doesn't get believed.

 

[Lancecastor]

There's a distinct difference between being popular and being credible. It's possible to be unpopular, but quite credible. It's the difference between people liking you and people believing you.

In my own observation, Mia, you have it just the opposite. Quite a few people genuinely seem to like you - far more than you give yourself credit for. You may be one of the more liked people I've ever seen here at Lit. But you're not widely believed.

That's silly talk.

Everyone knows Mia is incredible, whereas your suckboy whinings about your back, lifting things, having to drive in the snow or not being able to get a date simply lack credibility.

Incredible. Non-credible.

Two different things Jim.

 

[Mia62]

Hanns and Killer Muffin could say the same words in different threads on the same topic and I guarantee you there would be sharply different reactions.

Popularity.

CliqueApproved.

Makes all the difference.

Ok...in this example, I have to agree with you. But I don't believe that goes for all examples or all members of this community.

 

[glamorilla]

I liked DCL's post. I know, I said that....

But I think it's split. Good people do care and always will. Others will not, and may view their time here as less than important. Galm summed it up nicely - those people will never realize what a wonderful thing Lit is, and the joys it can bring to them.

thanks storm~i stole that from perky.

for me credibility...like opinions only matter from people i respect.

 

[Guest]

whereas your suckboy whinings about your back, lifting things, having to drive in the snow or not being able to get a date simply lack credibility.

please elaborate.

 

[Mia62]

please elaborate.

NO!! Please DON'T!!