Do you teach your kids - that porn is good? Or bad? Or what?

[Sparky Kronkite]

Do you provide, "your definition of what porn is," to them?

What might that be? I would be curious to know.

Do you teach your kids about war? Violence? Greed? Jealousy? All the negative/bad juju, human emotions?

What might you tell them in regard to those “bad things” above? Those heinous, common travesties of our human condition?

When to do tell them about blood? Bleeding? Flesh? Life? Death?

What age is "the best" to start this education? In your mind that is. When do you “start?”

Here's what I think...........

It's all here. It's all a part of "us" - the people of this planet. All of it - is - reality. Therefore, to hide it - would be in fact hiding reality. And I happen to know – that hiding reality is exactly why human’s harbor and example negative emotional traits in the first place. It is the most common, root cause.

Hiding sex. Is the main reason at to why we have pornography in the first place? If we did not hide sex - there would be no vast need for pornography. Or perhaps better worded – pornography, “as it has so negatively/recently become defined,” would not be so negative – it would be positive. Remember “pornography” is a new word. The intent to sexually arouse via graphic sexual depiction has been around from “the beginning.” Only recently “have we” labeled it negatively – and created the word pornography.

So too……

Hiding violence, creates violence.

Hiding “anything” that is common to us all - and real – promotes at very least, curiosity – and at its very worst – a twisted and often sick fascination.

Nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing – should ever be hidden from our children. Never!

Now - I'm not saying one (you and I) should promote – “positively” promote - "any" kind of reality – whether it be good or bad. But I am saying that education of “real life matters” for our young should be done so - in a factual, non-biased, "real" way.

And - there is no "good age" as there is no "bad age." Education on these matters should take place when the opportunity to educate arises - opportunity via example is best. Opportunity "to show" not just "to tell."

And in real life - opportunity can come knocking at any time – and therefore any age.

 

[sexy-girl]

i thought you didnt like political threads


you made some good points though ... but also some points that have me thinking what are you getting at :

Hiding violence, creates violence.

opportunity via example is best. Opportunity "to show" not just "to tell

i dont mean to take quotes out of context im just not sure what you meant but do you want to take our kids hunting at young ages ?

i think every parent would and probably should protect there children from violence at some ages ... i do think its best just to be a approuchable parent and for your children to feel they can approuch you and ask you about things when there ready ... rather then you showing/telling them things when there not ready

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

If curious......

kids should know what hunting is - and who it is the generally hunts and why - and who it is that may oppose it and for what reasons.

Protecting a child from "actually violence and harm" is one thing. Hiding the fact that people do harm to other people is different.

Showing is better than telling?????

A car crash happens right in front of you and your kid.

Do you take advantage of the opportunity to educate? Or shuffle your kid away from the horrid scene?

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

And PS......

Politics? What politics?

I speak common sense.

Politics has nothing to do with common sense.

 

[sexy-girl]

hehe i just was kidding about the politics thing


and yeah i would shuffle a 3 year old kid away from a car crash there is such a thing as childhood innocence in my opinion that shouldnt be taken for granted


and i would never take a child of mine hunting or learning how to use a gun ... i dislike guns but i know thats a different discussion and i wont go into anymore detail


i agree with alot of what your saying but you have to understand children of all ages cannot understand everything and it can be bad to force things onto them when they wont fully understand them

 

[Stonedagger]

one prob

I have no kids!!!

 

[sexy-girl]

lol me neither stone dagger but it didnt stop me butting my nose in on this thread

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I would never say to force things upon kids - not even ice cream....

I would say that - you just never know - lightning does strike - and at any time.......

The concept of childhood innocence is born of wishful creation by adults who are completely naiveté - children have absolutely no concept of it. Children simply are.

There is no reality to innocence - not for anyone - of any age.

Teaching one "to use" or "to do" something is quite different from teaching "awareness." In fact - true teaching is nothing more than pure awareness. Teaching to do or to use - denotes programming. Teaching awarness promotes self-teaching in those made aware.

It's a good thing to "be aware" of guns. Unfortunately, in our society today - this saves lives.

 

[Ksss]

I think porn should not be explained to a child until a child is old enough to understand what it is all about. Sex is pushed onto kids way too early these days. As with most things in life, I don't beleive there is an exact time you should inform your children about anything until the moment is at hand and the child questions it.

It's not a question of hiding things from them, children have a natural curiousity, but on how to answer their questions. I have always been honest with my children when they asked questions. I didn't want them to know things second hand through friends who had no idea what they were really talking about.

Depending on how old the child was, yes I would shield them from a horrible car crash, but I would, and have, taken the time to explain the reality of what the outcome could/would be. Until a child can fully understand the concept of death, why push it on them?

As for sex...Answer the questions truthfully. Don't push more on them than they are ready to deal with.

 

[Never]

Yes but, how do you know what they are and aren't ready to hear?
Or when they're ready to hear it?

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Nobody's advocating "pushing" here....

On the other hand - I am saying that "reality" should not be hidden.

The general and best barrometer "as to when" would be the childs own vocal curiousty.

However - in the event of "early exposure," - the reality does need to be addressed in some fashion. You simply can't blow it off and try to pretend "it didn't happen."

If you are a good parent, on top of things - "you know" - what, how and when - to teach your own child.

If you don't - you should not have kids.

 

[teresafannin]

My philosophy with my son was to give him honest answers when he asked a question. We were very frank about sex education, violence, music, movies, just about anything you can imagine. I did shield him from some things that I felt he didn't need to see when he was very young. Kids mature at very different rates, my 9 year old niece still doesn't know exactly how her cousin died. Her mother doesn't feel she is ready to be told the details of that night, she knows he is in Heaven & watches over her every day. When her old dog died, she told us that August was in Heaven with Justin, but that he probably still wouldn't bring the ball back when they played catch. Most kids will let you know when they have questions, the key is to answer them honestly in a manner that is appropriate for their age & maturity level. When my son asked where babies came from, his step dad gave him this big medical explanation when all he really wanted to know was did babies really live in the mommy's tummy until it was time for them to be with their family. Spend time with your kids, get to know them & you will be surprised at how easy it is to answer their questions.

 

[p_p_man]

Feed them, water them, regularly beat them and get them off your hands as fast as you can.

But teach them. Nahh!!

Let the little buggers learn their own way, they won't listen to you anyway!

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: If curious......

A car crash happens right in front of you and your kid.

Do you take advantage of the opportunity to educate? Or shuffle your kid away from the horrid scene?

Da da da da da da da da da.. do the shuffle...

Now I have that song stuck in my head!

And I would shuffle a little kid away just as quickly as I could!