Do you truly know what or who you want out of life?

[Mia62]

It doesn't really matter what age you are. Some people appear to know what they want from the second they are born. Others, it seems, take a lifetime to figure it out.

Do you know what you want out of life? Do you know who you want out of life?

If you believe that you have finally seen the pot of gold - what would/will you do to actually touch it? Are you willing - or not willing - to make sacrifices? Why or why not?

 

[peachykeen]

I feel like I've got pretty much everything I thought I wanted. I mean, life's not perfect or anything, but I feel I'm generally on the right track. The only 'things' I don't have, I know I can 'get if I want them enough to work it out.

The main thing I don't have that I want is to have a baby, but, you know, I'll be doing that reasonably soon, the time is almost right.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

Do you know who you want out of life?

this one is easy. I have a sign hanging on the fridge at my two kids eye level. "Checkout Time is 18".

 

[Guest]

I don't know exactly who I want. But I have a general idea of the qualities I would like them to have.

As for what I want.... I think it's pretty much what most people want. A chance at happiness. Short, simple, and to the point.

To find a pot of gold...you would have to continuously chase rainbows... Would I make sacrifices? That depends on lots of factors...there comes a time in your life when you have to think about all the options and risks...then decide.

 

[Guest]

I thought I did, was on track and the Wham!...right out of the blue....obsacle, big obstacle. So....you just alter the sites and keep going.

 

[penguindance]

 

[Mia62]

Re: Re: Do you truly know what or who you want out of life?

But what I want out of my personaly life? Eek. I'll pass on that one, it scares the hell out of me.

Does it scare you because you would have to sacrifice something bigger than you are willing to do? Or does it scare you because it is still the unknown?

(just curious - you don't have to answer if you don't want to)

 

[islandman]

I've no clue as to the former. As of the latter, well, she's fucking awesome and I'm a dumbass.


You heard it here first folks, I'm a dumbass.

 

[Kitte]

I thought I knew everything, but I realize I was mistaken.

I have no clue what I want. Other then to own a bookstore and have someone in my life that I can love and support and be loved and supported by.

 

[Mia62]

I don't know exactly who I want. But I have a general idea of the qualities I would like them to have.

Are there any of those qualities that you would let slide? Or do you hope to find someone with exactly the right qualities?

 

[Mia62]

Re: Re: Do you truly know what or who you want out of life?

You heard it here first folks, I'm a dumbass.

Yes, you are. But you do have a cute ass, tho. Now get it to where it belongs!

 

[ksmybuttons]

I have what I wanted when I was young. The problem is that what I wanted changed. I keep editing the five year plan.

 

[horny_giraffe]

I wanna make every woman I see
I wanna make every woman I see
Maybe make 'em make a baby with me
'cause I'm a heterosexual man
just a heterosexual man


I'd like to have kids, too. One or two, biological or adopted.

I'd like to get married to the sort of woman that I can talk philosophy in bed with. A woman that likes stuff I like. Someone who doesn't mind that I don't have it all figured out. Not just settling for me, either. I guess I may have to go on a self-improvement quest:

1. I've got to go back to school and get that degree, as much as it pains me to do it. The sort of woman I'd like--educated, smart--isn't going to go for a guy without the proper qualifications.

2. I've got to get a job making at least 40K a year, so I can afford to buy a house. I don't think I want the sort of woman that would settle for a trailer. Plus, I'd like a house to putter around it. I'm not Tim "The Toolman" Tailor, but I like to fix stuff.

3. I think I may have to get some more travel on my resume. I could learn a language. That's impressive.

4. I'd like to write something that's actually worth publishing. I'll bet I can get a story in Asimovs. Just for me.

5. I'd like a greater sense of urgency. Ah, I guess that can wait. It'll come in time.

6. I'd like a more meaningful job. Maybe something in the Peace Corps. They require a degree, don't they? Can't be a missionary 'cause I can't fake religion. My architect friend says he'll want to open up a firm, eventually. I can help him. That would be cool.

 

[islandman]

I keep editing the five year plan.

Historically, 5-year plans never work. You just end up spending alot of time and energy building useless damns and bridges, literally and figuratively.

 

[yuppietowngirl]

I have been out of school...forever. And I still have no clue what I want out of life. But I am getting to the point where I will settle for just a decent job. I have a cousin who isn't even graduated from high school and she already knows what she wants to do with her life. Why couldn't I have been this way!!!

The who part is easy...I want S'Real forever in my life. What we have right now is good *s*

 

[lovetoread]

Re: Re: Do you truly know what or who you want out of life?

this one is easy. I have a sign hanging on the fridge at my two kids eye level. "Checkout Time is 18".

Me too.

 

[plasticman33]

People used to ask, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" I grew up and I still don't know.

 

[Guest]

what: to get my writings published and work for a major company, doing graphic art or maybe start my own biz doing erotic fantasy photography
who: havent met them yet but I know the qualities they should have

 

[intrigued]

Yes, to both.

My dream has changed little since I was a little girl. My Mom taught me at the age of 10 to cook and clean and take care of our family, and I suppose that struck a chord with me, because that is all I have ever wanted to do. I like my world small and I'm a "home body". I don't want to travel or have major accomplishments and I certainly don't want fame. I would like to be published, I would like to have a small gift shop/bath products store, take care of my family, and basically live off the land. I like to be self sufficent in as many ways as possible, such as growing and preserving my own food, making my own candles, bath products, cleaning products, and home decor. I don't need alot of "stuff". I like things simple, I like living in the sticks away from others, and keeping to myself. I do like living near a big city for those times when I crave a little action, but can only take it in small doses.
Maybe its from having so many bad relationships, maybe its just readiness, maybe its maturity, but I do know the kind of man I want and he is the kind that I can respect, that won't give in to me too much, has his own brilliant mind and perspective, and actually, a very strong will. I am a bit on the domineering side and thats probably from being on my own for so long, and starting out so young, coupled with the long line of domineering women I come from. I have my own way of doing things and I'm not used to interference, and I am far to used to having to be tough. With a man I can respect that will give it to me straight and love me in the process, I feel I will thrive. I need him to be open minded in his approach to every aspect of life, especially his emotional health. I'm through with "issues", I am all about resolving problems and moving on down the line. I need a deep bond, committment, and passion. I need to be wrapped up in us because when I am loving and taking care of those that are my heart, those I choose to have in my small world, I am happy, content, and at peace.

To answer the rest of your questions, the road to my fulfillment was always blocked by my "issues", my own self sabotage and my belief that I didn't deserve anything good, and my belief that dreams weren't for someone like me. It wasn't until I completely tossed those notions, and played around with what others saw as my "talents" and strengths that I began to develop a little confidence and belief in myself. It wasn't until I spent a great deal of time cleaning house, getting to know myself, and loving that person that I began to believe that I was deserving of happiness. Ofcourse, by then my life was (probably) half over, which makes it all the more precious to me.

 

[Monazwx]

I made a list earlier this year.
I keep amending it though.

*going to look for list*

 

[The Heretic]

Do you know what you want out of life?

At an abstract level, yes - I want:

1) To know the truth.
2) To live my life as I see fit.
3) Happiness - which includes happiness for my family.

Do you know who you want out of life?

Specifically no. I know generally the type of person I want to share my life, but I don't know who that is yet.

Are you willing - or not willing - to make sacrifices?

Willing and able - already have.

Why or why not?

Why or why not what? Why am I willing to make sacrifices? Because that is the reality of life.

 

[Rambrat]

I always knew what I wanted.

 

[Mia62]

I always knew what I wanted.

You are a rare find.

 

[Guest]

 

[Shadowann2]

All I know is that I want to finally be happy. I still haven't figured out who, or what, will make me happy, but I hope when I do, I am willing to sacrifice whatever I have to to get it. I'm starting to think I may be one of those people who is never happy with what they have. I always think something else would be better. It's frustrating.