Do you think

[Rick DeVille]

people spend far to much time talking and analyzing BDSM? This forum holds the record for the longest and most verbose posts in the small history of forums.

BDSM is ancient and natural – enjoy it

 

[morninggirl5]

Welcome to the forum, Rick.

One of the reasons for the verbosity over here is that many, many, many of the threads are started by (and often participated in) by people exploring BDSM.

The second reason is that there are a more females here, and you should know by now, females gotta talk about it.



And, maybe it's WD kinky psych major theory at work, too. What else do psych majors do but analyze and dissect everything?










Edited to repair my sleepy spelling

 

[cymbidia]

We discuss and analyze and pick-apart and perform minute and detailed inspections of our thoughts and actions and needs and wants and fears and desires around the subject of BDSM because,well, we're all obsessive-compulsive and...no! Wait! That can't be right!



Rick.
On one small level, i know a lot about you - and you know i do.
We discuss this stuff because the need for this beats primally in our veins, just as it does in yours.

We discuss this stuff because it fascinates us.
Just like it fascinates you.

We post analyzing-type posts because we seek the shelter of others like ourselves in an effort to understand more about the desires that fire our bodies and are rooted deeply in our brains.
Just like you, Rick.

Yes, it's ancient and natural. And we all simply stop, sometimes (often), and relax, closing our eyes and allowing the sizzle of need to singe over our nerve endings. We all cry out with the fierceness of matched energy when our need meets and mates with that coming from our partner.

But we talk about it, too - we don't just do it.
We have to.
All of us, in our own way, talk about this stuff.

You do too.

 

[Lancecastor]

Too much....

people spend far to much time talking and analyzing BDSM? This forum holds the record for the longest and most verbose posts in the small history of forums.

BDSM is ancient and natural – enjoy it

"Too much" is a subjective term, but I share your view insofar as I tend to prefer doing over talking.

Then again, as Cym points out, men tend to want to do, women tend to walk to talk.

As was also pointed out, there seem to be more women Here expressed as a percentage as opposed to Other Places.

And so....I talk...hoping to do. And to be more balanced, As Dr. Phil & Oprah would have us become. Grrrr.

C'est simple, n'est pas?

Lance

 

[lovetoread]

Re: Too much....

Dr. Phil

I's just loves him.

The second reason is that there are a more females here, and you should know by now, females gotta talk about it.

We dont talk more.

We just know how to hit the post button faster.

 

[MissTaken]

Yes, I tend to talk about the lifestyle a lot.

In some respects, it makes me feel connected to something I long for when I can't or don't have what I need.

Simple.

When attached, you won't see me posting nearly as often or as much.

So, I will talk the talk until I can walk the walk.

 

[Cirrus]

As long as the conversations progress, there must be something to talk about, otherwise there would be no further conversations...no?

 

[Ebonyfire]

people spend far to much time talking and analyzing BDSM? This forum holds the record for the longest and most verbose posts in the small history of forums.

BDSM is ancient and natural – enjoy it

You don't get around much do you?

I am on 6 other BDSM lists and this is nothing compared to them.

Ebony

 

[Lancecastor]

Dr. Phil

I's just loves him.

I think he's chock full o common sense.

Plus, he looks like Larry Sander's sidekick....

 

[Ebonyfire]

I like

Dr. Feel Good, myself!

Ebony

 

[Ebonyfire]

Let's be real

First , this forum is not verbose. It is just different. The general board gets my vote for verbosity.

Second, there is no more dissecting of BDSM going on here than in other BDSM forums in other places. I belong to three femdom lists and I used to belong to a TPE list ages go, and they put the V in verbosity, and it was mostly Dom/femsub. So it just depends on what your flavor is. The majority of postings on th eother lists I belong to are male subs looking for Dommes. Somebody needs to get off that "woman" thing.

We discuss the things that interest us. Is that any different that the other sex-oriented "baby suck my____ conversations that go on elsewhere? I think not.

Third, why does it seem to bother folks enough to comment on how much we are discussing things? Is there a hidden agenda? Does anyone ever ask the other forums why they post so much? Does anyone give a sh__?

Ebony

 

[Rick DeVille]

But we talk about it, too - we don't just do it.
We have to.
All of us, in our own way, talk about this stuff.

You do too.

You'll never understand it completely, that's part of the inherent attraction

I was just in my grumpy old man mood

 

[Rick DeVille]

Re: Re: Do you think

You don't get around much do you?

I am on 6 other BDSM lists and this is nothing compared to them.

Ebony

You put your finger right on the reason I usually stay away from BDSM forums

 

[cymbidia]

But we're irrestible, aren't we?

 

[Rick DeVille]

Re: Let's be real

Third, why does it seem to bother folks enough to comment on how much we are discussing things? Is there a hidden agenda? Does anyone ever ask the other forums why they post so much? Does anyone give a sh__?

Ebony

The other forums are worse, that's why I don't go there anymore.
I just can't find a pair of thigh-high waders to get me through the constant river of bullshit on the GB

 

[Rick DeVille]

But we're irrestible, aren't we?

I can resist most things, I'm a man of discipline and control

 

[cymbidia]

Of course you are, Rick.

Now why don't you go on over and have a look at the Favorite Positions thread? I think you could add something of interest to that one, can't you?

 

[Rick DeVille]

Of course you are, Rick.

Now why don't you go on over and have a look at the Favorite Positions thread? I think you could add something of interest to that one, can't you?

Now, you're not trying to tell me what to do, are you?

 

[cymbidia]

Merely a suggestion, big guy, one tailored to what i know of that which tickles your fancy - but a suggestion nonetheless, and definitely not a command.

I don't tell anyone what to do.
Well.
Okay.
Except for those who come in her spouting chat room crap.
And then there's the occasional wandering soul who thinks this forum looks like a cool place into which one can drop a personals ad.

But you're not doing either of those things are you?
Not gonna either, is my guess.
After all, you're not a chat roomer type - and you don't need a personals ad.

So - how about those limericks, anyway?
And LOOK! They're named after *you*! Limrick. How can you resist?

 

[Rick DeVille]

So - how about those limericks, anyway?
And LOOK! They're named after *you*! Limrick. How can you resist?

OK, you made me smile

Thanks

 

[KestralWolfe]

Well, of course we're a verbose bunch!

[rambling spiel] Some just want to understand why they feel the way they do, and are looking for a safe place to understand themselves...some just want to know that there are indeed others out there who feel the same way they do.....some come on asking safety questions, asking for help, to vent out frustrations, to know that at least here, they can talk about their kinks to others who have the same kinks, or will understand theirs, without ridicule. We talk at length for these reasons and so many more. And I find it a good thing, personally. I think it's great that so many are willing to ask, answer, advise, and share themselves, and their experiences with others. [/rambling spiel]

Be well, be safe, be happy,
Kes




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