Do you think that the principle that the abused will mostly become abusors...

[Starfish]

may apply to us here at the bb?

I am scared of myself.




Really though. Do you think that we on the bb might see a behavior and pick up on it and do it, even if we don't want to?

I am not refering to that herd mentality issue. That is usually just about timing, but I mean that of the kind which we really don't want..

Like making up alterior personas to escape the past?

Did I do that because I've seen others do it?
Did I open it up, because I didn't want to be a victim?
Or did I act out of feirce needs that no one can know but myself, but is now lost to me because I really love who I am and don't want to be anyone eles?

I don't know, but I wonder.

hummm....

 

[Starfish]

Disclaimer for those who don't know anything: I only made up one. I did not troll in anyway.

 

[teddybear4play]

I don't know. Since we're all well beyond our formative years here (or at least we should be), tough to say if what we experience here can effect us that much.

TB4p

 

[Starfish]

Well, I used to think that formative years concept has been bunk since it was first introduced. I've seen 50 year old men change thier entire way of life for the sake of others and happiness.
My father for example. I change constantly, always improving or at least getting a better grip on things.

I guess it is in the genes?

Are people really stuck in their ways?

I don't see it when the will to change is there, or the deficientcy of something needs fortified.

 

[Never]

Yes, I think that someone who is abused as a child is more likely to abuse others.

The rest of your questions don't make sense to me.

 

[sexy-girl]

all i can say is i believe im my own person what i do and how i act is because of me ... sure i have influences ... here at literotica also but me at the core is me and always will be

 

[intrigued]

Starfish, this is pretty heavy stuff. I am in a rather dark mood, so please bear with me while I'm trying to bear with you in figuring out just exactly what you're talking about.
First, like "never", I thought you meant abuse as in physical, sexual, emotional. But, though its been proven that abusers tend to abuse, I must be the oddball again. I was beaten for the first 12 years of my life, and raped when I was 10. Never have I laid a hand on anyone in any negative manner. If anything, I went to the extreme, and am extremely non~violent, though I have been known to throw my shoe at a door before, but I was in one heck of a rage.

Now, as to all the rest of what you said, all I can say is "I certainly hope not." If we can't just be who and what we are, what is the point?
If something is so bad that one feels the need to run and hide, then they need to address that, instead of these other non~options.
I feel like running and hiding myself, but it changes nothing.

I hope you're OK..inspite of whatever this is?

 

[alltherage]

I sometimes wonder how we get so damn deep here. Here is what i think. I think that if a person is changing persona's to hide from their past at lit then they have probably been spending far too much time here. I sometimes wonder who it is that is writing. I think in general there are many introspective and shy people who feel safe to explore here, and others who really do want to develope lasting and sexual relationships. I also think there is a segment of people who come to lit to engage in mischief, or to feed a need for themselves sexually which they feel is impossible to fullfill in real life. However, at the darkest and lowest edge are people who simply get off on using people and those people probably do change persona's often. They are the people that keep lit a diversion for me. I learned a long time ago that trust is very hard to give on the internet.

 

[Never]

intrigued:
"First, like "never", I thought you meant abuse as in physical, sexual, emotional."

Why did you put quotation marks around my name?

 

[intrigued]

intrigued:
"First, like "never", I thought you meant abuse as in physical, sexual, emotional."

Why did you put quotation marks around my name?

I'm sorry, I was only trying to differentiate your name from the word never. I meant nothing more by it.

 

[Saint Peter]

I do not feel abused by the holders of multiple identities. The stir here has been quite large. I come to Lit to post a few, look at some titties and have a good time.

One must take inventory of one's own demons. If you open up anther nick just to hack on a person then you are following the evil trend. It is all about intent.

 

[Guest]

I do not feel abused by the holders of multiple identities. The stir here has been quite large. I come to Lit to post a few, look at some titties and have a good time.

One must take inventory of one's own demons. If you open up anther nick just to hack on a person then you are following the evil trend. It is all about intent.

And conflict. Don't forget about conflict, Lenin.

 

[Never]

intrigued:
"I'm sorry, I was only trying to differentiate your name from the word never. I meant nothing more by it."

No need to be sorry. I was just wondering.

 

[Sandia]

Did you ever read one of those threads where you really wanted to say something, but you had no idea what to day?

Trust. What is trust, anyway? How much trust do you need to post here? To have fun? To meet folks?

This is a public bulletin board. There's gonna be assholes who post mean hurtful things. And peeps who just post what they have to say. And jokesters. And morons. And everything in between. Why draw up boundaries? Why put your guard up, or put it down?

The difference between here and r/l (one of 'em, anyway) is that you're safer here than you are out on the streets.

Nobody can reach through their monitor and shake you, or grab you by the throat...

Why not take advantage of that, rather than expecting or demanding that everyone will play nice...?

Does that make any sense at all?

 

[intrigued]

Did you ever read one of those threads where you really wanted to say something, but you had no idea what to day?

Trust. What is trust, anyway? How much trust do you need to post here? To have fun? To meet folks?

This is a public bulletin board. There's gonna be assholes who post mean hurtful things. And peeps who just post what they have to say. And jokesters. And morons. And everything in between. Why draw up boundaries? Why put your guard up, or put it down?

The difference between here and r/l (one of 'em, anyway) is that you're safer here than you are out on the streets.

Nobody can reach through their monitor and shake you, or grab you by the throat...

Why not take advantage of that, rather than expecting or demanding that everyone will play nice...?

Does that make any sense at all?

No, they can't grab you by the throat, but they sure can reach out and grab your heart and squeeze it to bits.

(Not that this thought has anything to do with the original context of the post.)