Do you share with others what you receive in pm's or IM's?

[lovetoread]

I never have.

Not even when someone tried to make me.

Its personal. Its mine.

I would never even think about looking at or asking about anothers messages.

Yet,it seems that alot of tales get told from the leakage of another's messages.

What I write should be known to no one but that person. If I find out that it is not,then I would never again send another.

What are your feelings?

Do you share everything with your partner?

 

[Lancaster]

Never ever ever

 

[Trail48]

I never have.

Not even when someone tried to make me.

Its personal. Its mine.

I would never even think about looking at or asking about anothers messages.

Yet,it seems that alot of tales get told from the leakage of another's messages.

What I write should be known to no one but that person. If I find out that it is not,then I would never again send another.

What are your feelings?

Do you share everything with your partner?

I expect the words written to a person to remain where I put them. There have been times I have asked if it was okay to share a thought with someone else . With permission it's fine.

In my case, I speak with few people, my partner is well know, and speaks with large amounts of people. I treasure the time with the few I speak to and I keep to myself what is said. She does the same. We have our own special time together, and that is what's important to me. There is very little crossover talk

 

[A Desert Rose]

Lance doesn't even read his pm's. How can he share them?

Rose

 

[Lancecastor]

Over on the BDSM Forum, there is a brisk trade in forwarded PM's and backroom fenagling, particularly amongst the submissive women. Always has been.

(Just think of your High School Dance Committee....yeah, those grrls...that's them!)

I have a huge cache of juicy PM's I have received over there, completely unsolicited, from women I know, women I don't know and women I'd have thought wouldn't be PM-ing me based on what they've said in "pubic" on the Forum.

Consequently, there's rarely a dust up where I don't know what The Big Lie is before it's told. It's funny.

The men don't do any of this, as far as I can tell.

It's handy to know what They really are saying behind our backs, but I don't participate in it, no.

I think it's skanky.

Slimy.

Bottom-feeding.

But perhaps one day I'll publish them here...."Forwarded PM's: Tales of Backbiting and Hidden Agendas"....a ripping good read! (before bed...zzzzzzzz)

Cheers;

Lance

 

[lovetoread]

I have no clue about Lance.

I guess that means he didnt read my hot and sexy ones that I sent.

I meant more like sharing amongst your friends or partner.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Over on the BDSM Forum, there is a brisk trade in forwarded PM's and backroom fenagling, particularly amongst the submissive women. Always has been.

(Just think of your High School Dance Committee....yeah, those grrls...that's them!)

I have a huge cache of juicy PM's I have received over there, completely unsolicited, from women I know, women I don't know and women I'd have thought wouldn't be PM-ing me based on what they've said in "pubic" on the Forum.

Consequently, there's rarely a dust up where I don't know what The Big Lie is before it's told. It's funny.

The men don't do any of this, as far as I can tell.

It's handy to know whay They really are saying behind our backs, but I don't participate in it, no.

I think it's skanky.

Slimy.

Bottom-feeding.

But perhaps one day I'll publish them here...."Forwarded PM's: Tales of Backbiting and Hidden Agendas"....a ripping good read! (before bed...zzzzzzzz)

Cheers;

Lance

you are calling me a liar? cut the bullshit and say what's on your mind pal.

Rose

 

[lovetoread]

The men don't do any of this, as far as I can tell.



Cheers;

Lance

Bull shit

Men do it.

Men are more likely to do it more.

I didnt start this thread for any other reason than to know if people shared their messages with others.

Dont start that shit here.

 

[glamorilla]

What I write should be known to no one but that person. If I find out that it is not,then I would never again send another.



*ditto.

 

[Lancecastor]

If your topic is Gossip, lovetoread, you can't avoid talking about gender.

Women love to gossip.

It's genetically encoded.

Men say it to your face.

Women say it behind your back.

Gossip is a ChikThing.

Period.

Bull shit

Men do it.

Men are more likely to do it more.

I didnt start this thread for any other reason than to know if people shared their messages with others.

Dont start that shit here.

 

[glamorilla]

of course there *are* exceptions.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=2775873#post2775873

i'm off to the gym....

 

[lovetoread]

If your topic is Gossip, lovetoread, you can't avoid talking about gender.

Women love to gossip.

It's genetically encoded.

Men say it to your face.

Women say it behind your back.

Gossip is a ChikThing.

Period.

Maybe in the real world,but on a porn board?

I have seen many men blurt it out all over the place.

 

[lovetoread]

of course there *are* exceptions.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=2775873#post2775873

i'm off to the gym....

Glam,I wish you and I did not play on the same team....

 

[takingchances42]

I would say that the same things apply to PM's that apply to private conversations in real life.

Confidences from friends are to be kept entirely confidential. That would particularly apply to identifying information here.

If you are friends with both parties, then sharing something that you are pretty damn sure is not confidential or meant to be kept private is fine, just like when you say to real life friend that "so and so said..." As part of a relevant conversation, not exposing anything or with any agenda.

If someone is a manipulative player and PMs you with something that is relevant to a friend that he/she may also be trying to play -- then friends help friends out, here as in real life...

 

[Cheyenne]

If your topic is Gossip, lovetoread, you can't avoid talking about gender.

Women love to gossip.

It's genetically encoded.

Men say it to your face.

Women say it behind your back.

Gossip is a ChikThing.

Period.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I work in an industry which is vastly male. I can assure you, men gossip. More than women, from what I've seen. My boss has actually asked me to keep my ears open for gossip to tell him so that he doesn't miss anything!

Gossip is a people thing.

Period.

 

[SilverVeil]

I never have.

Not even when someone tried to make me.

Its personal. Its mine.

I would never even think about looking at or asking about anothers messages.

Yet,it seems that alot of tales get told from the leakage of another's messages.

What I write should be known to no one but that person. If I find out that it is not,then I would never again send another.

What are your feelings?

Do you share everything with your partner?

Nope.

 

[Lancecastor]

Damn!

So you've heard then.

I thought it was Men's Last Big Secret.

Shit!

Who's the guy that squealed?

He needs to be dealt with.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I work in an industry which is vastly male. I can assure you, men gossip. More than women, from what I've seen. My boss has actually asked me to keep my ears open for gossip to tell him so that he doesn't miss anything!

Gossip is a people thing.

Period.

 

[Cheyenne]

Damn!

So you've heard then.

I thought it was Men's Last Big Secret.

Shit!

Who's the guy that squealed?

He needs to be dealt with.

I'll add that some days, the men gossiping is SO bad that I have to close my office door to get anything done! There is one certain officer who will come in and sit down to stay for a half hour or more of telling me a lot of stuff I don't really want to know. Every once in awhile he has a golden nugget in there of something that is a juicy bit of gossip. But most often, he is boring as hell and spends 70% of the time talking about himself.

 

[thumbs2_ca]

Nope

Personal messages are for me and the person I am sending or receiving with.
I do not share off the board either.

 

[oceanbaby28]

I don't as a rule... unless it's something funny like a joke.

 

[glorfindale39]

The key words here are "Private Message".

They remain private with me.

No exceptions.

G.

 

[cutie pie]

Just like a private conversation, PM's remain private unless there's permission to share information.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I'll occasionally share something from a PM or IM, with the sender's name deleted, if I'm unsure how to respond, or need a disinterested 3rd party to help decipher meaning.

Other than that, I don't share without permission.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I do not share what I get in PMs, IMs, or email with anyone, barring a few exceptions.

I'm one of those people that likes to know who I'm dealing with. I prefer honesty to shiny happy people. I know people gossip in PMs, I've done it, everyone has done it. However, if I get into a gossip session that ends up with some kind of malicious tone, all my PMs will feature this:

cc: Gossiped About Person

And I will forward those PMs to the person being gossiped about, complete with quoted replies and everything. I believe these people have a right to know what's being said about them. Particularly if the gossiper is wont to be nice on the boards and vicious in PM. This is why I prefer to do my fighting in public.

The other exception would be something that I believe needs action from someone other than myself. eg, suicide notes, notes that such and such a thing is screwing up, and the occasional, will you please moderate this or that for me? These usually get sent to Laurel.

Fair warning, if I have reason to believe that someone who has PMed, IMed, or emailed me will harm themselves or commit suicide, I will contact appropriate authorities if I have enough information to do so. I have done it in the past and I will do so in the future.

All others, no one--not even the StudMuffin--reads them. The Stud does not have my passwords. If he wants to see what's going on in my inbox, he can, but I will log in for him and I will deny him access to any correspondence that I feel or know that the sender would prefer to be kept in confidence. I usually don't keep those anyway. If someone sends me something I think is sensitive, I will read it, respond, and delete. I keep no records.


Lancie Pants, you know I love ya man. Really, I do. You're a misogyinist who thinks with his anus, but I'd let you eat crackers in your own bed if you begged me sweetly enough.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Lancie Pants, you know I love ya man. Really, I do. You're a misogyinist who thinks with his anus, but I'd let you eat crackers in your own bed if you begged me sweetly enough.

Reason #753 to be in love with KM.